Scarlett~ Your new car is awesome, and I can't believe I actually know someone who got the proverbial 'new car in the driveway with a bow on the hood' for Christmas. I thought it only existed in, well, car commercials. I agree with you that it seems like "I'm trying and I want this", especially in light of the original fight. You could totally fit an alpaca in the back of that thing, though I hope you won't have to!!! I'm glad that you're feeling so calm about taking another cycle off. I hope it's the last one for a long time. xox
January Queer Conceptions - Page 2
Insem cost here in the Bay Area:
Sperm: $560 per vial (washed, ready for IUI)
Tank rental for 3 days: $75.00
Trigger shot: $60.50
Ultrasound (one prior to ovulation): $136
You can see why we went with a Known Donor 3 months ago...
AFM: Temp shot back up but I also have AF cramps so who knows. For a brief moment I dreamed and then my body said, "Nope. That's it, lady. It's IVF for you."
I'm dreading doing injectibles next month and don't know what to do. We have two KDs lined up so it seems the right thing to do PLUS they say to do it prior to IVF so you know whether an injectable protocol works for you. I'm just not that into it.
Max: Your puppy is adorable! How is your ankle doing these days?
Seraf: I'm glad that your donor ("Conrad") seems good. He has a cute baby picture, and the description of him as very good looking, compassionate, and intelligent sounds like a winning combination! I agree that 11/11/11 would be a great birthday. Maybe it will happen for some of us!
Library: I'm with you on slightly dreading going back to work tomorrow. What are you doing in San Diego?
Starling: Your DD sounds darling. Your dog sounds amazing too! How cool that they are such good buds.
Scarlett: I'm glad you're still enjoying your time off. And I'm glad that your DP is giving you nice things, especially after the tough time you had.
Graceie: We pay $560 for each vial of sperm, plus $200 for shipping (that's from TSBC). Our RE charges $250 per IUI (but my insurance covers part of that for one IUI per cycle), plus the fertility clinic chargest $150 for sperm processing. So altogether we pay about $1000 per IUI, which means $1000-2000 per cycle. It's totally insane. I'll be interested to hear what other people are paying.
AFM: I'm still feeling annoyed at how long this process is taking (and wondering if it is ever going to work for me), but I'm trying to appreciate that I now have a whole week before I have to start peeing on sticks again. I'll try to be more cheerful soon.
Escher~ Biggest hugs. I know the 'it's never going to work' feeling and it's awful awful. Enjoy your peestick free week and try and keep the faith xoxo I'm going to San Diego to the ALA midwinter conference. Lots of books, book nerds, and book nerd related activities. Our book award committee is choosing this year's winners, AND we get to have brunch with Armistead Maupin. SO fab!! I hate flying and usually have gin and valium cocktail to make it through, so this will be a big challenge for me. Cross those fingers!!!
Scarlett-- Uh-Mazing! I agree with Library--I thought that only happened in commercials! Also, get the alpaca. Mothering is pushing them as family-friendly, and they are so warm and fluffy that you will save tons on stuffed animals later!
Krista--I'm sorry about the injectibles. Getting tons of shots isn't really high on the list of fun things to do! What will the routine need to be if you go ahead with them?
Thanks, Escher! I'm with you on the non-wait, no pee-stick week! *raises glass* We should coordinate fun non-ttc things to do this week. One of my friends invited us for a stout party on wednesday, so that's #1 on my list...
Gracie--We're using Midwest, so it's $200/vial (no shipping since we go pick it up behind the sperm bank doctor's house). We're in a trial with our dr while they get used to offering insems, so IUIs are $125 each. All together it's costing us $650/month to do two IUIs. My insurance doesn't cover anything until we give it one more try with the doctor, then they'll cover IUIs, diagnostics, and whatever else (although I haven't really probed into what that really means yet). I know that we've got a pretty good deal, but it's starting to add up, for sure.
Library--Oh, I wish I had a reason to go to Midwinter! Alas, I'll be freezing here. Are you planning to do a free-poster themed nursery?
AFM--DP and I had a very nice day puttering around. We went downstairs to borrow our friends' 1 year-old for an hour so I would feel better. She was in a very sweet mood and kept coming up to hug me, which helped a lot. Then we went to the plant conservatory and then up to the Bahai'i temple (both gorgeous). Tomorrow I'm sending in our new donor choices, although I'm still hoping she can rustle up another couple vials of our first choice (he's sold out at the moment).
Happy New Year ladies!!!
Escher/Isa - Ugh! Crap. I am so sorry. Looks like we'll all be back on track together.
Seraf - I am so bummed that we didn't get to meet up, but totally understand. I hope little Osha is better. Was it definitely chicken pox? Traveling is miserable for us as adults, so for the babies it's worse! I hope your trip was still fun and adventurous. Glad you guys made it home safe. And we'll def meet up the next time!
