January Queer Conceptions - Page 24

[indigoscot]

wishin and hopin - i am so, so sorry for your loss.  big hugs to you and your dw.

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[LibraryLady]

Good Morning Wonderful Ones!

Starling~ What a wait you must be having. I'm glad you feel so positive, but there really must be an extra mental factor to knowing that this is all you get. I mean, none of us like BFNs, but to feel so finite in your plans is an entirely different facet. I hope the rest of your wait is symptom-scrutinizin' fun and that you get the result you want. Congrats to your friend~ at least there will be squeezable babies around no matter what.

Max~ I miss my shiraz!   Drinking cranberry juice out of a wine glass might help a bit (and help the bladder infection as well) but I'm sad at least once a week that I can't have a glass. Great joke too. One of my favorites:  A skeleton walks into a pub and says "Give me a pint of beer. And a mop."

Krista~ Rock on to you and your excellent summation of what it takes to succeed in this biz (or at least not go crazy). How are you yourself doing?

Gelly~ UGH UGH UGH! Stupid criminal insurance companies.  Just don't give up!  I've also found it helpful when I was on the line with some random phone-answering person who seems to know nothing to just end that call and call back and see if you've better luck with the next call-center person who picks up. Some of them are much more knowledgeable and articulate than others!  Best of luck xo

Mami~ Well done!!  We did all our insems at the doctor's office, but I would have liked to try one at home just for the full experience. Good job, don't freak out about the cannister, and try and relax during this wait! Eager to hear your success story!

Isa~ LOL about the Superfund site!! I think TOXIC MEGACOLON sounds like a Mystery Science Theater 3000 movie.   I like your joke too, it's a favorite in the cafeteria.  My current favorite Knock Knock joke:  Knock Knock!  Who's there? To!  To who?  It would be 'to whom', surely!  But then I was an English major...

Seraf~ Thanks for the probiotic tip, I hadn't considered that, but it should be easy to get some yogurt or something.  I'm glad your dietary changes are working in your favor, though you're right it's best to be careful/suspicious of sudden massive weight loss!

TeamU~ WELCOME!!! As you can tell, this is a busy board full of wise women, so you've come to the right place. I'm sorry you've been disappointed so far, and your doc sounds like a treat! I also live in the conservative south (Oklahoma) and DP and I were lucky enough to find a sympathetic doc who's willing to bend/break the rules.  Are you completely new to this site? Is there a message board for people in your area? Maybe someone could tip you off to a more helpful professional?   I second everyone's caution about KDs. Many times it works out perfectly, but if it goes wrong it goes so very very wrong.  Just as a word of encouragement, my DP and I used frozen sperm, one insem per cycle and after 6 tries over 18 months, the result is currently kicking me in the bladder, so it does work. Just don't lose heart!!! 

AFM~  The tummy troubles brought on Braxton Hicks contractions so I panicked a bit and ended up calling the midwife hotline late last night, but I'm much reassured now.  They told me to stop the iron pills until after the antibiotic, and I think that's already helping. Whew! 

[SharriKitColorado]

Good Morning!

Gelly- Your beagle is so flippin' cute!  I am a huge beagle fan.  HUGE. :) I have a 7 year old DD who is a beagle.  LOL.  I say, Willameena, remember when I birthed you at the hospital? She just looks at me with her cute beagle face.  She totally doesn't but... LOL!  

Mami - Congrats on a job well done.  It's kind of scary!  DW got all scared after she did it and was so scared that she hurt me! AW!  I actually think we hit our timing just right.  I have been really good about temping this month and it is all lining up!  We made a head lamp out of a belt and a flashlight with a clip. LOL! 

Waving hello to everyone else! 

[gellybeangrl]

Morning everyone,

Kit- Thanks...her name is Paddiey. She is fun...we adopted her about a year ago. We are also thinking of getting her a little brother sometime this spring or summer. She doesn't play well w/other girls.



