wishin and hopin - i am so, so sorry for your loss. big hugs to you and your dw.
Good Morning Wonderful Ones!
Starling~ What a wait you must be having. I'm glad you feel so positive, but there really must be an extra mental factor to knowing that this is all you get. I mean, none of us like BFNs, but to feel so finite in your plans is an entirely different facet. I hope the rest of your wait is symptom-scrutinizin' fun and that you get the result you want. Congrats to your friend~ at least there will be squeezable babies around no matter what.
Max~ I miss my shiraz! Drinking cranberry juice out of a wine glass might help a bit (and help the bladder infection as well) but I'm sad at least once a week that I can't have a glass. Great joke too. One of my favorites: A skeleton walks into a pub and says "Give me a pint of beer. And a mop."
Krista~ Rock on to you and your excellent summation of what it takes to succeed in this biz (or at least not go crazy). How are you yourself doing?
Gelly~ UGH UGH UGH! Stupid criminal insurance companies. Just don't give up! I've also found it helpful when I was on the line with some random phone-answering person who seems to know nothing to just end that call and call back and see if you've better luck with the next call-center person who picks up. Some of them are much more knowledgeable and articulate than others! Best of luck xo
Mami~ Well done!! We did all our insems at the doctor's office, but I would have liked to try one at home just for the full experience. Good job, don't freak out about the cannister, and try and relax during this wait! Eager to hear your success story!
Isa~ LOL about the Superfund site!! I think TOXIC MEGACOLON sounds like a Mystery Science Theater 3000 movie. I like your joke too, it's a favorite in the cafeteria. My current favorite Knock Knock joke: Knock Knock! Who's there? To! To who? It would be 'to whom', surely! But then I was an English major...
Seraf~ Thanks for the probiotic tip, I hadn't considered that, but it should be easy to get some yogurt or something. I'm glad your dietary changes are working in your favor, though you're right it's best to be careful/suspicious of sudden massive weight loss!
TeamU~ WELCOME!!! As you can tell, this is a busy board full of wise women, so you've come to the right place. I'm sorry you've been disappointed so far, and your doc sounds like a treat! I also live in the conservative south (Oklahoma) and DP and I were lucky enough to find a sympathetic doc who's willing to bend/break the rules. Are you completely new to this site? Is there a message board for people in your area? Maybe someone could tip you off to a more helpful professional? I second everyone's caution about KDs. Many times it works out perfectly, but if it goes wrong it goes so very very wrong. Just as a word of encouragement, my DP and I used frozen sperm, one insem per cycle and after 6 tries over 18 months, the result is currently kicking me in the bladder, so it does work. Just don't lose heart!!!
AFM~ The tummy troubles brought on Braxton Hicks contractions so I panicked a bit and ended up calling the midwife hotline late last night, but I'm much reassured now. They told me to stop the iron pills until after the antibiotic, and I think that's already helping. Whew!
Gelly- Your beagle is so flippin' cute! I am a huge beagle fan. HUGE. :) I have a 7 year old DD who is a beagle. LOL. I say, Willameena, remember when I birthed you at the hospital? She just looks at me with her cute beagle face. She totally doesn't but... LOL!
Mami - Congrats on a job well done. It's kind of scary! DW got all scared after she did it and was so scared that she hurt me! AW! I actually think we hit our timing just right. I have been really good about temping this month and it is all lining up! We made a head lamp out of a belt and a flashlight with a clip. LOL!
Waving hello to everyone else!
Tea: I hope you're finding all this info helpful. I read your posts with interest because the more I research this and work on my own TTC journey, the more I want to become some sort of fertility advocate for lesbian women, working with them to go through the process at clinics.
In terms of your OPKs, personally, I think your RE is full of s***. His response to your second day of not having a positive OPK is ridiculous. The standard LH surge only lasts 12-24 hours. Your OCD actually led you down the right path which is that you tested twice within a 24 hour period. Experts recommend testing once in the morning around 10am and once in the evening because if you wait 24 hours, you might not catch the surge. So in your case, you may have just caught the surge before it dissapated. But getting a neg the following morning doesn't mean you weren't going to ovulate. You could have been anovulatory which means your body geared up, didn't ovulate and then geared up again and did. But again, all of these indicators cannot be used independently. They must be used in conjunction with other signs (which is where Brill's book comes into play). PCOS can play a role in screwing with OPKs as well. I too am insulin resistant and on Metformin. My sister was as well but she noted it took about 3 months for her body to really get the hang of Metformin. She is preggers with her second child and had a devil of a time ovulating.
You didn't mention whether you get an ultrasound before each ovulation. Again, another help in the information you need to gather to piece all of the puzzle together. Nothing is a sure thing, but more of it helps to decode that which is your body!
Is there any way you can see another RE in the practice if you're unable to get to another clinic all together? I switched REs and although not perfect, did feel like I got a better one by going to my original doctor's colleague.
I'll be honest. This can be a full time job. Some people don't feel comfortable with that or aren't able to. Some people recommend not questioning your doctor too much. Some of us recommend being your own doctor. I think you can tell where I fall. All I know is that I discovered my own luteal phase defect and recently discovered that no, I didn't need surgery for a small defect in my uterine by researching and getting other expert's opinions. But doctors don't like you to challenge them. I finally got a pat on the back from a doc recently who was a reproductive surgeon. I went to him to help determine if I needed surgery. At the end of the meeting he said, "You're doing the best thing for yourself that you can in this. Keep advocating for yourself. Don't stop."
Nice going, Gelly! What great news! You should never have had to try as long as hard as you did, but I'm so glad it is paying off (literally). I was so relieved when my insurance kicked in with the fertility care--I hope it reduces your stress and brings on that bfp!
Gelly, good for you for getting that all worked out!
Max, I haven't tried rice flour this go-round. I don't really dig rice flour and I have to drive about an hour to get special flours. I may hit you up for the recipe at the end of Febuary, tho.
Lise, no, I'm neither large nor small. In December my BMI was 25, now it's 23. This was my weight goal, but I planned on taking twice as long to get here. I wanted to start the pregnancy here instead of heavy (for me)
I was reading up on IUI and I'm really glad I'm not a cow.
I am not sure if any one on this thread is using MWSB but just in case you are, I thought I would let you know that they will be closing at the end of January. From what I hear it would be for 2 months but Joanne emailed me back and said it could be longer than that. I do believe you can pre order and they will be shipped but it has to be ordered no later than 01-31-11. Way to add to the stress MWSB.
AmandaMom: I think I have already set my mind to it didn't work this month that if it actually did, I would really be shocked.
MrsPP: We also scoured through profiles and strategically picked the donor we are currently using. go figure that after just one cycle of IUI the sperm bank is closing. Really? Is there not enough deposits? because from what I hear there is a lot of withdrawals. How much reorganizing is needed?
MaxK: Thanks for the crossed fingers! We just can not wait for next month to try again. Hopefully!
Wow, I am completely unable to keep up with this thread!
I do want to say I'm so sorry for your loss, wishin&hopin. Heal well.
And I'm sorry it didn't work out this month, escher! I was convinced! It'll happen..
Afm, I'm starting to believe I'm never going to have AF again. Still waiting....tick tock tick tock.