Library - I HATE flying! If I don't have a bottle of wine and a Xanax, prior to the flight it's a BAD thing. Flying is the ONLY time I'll take any pill, but it's worth it.
Krista - Tomorrow, I am going to ask my RE about starting injectables too. I am not looking forward to it, but we feel like we're running in circles without something 'stronger'.
Graceie - We use Midwest as well. My RE charges $240 for IUI, plus a $100 thaw fee/sperm count. I also have $65 in meds. I have insurance coverage for some of the u/s and doc appts. It hasn't been too bad, thus far. We only have $5K lifetime in fertility coverage, and that's being eaten up fairly quickly. I dread the day it runs out.
AFM - I am 90% I am out. I woke up this morning with brown spotting and terrible cramps for about a hour. Today was supposed to be cd31/11dpo, so I was shocked to see AF so early. (My cycles typically run 30-36, mostly on the 36 side.) I tested yesterday to a BFN. I am perplexed somewhat by AF - she came in with a bang and stayed for about a hour this morning, and hasn't shown her face the rest of the day. My thought is the progesterone is messing her up, but I am sure she'll be in full force tomorrow.
2EZ--What is with this month, anyway? I'm in exactly the same position (well, a couple days later, but still)! I posted about AF this morning because I saw some spotting, so I figured that was that. Usually my periods are heavy and immediate. But then for the rest of the day--practically nothing. And I've been all crampy. Which of course has me googling for pregnancy stories that come with spotting and BFNs on day 14. There are lots of them! I'm pretty sure there are lots of google stories about being pregnant in virtually any situation under the sun, though. Still, tomorrow will hopefully bring more clarity. At the moment I don't know if I should get hopeful again (my default) or give up completely. Oooo...what if this is a thing with our donor? I know we're using the same one. Let's hope he does some crazy spotting-but-pregnant thing. At least for tonight. Wehrli? Care to jump in with some particularly weird reassurance?
Isa & EZ~ OOooh, so exciting!!!! I'm excited to hear today's developments. I agree that brown blood is old blood, not usually the AF crimson. Everything is crossed for you both!!!!
Isa~ I cracked up at the 'free poster' themed nursery. Ha!! I am taking a giant suitcase with only a few clothes in it, so that I can bring home as many free books as possible. I also hope to use my giant belly to finagle early check-in for me and the gal I'm rooming with. I think if I just clutch it pitifully and ask if there's someplace I can stash my luggange and just rest for a few minutes or so, they'll have pity on me. I also plan to be one of those people who 'needs extra time to board' the plane.
I still hate flying though. The funniest thing is that DP is leaving the same time I am on Thursday, but to go to Florida. She's running in the Goofy Marathon in Disneyworld (actually a half-marathon Saturday and a full on Sunday, with a special medal for anyone Goofy enough to do both). So we're going to the airport together, flying in opposite directions, then both arriving back Tuesday. Wacky fun, with a dash of terror.
Come on new year bfps!!!
happy new year all!
ugh, sorry for all the recent bfns. :( hugs to all and better luck in your next cycles!!!
afu, we are about 1/2 way through dp's current cycle and just waiting for high or peak to pop up on the monitor. dp hasn't been getting much sleep since ds2 has a wee head cold and can't get comfy. i had the on-call week from he77 last week (16hrs overtime) and am a little shell-shocked and tired today. via our comp time rule i will get a day off so i am negotiating that with my manager right now. zzzz. can you believe that ds2 will be ONE soon? omg, this last year has gone by so fast. next month we see our re! i swear if i blink we'll be in our first tww for #3.
lets have lots of bfps this year ladies! :)
Aaaaannnd: No. AF showed up for realz. Ug. I think DP is taking it harder than I am--probably because I am just relieved to not have to interpret every freaking twinge for once! Back to the drawing board...
Indigo--I hope they give you a day off whenever you want it! Overtime can be so stressful, especially if other things (like sick babies!) are going on in your personal life.
Hello all! Checking in! I just read through the end of last month and beginning of this month and caught up with how everyone is doing. I am feeling hopeful that this year will be a good year for all!
Scarlett: What a great gift! It’s funny…my DP and I were looking at “baby cars” last week…we decided to wait until we found out how much more we would have to spend on this process first before jumping into a car payment (if only teacher salaries were higher! J) I have never had car payments before…always just bought with money I had…but with all of the car problems we have had (our car sits on the mainland in a parking lot…bad for a little Honda Civic…) it seems like something safe for a baby is a necessity.
Gracie: We are also going through Midwest. $200 per vial and (for us) $95 shipping/tank rental. Our total cost for the month of November was $495. We might get 3 vials the next cycle we try instead of 2…but haven’t decided yet.
Isa: Sorry about AF…. :(
EZ: Still sending positive thoughts your way! It’s not over yet!