Well...I could not Händel it any more, the waiting. So I called my insurance company this morning.....drum roll please, I got APPROVED! Yeah. I am ecstatic. I was so happy I just thanked the lady and hung up...I forgot to ask what "approved" actually entails. I'll have to call back @ lunch time and get more definite info. I just wanted to share.
Thanks for all the support as we waited to hear from the insurance company. You all are great!


Posted from Sprint HTC

[lisedea]

Wow! Lots of new people right now! I love it! One day of not writing in really got me behind…I will try to catch back up (by using a Word doc so it doesn’t delete on me before I am done!)…

Gelly—Congrats! I totally wish my insurance would cover…they don’t cover any infertility—regardless of sexual orientation.

Library—It is a good thing you are so good natured about all of these things happening to you! Glad you are feeling better and I hope that you have no more vitamin deficiencies or infections! Good call on the Sangria…I love Sangria.

Seraf—9 pounds?!?! Aren’t you small as it is?? I say go for the sourdough. That sounds like a great winter thing...I love making bread (sourdough is quite the process, isn’t it??) but we don’t eat it very quickly. We stick to homemade granola in the winter. Such a cozy thing on cold days.

Mami—Glad things went well! And you never know….the egg could stay alive for up to 24 hours so even if she ovulated, there is still that little window of time! If it didn’t take this time, as least you know exactly what to expect for next cycle!

Tea—Welcome! It looks as though you got most of your questions answered right now…it is such a tough process for us all. I think staying positive (I know it is hard…) is such an important thing to do for your body. Stressing out too much seems to have such a negative effect on our bodies…and might make it harder for that BFP that we are all hoping for! ALSO….listen to your body and use Brill (I totally rely on that book…) because to your doctor, you might just be “another patient”. And I am sure that your doctor doesn’t mind seeing you and your insurance money cycle after cycle….

Kit—Do you have a chart? I am totally nosey and love to look at others….

Rainbow--I do believe that it was the full moon the messed with my cycle this month! Definitely!!

Max--I totally drink juice out of a wine glass!!!! I always do that when I can’t drink real wine for some reason. It really seems to help. I, however, do not
recommend alcohol-free merlot…because even a wine glass doesn’t help.

Isa/MrsPP—Yea, crazy to have no pineapple, huh? I think the only fruit we do have are apples, bananas, oranges, and grapes. Pretty lame. I have lived in MI my entire life but never knew the island existed until I got a job up here….I have lived here for 6 years and only plan to move if they do not cover Danielle in my insurance plan within the next 5 years (before she plans to carry). It just doesn’t seem fair to have half of our family have excellent insurance and other half
have none.

Graceie—Today is the day, right??

Hello to everyone else!!!

So….5 DPO….twinges here and there. Went to bed at 8:30 last night because I couldn’t stay awake (!!!). Other than that, feel totally normal. Nothing else to report except for the fact that I feel so lucky to have all of you! Oh, and I did have a few sips of red wine yesterday…just because I wanted to.

[kgulbransen]

Tea: I hope you're finding all this info helpful. I read your posts with interest because the more I research this and work on my own TTC journey, the more I want to become some sort of fertility advocate for lesbian women, working with them to go through the process at clinics.

In terms of your OPKs, personally, I think your RE is full of s***. His response to your second day of not having a positive OPK is ridiculous. The standard LH surge only lasts 12-24 hours. Your OCD actually led you down the right path which is that you tested twice within a 24 hour period. Experts recommend testing once in the morning around 10am and once in the evening because if you wait 24 hours, you might not catch the surge. So in your case, you may have just caught the surge before it dissapated. But getting a neg the following morning doesn't mean you weren't going to ovulate. You could have been anovulatory which means your body geared up, didn't ovulate and then geared up again and did. But again, all of these indicators cannot be used independently. They must be used in conjunction with other signs (which is where Brill's book comes into play). PCOS can play a role in screwing with OPKs as well. I too am insulin resistant and on Metformin. My sister was as well but she noted it took about 3 months for her body to really get the hang of Metformin. She is preggers with her second child and had a devil of a time ovulating.

