Ahh...I also meant to respond to escher and scarlett...i would LOVE to try again next cycle...but want to make sure my cycle is back to normal. i am still waiting for AF...and think it would be smart to track an entire cycle (even though i might not! :)) we plan on using the same donor if he is available...i like his 58 million sperm count. :)
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Lise--I couldn't do it. On my way home from work I got hungry and the only thing that kept me from getting off at some random train stop in search of food was the promise of a clementine when I got home. I think waiting for your cycle to normalize is a good idea.
Rainbow--ha! When I go to the dr they always ask what size I am--just in case I know! I'm also encouraged to tell them how to get through my cervix (up and to the right) so they don't have to remember. Why don't they just write it on my chart? I have no idea. In any case, I think 'medium' is usually a safe bet.
Scarlett--what an interesting premonition. I hope it's true! Are you planning to jump back in next cycle, or take a longer time off? The plan at the moment is to do one more cycle just like we have been--no drugs, no scans, no nothing. After that my insurance will pay for me to find an RE and we'll see what that brings. I'd like a few tests to make sure nothing's wrong, and then I think we'll start easing onto trigger shots, etc. I've read some scary things about Clomid and cancer, but honestly I figure I'm going to get cancer from somewhere, so it may as well be baby-making. That, or bacon.
Have you thought of using some of the natural follicle stimulating tricks? Evening primrose oil I think. I'm definitely nervous about the long term health of my ovaries with all these drugs, but I suppose it's just like everything else, personal risk vs personal benefit.
HA HA HA HA HA !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! thats great I heart bacon and found a great nitrate free kind , I had it delivered by the case WEEKY during my last pregnacy .
Lise~ I'm so sorry you're feeling awful. It's a terrible, hopeless, frustrating feeling, and I hope you move past quickly, and into the land of being one of those ladies. xoxoxo
Scarlett~ We are sistahs in spirit. I wanted nothing less than to go back to work today, and have ignunt lunch duty, but there it was. I think a winter baby is perfect for you. Then you can be all bumpy in the summer and get to wear cute sundresses. And no, Water for Elephants wasn't me. I have the book but haven't had time to read it.
Rainbow~ Never tried to buy a speculum, but I'm cracking up at you and Lise's stories about them.
Escher~ I'm planning on working up as close to birth as possible, then taking the rest of the school year off. I'll have summer as paid maternity leave, and then go back to work in the fall. DP's academic schedule will allow us to take turns keeping her without need of day care, which will be a big big help.
Made it through the day~ we took down all the Christmas stuff and are now both trying to make plans for what we need and need to do before we take off on Thursday. So much to do and pack!!
Sperm-wise, I order from Midwest, so $200/vial plus $90 for shipping. I did one cycle with one and one cycle with two, and I fully intend to go to three when I start trying again.
Girl-wise...I'm very deeply in like. Yesterday was her birthday, but I was on call and couldn't drive to see her (she's two hours away), so she drove here! Yay! It was lovely, she started a new job this morning so couldn't spend the night but we snuggled on the couch and watched a movie. Still haven't had the courage to bring up the baby thing...and I'm not entirely sure when I should, to be perfectly honest! I guess I'll just wait and see when it seems right, and in the meantime, I'll live vicariously through you guys!
I found out today that one of the midwives I work with is about to order her swimmers, so I'm super excited for her and her partner!
I'm glad everyone seems to be doing reasonably well, and I'm definitely still hanging out!
Rainbow - We bought in bulk - size medium. If I recall, we bought them through a fertility dr on amazon.com. I want to say we paid $40 for 45. It's been a couple years, but I do know we have medium. I agree with you though - VERY confused when it came to size. Our are clear, hard plastic, and they're nowhere near as comfy as the ones our doc uses, but then again, what spec is comfy? Good luck.
Chiq - Yay for being in like.
AFM - Quick update: no AF, and still randomly spotting brown. (Nothing red/crimson in sight.) I am trying to decide whether or not to stop the progesterone. Tomorrow is 13dpo, so I guess it can't hurt to go ahead and keep taking them for a few more days. I have nothing in me that says I am preggo, but fear taking 'that' chance if my body still needs the progesterone. The flip side of me is saying that my body is naturally trying to start, but I am not allowing it to because of the prog. Oh, decisions, decisions.
Chiquita~ woohoo!! I like that you're in like!! It's nice to have the good feelings and potential, but nice to take it easy and be cautious as well. I'd agree that not mentioning babies for a while is prudent. Keep us posted! You say you're living vicariously through us, but I think a bit of vicarious dating-romance would do us some good too.
EZ~ I guess I didn't realize you were only 13 dpo. I'd TOTALLY keep taking the progesterone. In that case, the brown spotting seems like an even better symptom. Everything crossed for you!!