AFM: Well, I have definitely been in a funk. People all around me seem to be getting pregnant…and today was supposed to be my first appointment with my OB to find a heartbeat. I am much better than I was….but feel as though I am in endless waiting. I decided to do a cleansing fast this week (I typically do a few each year) and hope that I can pull myself out of this. Other than that, waiting for AF to come (NEVER have I wanted it to start as much as I do now! ) :)
Lisedea: Thanks for checking in. I'm sorry it is feeling like everyone is getting pregnant. I hope that the fast feels like exactly what you need. Are you planning to try again next cycle?
Library: You deserve a nap after a full four hours at work! What is your work plan after the babe arrives? I assume you're taking the rest of the school year off. Are you planning to start back at the beginning of next school year?
Isa: I'm sorry. Sometimes my DW seems more disappointed than I feel too. What a hard process, for everyone involved.
Indigo: It sounds like you have been busy! Not too long now until you'll be actively ttc too...
2ez: How are you doing? Any news?
AFM: CD4, and I'm finally starting to feel slightly less gloomy. It helped to remember that I didn't really want a September baby anyway (it would have been difficult timing since my DW and I both work in schools). And I'm trying to remember that we'll somehow get exactly the right baby for us at exactly the right time for us. I just hope the right time is soon...
happy 2011 everyone! i'm in the middle of a ttc break until at least march, but i'm sending you all lots of good wishes and baby vibes.
escher12: i hope the right time is soon too. it blows my mind to think about how much time has passed since beginning ttc--at first our hypothetical babe was planned to be born before the grad program i am finishing right now. now, i'm hoping to be pregnant by the time i graduate in august.
lisedea: what kind of cleanse are you doing? part of the reason i'm waiting a few months is so i have time to set up a pretty intensive cleanse with my naturopath. do you follow a specific protocol? do you do enemas?
i forget who asked about $$, but our sperm costs $500 per vial, there is a $200 shipping fee, and if it goes to the clinic we had been using, another $75 storage fee. insems at the clinic are $290 each, and an ultrasound is $300. we sometimes did one iui in a cycle, other times two. i am in the process of setting up insems with a local midwife instead, so some of the costs will be less/different. our least expensive month cost $800, and most expensive was around $2200--all out of pocket. six months and counting. crazy.
for folks taking a break--i hope you all are relaxing, healing, rejuvenating, and perhaps drinking. i am feeling much more healthy and well, physically and mentally, after two months free from ttc. i also am looking forward to returning in a few months, and trying to grow a big, healthy winter baby!
Lisedea-- I had really wanted to wait until we knew how *many* babies there might be before picking a "baby car", but we're safe with this one as long as it isn't a litter. My big thing is I'd better be able to get car seat, stroller, AND groceries in all at the same time. The Sorentos are surprisingly spacious, I think it'll be perfect. Can't wait for you to try again, will you use the same donor?
Escher-- Glad things are looking up. #confession: I didn't want an August/September baby because I might drive a little Virgo baby crazy. (no offense to all you lovely virgos out there)
Library-- DId. Not. Want. To. Go. Back. To. Work. Today. (also, was it you that told me about "Water For Elephants"??)
Isa--- Ugh. Ugh. I really thought this was the month for y'all. I'm so sorry :( <-- resorting to old school smileys now. What's the plan now? There are lots of Alpaca farms around here......
Krista-- I say GO FOR IT! Wouldn't it be amazing if that was the little extra push you needed and didn't have to go all the way to IVF? Fingers crossed for you!
AFM-- Contemplating getting back into sperm buying game. We shall see. Other than that, wishing it wasn't a work day! As far as the sperm goes, we use California Cryobank. ICI = $535 per vial and IUI = $645 per vial. We do 2-3 insems per cycle, we're 15 cycles in. I don't even WANT to do the math.
Also, just to throw this out there because ya'll are the only ones that will understand what I mean. (and not attempt to commit me). When I picture my "birth" with this baby (yeah, the one I'm not pregnant with yet), it's winter. Like cold and dark early, winter. Just sayin.
rainbow--haha! when i first ordered one, i didn't pay attention to the size (didn't even know there was a difference) and got a large (!!!!!!). we immediately ordered another because it was NOT going to work...at all! I think i ended up getting a medium in the end after paying attention to the dimensions (and comparing to the one we had...). i think the main difference is in the width of it.
as for the cleanse....i normally juice. i like the variety of nutrients and taste--i feel as though i am getting everything i need to stay healthy while giving my digestive system a break. (i have a few juicing books that i used to follow...but now i mostly just follow what my body is telling me.) this time, instead of juicing i am going to try the master cleanse for the first time because it is more time and money efficient than fruit and vegetable juice (i feel as though i spend HOURS preparing the juice). i think if i were doing a longer cleanse, i would have juiced anyway...but since i plan on continuing this for only a week, i decided to try it out. oh, and i am still going to be taking prenatals unless they start making me sick. no enemas...maybe someday...but i do salt water flushes. it is amazing how much fasting can completely take over all thoughts in your mind...so similar to TTC!!! so...what are your plans?