You didn't mention whether you get an ultrasound before each ovulation. Again, another help in the information you need to gather to piece all of the puzzle together. Nothing is a sure thing, but more of it helps to decode that which is your body!

Is there any way you can see another RE in the practice if you're unable to get to another clinic all together? I switched REs and although not perfect, did feel like I got a better one by going to my original doctor's colleague.

I'll be honest. This can be a full time job. Some people don't feel comfortable with that or aren't able to. Some people recommend not questioning your doctor too much. Some of us recommend being your own doctor. I think you can tell where I fall. All I know is that I discovered my own luteal phase defect and recently discovered that no, I didn't need surgery for a small defect in my uterine by researching and getting other expert's opinions. But doctors don't like you to challenge them. I finally got a pat on the back from a doc recently who was a reproductive surgeon. I went to him to help determine if I needed surgery. At the end of the meeting he said, "You're doing the best thing for yourself that you can in this. Keep advocating for yourself. Don't stop."

Krista

[AmandaHope]

Originally Posted by gellybeangrl 



Well...I could not Händel it any more, the waiting. So I called my insurance company this morning.....drum roll please, I got APPROVED! Yeah. I am ecstatic. I was so happy I just thanked the lady and hung up...I forgot to ask what "approved" actually entails. I'll have to call back @ lunch time and get more definite info. I just wanted to share.
Thanks for all the support as we waited to hear from the insurance company. You all are great!


Posted from Sprint HTC

Nice going, Gelly!  What great news!  You should never have had to try as long as hard as you did, but I'm so glad it is paying off (literally).  I was so relieved when my insurance kicked in with the fertility care--I hope it reduces your stress and brings on that bfp!
 

[maxK]

Seraf- Have you tried using gluten free flours such as rice or sorghum? I have made wheat free sourdough before. You just have to make the starter with rice flour about a week before you want to make it. There should be recipes online, if you can’t find any let me know and I will send you one.

Mami- Keeping fingers crossed for you that this was the insem that worked!

Gelly- Congrats on the insurance approval! Wonderful news!

AFM- 3DPO, feeling good so far on the progesterone. The ickiness is minimal.

[seraf]

Gelly, good for you for getting that all worked out!

Max, I haven't tried rice flour this go-round.  I don't really dig rice flour and I have to drive about an hour to get special flours.  I may hit you up for the recipe at the end of Febuary, tho.

Lise, no, I'm neither large nor small.  In December my BMI was 25, now it's 23.  This was my weight goal, but I planned on taking twice as long to get here.  I wanted to start the pregnancy here instead of heavy (for me)

I was reading up on IUI and I'm really glad I'm not a cow.

[lisedea]

I was reading up on IUI and I'm really glad I'm not a cow. [/quote]

Hahaha!!!

[mami2mami]

I am not sure if any one on this thread is using MWSB but just in case you are, I thought I would let you know that they will be closing at the end of January. From what I hear it would be for 2 months but Joanne emailed me back and said it could be longer than that. I do believe you can pre order and they will be shipped but it has to be ordered no later than 01-31-11. Way to add to the stress MWSB.

[MrsPP]

Yikes. I feel like I've been punched in the gut - we were planning on using Midwest for our first try in March - I've been scouring those profiles for MONTHS - this sucks.

[AmandaMom]

Wishin' - I'm so incredible sorry for your loss. Why must you wait so long to try again? Your attitude is amazing. You two are very strong individuals.

Graceie - Did your swimmers arrive safely? Almost time to insem! Good luck

rainbow - I do not do anything besides pineapple and green tea during the TWW. I will gladly take suggestions, though! I hope your DP is feeling better today. As far as cervical position, I just feel for it. There is a noticeable difference between low and high, but it takes a cycle or two to recognize it.