Chiquitayy-- How exciting! Maybe you could just bring it up and let her know that you were trying before, but you've put it on hold now for a bit....that way she'll know it is high on your agenda? (or maybe don't take relationship advice from me... ) Anywho, glad you found a "like" :)
On the speculums, yeah, there actually *is* a huge difference. It's really hard to "get stuff done" with a speculum that is too small, and it's really REALLY uncomfortable with a speculum that's too large. That said, unless you are a petite person, mediums usually work for insems. If you are a sasquatch, maybe try a large. It seems to be more about overall build. Young, or smallish folks will most likely go for a small. There are also different types of "locking" mechanisms, so sometimes it's a trial and error with what your partner is comfortable with. Good luck!
Re: Water for Elephants... Someone, somewhere said it's excellent and that there was a huge scramble to buy the movie rights etc. etc... It's on my iphone kindle app now, can't wait to start it.
Ez-- I'm sorry it's all such a mess. Make sure you are writing down some of these weirdnesses, questions for your next appt. I hope you get to do a medicated cycle next. I bet that makes all the difference in the world.
DP and I are going skiing tomorrow for the day in NM, hooray! Can't wait! Happy Tuesday folks.
EZ, I'm sorry we missed you, too. His spots weren't chicken pox this time either, but we're starting to worry that he keeps breaking out in spots. He now has pinkeye, woo hoo. If we get together next year hopefully we both have larger familitys by then. I'm going to try to talk Sara into going to Arkansas again this summer, if we can squeeze it between the Florida trip, the Missouri trip, the LA trip and the Kentucky trip. Hmmm, maybe next summer would be better, this one sounds busy already.
Rainbow, you need a medium? I bought a box of 10 plastic speculums, no idea how much they cost, less than a metal one. I have about 8 extra if you (or anyone else) want one. I'd be happy to throw one in the mail for you.
I got to talk conception at work last night, it was funny. Had a captive audience, I guess. They were asking lots of questions, so it was funny to look at if from the perspective of people who get pregnant by accident.
Hello everyone! I thought the calendar turning to 2011 was the right time for me to finally dip my toe in the water here on this lovely board. I have been lurking for awhile now and have been cheering all of you along from the sidelines. I am so excited to finally join in the party! I know that you all love details so here goes: I'm Kara and my DW is Nicki. We have been together for 4 years, married almost 2. We live in Chicago with our chihuahua, Lola, and absolutely love it. I am in grad school for community counseling and work as a nanny, Nicki is a recently licensed attorney who is on a job interview as I type this (fingers crossed!). We are planning on doing our first insem in March - using Midwest for the swim team and still on the fence about doing it at home or going to the clinic for an IUI. I am currently leaning towards clinic IUI. I have been charting and taking prenatals since September and I started using the non-smiley OPK's in November. I have read Brill's book and what seems like hundreds of blogs. Uh...am I forgetting anything? If you have any other questions please ask! I am an open book. And once again, I am so happy to be here!
hang in there 2ez that sound really confusing
AFM being inpatient and hoping the first time is the charme met with my favorite midwife yesterday and talked all about what I would want for my next pregnancy it was awesome I might be moving up my inseme to Jan just because I don't know if i can wait another month
MrsPP: Welcome! This is a great thread. I'm glad you joined us! I hope Nicki's interview is going well! What blogs do you read?
Scarlett: I think you should write a blog post about how to use a speculum. I have both a small and a medium, and I can't figure out how to use either one of them. Whose sperm are you thinking about buying? The dude who got you pregnant a couple of months ago, or the one you used last cycle, or someone else? I would love to have a winter baby. I hope skiing is fun!
Wehrli: I cannot believe that you are already in the third trimester. It doesn't seem that long ago that you got your bfp! Not too long now until your little one arrives! How much time are you and your DP planning to take off after the babe arrives?
Chiquitayy: I'm so excited for you with your great new girl!
Library: You're going to be able to avoid day-care even with both of you working full-time? That sounds ideal!
Lisedea: Waiting is SO hard after a miscarriage, but I bet you're right that it would be smart to go through a normal cycle before trying to do an insem cycle. My cycle changed a bit after my 7.5 week miscarriage, so that could happen for you too.
Rainbowvalleymama: Good luck choosing a good speculum! Let us know please if you find something great.
AFM: CD5. I'm excited about this cycle! October would be a lovely time to have a baby, I think.