Library - I'm glad your late-night call to the midwife provided some relief and peace of mind. Little Aspidistra better stay in the oven until she's done baking!

kit - Fingers crossed for you! I often hear it's the wacky cycles that are most successful.

escher - Yes, I try not to have orgasms after 5dpo because of implantation. When patients are doing IVF, the doctors tell them not to have orgasms during that time, so why wouldn't it apply to us? That's my reasoning.

Isa - Any more symptoms? Sunday is the day of truth! Stay away, AF!

MrsPP - Congrats to your DP for making the top 3 out of 300 applicants! She must be a genius. I'm sure she just wasn't meant for that position, and an even better one is just around the corner. I would totally use those frozen pineapple cores in a blender with a banana. Yum!

Starling - I'm glad to hear you are feeling so content. Those symptoms sure look promising! When will you know for sure? And I probably missed something; is this your last attempt?

Tea - As you can see, you've come to the right place for answers and support. We all know how hard this process is. I always feel better after posting here. Don't get discouraged! Hang in there! By the way, I never get a positive OPK two days in a row.

max - That joke was awful and great at the same time. I'm going to start watching episodes of "Friends" today. It's the only show guaranteed to make me laugh out loud. Sending out implantation and cell division vibes your way!

Gelly - That's wonderful news about the insurance coverage! Hooray!

Mami - It sounds like your insemination went well. Remember, OPK's don't work for everyone every time, so your timing could have been perfect.

Seraf - Congrats on losing the weight, even if that's not how you planned to lose it.

Lise - We're both at 5dpo. Your chart looks great. Time is going by so slowly! When do you plan to test?

AFM, nothing new, not even fake symptoms. I'll just keep eating pineapple and laughing as much as possible!

[prettyisa]

Quick--Gelly! Yay! I am SO happy to hear that all your work paid off and that they're finally going to do what they're being paid to do! Congrats!

Mami--Holy MF*#$&@*(#%^!!! I wish there were more notice on these things. Well, I guess we were prepared to switch donors anyway, so can find a sub for Feb if we need one and hope that by April they'll be open again. But oh, what a pain!

AFM--really just hoping I'm preggo now, so I can skip all of this angst. No idea if I am, though. You know, I always feel kind of the same, and it's hard to know if it's a 'pregnant' kind or a 'not pregnant just overanalyzing' kind. -sigh-

[lisedea]

Wait! They are closing for REORGANIZATION! They will open up as soon as they can! Hopefully by March. I freaked out until I went to the website.

[mami2mami]

AmandaMom: I think I have already set my mind to it didn't work this month that if it actually did, I would really be shocked.

MrsPP: We also scoured through profiles and strategically picked the donor we are currently using. go figure that after just one cycle of IUI the sperm bank is closing. Really? Is there not enough deposits? because from what I hear there is a lot of withdrawals. How much reorganizing is needed?

MaxK: Thanks for the crossed fingers! We just can not wait for next month to try again. Hopefully!

[lisedea]

Ha, I see that Mami already wrote that they would be closed for two months...or longer...I only got to "MWSB will be closed" and stopped reading because I freaked out.

[mami2mami]

???? WHATS WITH THE PINEAPPLES..????

[Graceie]

Wow there has been 14 posts sense this morning I will read up all of it a bit later . I just wanted to chime in with I met with the doc yesterday her a dive was not to waste my mony paying for next day shipping and to next cycle when I can insemination the day of the positive opk and the day before and I'm glad I listened sense I'm really sure I o yesterday today's odd would have been crappy so next month ladies in another 30 ish days and I'm getting the swimmers here early !

[carmen358]

Wow, I am completely unable to keep up with this thread!

I do want to say I'm so sorry for your loss, wishin&hopin. Heal well.

And I'm sorry it didn't work out this month, escher! I was convinced! It'll happen..

Afm, I'm starting to believe I'm never going to have AF again. Still waiting....tick tock tick tock.