2ez - fx that your bfp is just around the corner!
echer - october is a FABULOUS month to be born in!! :D librans RULE. lol.
mrspp - welcome to the board!! this is an amazing group of ladies. march will be here before you know it.
seraf - sick kids=no fun. hope everyone is back to 100% soon. :)
afu - still low fertility today on cd16. dp said "oh that's weird". i said, "no, you are tired and that is delaying ovulation!!" today's cbem stick still had the estrogen line dark-ish and the lh line is darkening. looks like her body is trying to ovulate. fx for high or peak tomorrow. yes, i am that geeky and can read those sticks. ot: i just saw the new lego mini-figures for series 4 and there is a FLYING V guitar punk rock dude!!! omg! and a cavalier with a foil (dp is a retired fencer). ok, back to your regularly scheduled programming. lol, i am definitely a lego nerd.
Hi everyone. Here but too depressed to do personals. Sorry. AF showed up. Again. I guess the good news is that 28mm follie wasn't a cyst but I'm obviously caring less and less. I didn't even take my progesterone pills this time. I feel like everything is perfectly lined up timing wise and I still can't get it. I'm moving forward on injectibles this cycle but I REALLY don't want to do it. I know I should because it's a good pre-cursor to IVF but I don't want to.
Also, a good lesbo friend of mine who had tried IUIs for awhile a year and half ago, is now single and decided to finally find a fresh donor, announced yesterday that she got preggers on the first try. And she wasn't even certain she had ovulated. She's one year younger than me. It always begs the question, why not me??
Good afternoon ladies~ so busy on the board!!
Krista~ Biggest hugs. Not only is that disappointing, but to have a friend give it one try and randomly get lucky is certainly a slap in the face. I think the injectible idea is a good one, even if you're feeling discouraged. Get all your eggs in that basket!!
Welcome Mrs.P~ This is an awesome board full of fun, fabulous women. I look forward to knowing more about you and following your quest. March WILL be here before you know it, and maybe you'll have a baby by next Christmas!
Indigo~ Yay Lego nerds! How fun!!! I'll have to look up the punk rock guitar guy, he sounds like a hoot! DP gave me a Lego Princess Leia keychain for Christmas and she totally rules.
Escher~ Yes, I think we'll be that lucky. We'll have an occasional need for some daytime care, but DP is in the Education department and has classes full of sorority girls studying Early Childhood who are always looking for babysitting gigs, so I think we'll have a big pool of candidates when the need arises. It's going to be SUCH a savings, and so much better for little Aspidistra to be cared for by her actual parents in her actual home. Hopefully cut down on random infections too.
Scarlett~ Skiing date, woohoo!! I've never been skiing, but I've heard it's really fun. And how cool you live someplace so convenient!
Seraf~ How fun that you got to school a bunch of people on the intricacies of TTC. A lot more trouble and strife than they'd thought, I'll bet.
AFM~ Ultrasound this morning and all's well. Chunky monkey weighs 2lbs 1 oz already~ whew! But we got the best pic of her li'l foot, which has what I call my 'monkey toe', my big toe slightly apart from the rest of the toes, helpful in pinching people and picking up small objects from the floor. So she's def mine. The doc spent a LOT of time looking at her heart, which panicked me, but it seems he just really likes to look at the heart, and she's actually 'anatomically correct' which is a relief. Also, still a girl, which is a relief too.
Scarlett—that’s the thing, this book I was reading had a woman who had used fertility drugs to have her daughter, and then ten years later was horrified to learn that she had cancer and that the drugs might have added to her risk factors. And all I could think was whether she would trade in her daughter for the lowered risk, since that’s what her complaint boiled down to. I haven’t tried anything, really. I’ll have to look into primroses…
Library—yay for taking down xmas stuff! My cube looks so tidy, if a little bit bare. I’m leaving up the cards for another week, though. Also, I had a string of grad-student babysitters as a child, and I LOVED it! They were all so nice and smart and cool. One of them more or less adopted me as her tagalong and brought me to her family holidays for years after I stopped needing a babysitter. I hope you have the same positive experience!
Chiquitayy-- Like is so good! I think the baby thing will come up naturally—hopefully she’ll be excited that you’re at that point in your life, even if being with her might mean you need to delay some.
2EZ—are you keeping with the progesterone? I’m sorry this is dragging out so much—hoping for a good result, though!
MrsPP—welcome to the board! Glad to have more neighbors on the board! If you need an option for IUI, we're going through Howard Brown, which we love. I hope Nikki’s interview went well! How old are your nannying charges?
Gracie—do you want me to move you to Waiting to O (or reinstitute Waiting for AF?) on the front page? It must be great to have your midwife already on board!
Escher—when do you usually O again? I’m looking at insems around the 15th, I think…
Indigo—fencing legos sound awesome!!
Krista—Oh, I’m sorry about AF. And about your friend’s news coming right at a bad time. It’s so hard to be happy for someone when they get what you want so badly and it seems effortless.
AFM—nothing going on here. Wishing I could get to the POAS part of this month…