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post #501 of 594
Isa--Any ideas on what the sperm counts are at NW? I might call and ask...but don't know if they willingly will give that info out.
post #502 of 594

lise if you dont have to do an adress change NW cyro has been good so far they are 250 a vile so onley 50 more then midwest

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So quiet! I think lisedea is right - we're all still a little bummed. 

 

Isa - so sorry about the bfn. that totally sucks. I will be drinking with you on Sunday.

 

Lisedea - the website says they guarantee 20+ million motile - if it is not they will send you a new vial or refund your money.

 

Ugh - this whole sperm bank thing on top of the fact that we STILL haven't heard about the other job has made it quite the sad week at chez PP. On Wednesday we drank a bottle of wine and cried together. So silly. But since then we have had some pretty amazing heart to hearts and realized we have so many other awesome things to be thankful for. She WILL get a job and it will be the right one. We WILL have a baby and whatever bank gives us that baby will be the right one. Bright sides and silver linings and all that. Moving forward!

post #504 of 594

PrettyIsa: I'm right there with you. 11DPO and HPT says BFN. I even slammed it open with a hammer and not a whisper of a evap line or anything. I SWEAR! I HATE IT! Not really having any typical signs either of impending AF and temps are high but I'm pretty sure that will all come crashing down tomorrow. Too bad I don't drink!

 

Happy weekend to everyone else. I think we're all just battered and bruised. Sad since it's only the first month of the year!

 

Krista

post #505 of 594

well here to add to the depressing . I penned in all the dates for next cycle estimated AF estimated O estimated test day . then emailed my midwife the guesses for days and got the news that she decide she is uncomfortable working with me due to me reporting the midwifes from my last pregnancy to the licensing bored . FML

post #506 of 594

I'm not down!  Just couldn't get my post to post earlier.  Sorry everyone is down, tho.  I would be pretty upset of my bank closed.  I wasn't thrilled when they raised their prices at the beginning of the year, but I get that you gotta do what you gotta do.

post #507 of 594

Big hugs to everyone all around.  

 

Krista~ I'm especially sorry about your BFN, though it's still 11 dpo, which is still early.

 

MrsP~ I'm so happy you and your sweetie had a good talk, and I'm sure your life will be on a whole different plane before you know it!

 

Graceie~ Sorry you're having so much medical drama.

 

 Seraf~ A hug to you anyway, just because you're awesome.

 

I had a crap day at work because my principal is a 50 year old high school mean girl, and now I want some wine and can't have any!   Let's all hope tomorrow's sunnier xoxoxo

post #508 of 594
Isa - Sorry about your BFN. hug.gif At least you know you won't be paying out of pocket after this next IUI... but hopefully you won't need your insurance to pay for anything TTC because you'll already be pregnant!

Krista - Sorry about your BFN too. hug2.gif There's still plenty of time for you and Isa to get BFP's this cycle, so I'm keeping my fingers crossed! fingersx.gif

Library - Alice is a very sweet name. hearts.gif

MrsPP - Hugs to you and Nicki for having a crappy week. I'm sure next week will be much better!

Lisedea - Aww we're not cycle buddies anymore. Keep in mind it's often the wackiest cycles that end in BFP's! fingersx.gif

AFM, 7dpo and nothing new to report. I've got no symptoms, but it's early yet. I'm going to try to hold off until Monday to test. That will be 10dpo. My temps are staying high, which is reassuring. I finished my pineapple yesterday. I had been drinking a pineapple-banana smoothie every day for 5 or 6 days, and now I want another one! Ah well, maybe I'll have some green tea. Big hugs to everyone feeling down today! grouphug.gif

 

 

post #509 of 594
Hello to everyone! Big hugs to everyone waiting!

Isa- hug2.gif

Just popping in to say five days on progesterone and one day with an estradiol patch has me feeling really grumpy and short tempered. angry.gif

 

post #510 of 594

Krista,

 

I appreciate all of your helpful advice and willingness to help. I am sorry for your negative, but don't give up. It could be positive in a few days. I know...........I know..............I have been there, and I have bashed up my pregnancy tests too! :) In fact, I usually resort to breaking mine open and taking a flash light to them to see if maybe just maybe I have missed the "faint possibility". 

 

So...................................

 

 

I have a question for ya'll. I need recommendations for sperm banks that will ship to my house without a doctor's consent. He won't give one, and I am not paying for another IUI. If I pay for anymore help from them it will be IVF (which I may resort too................I am just trying everything else before we refinance the house to do it!). I am currently on Day 5 right now. When should I plan on inseminating? I have some OPK's left from last month. I thought about ordering one of those saliva test things off of the internet too. Anyone used one of those? 

 

I looked up the Northwest bank, and that looks to be the only one that I can find that will ship without a doctor's consent. Any help will be appreciated. 

 

I also broke out that book that you all recommended, and my girlfriend has been doing extensive research on the internet. We have a known donor who is also willing to help, but I am still torn about that. We have a contract drawn up, but we called a lawyer and she said it wasn't worth the paper it was printed on. I guess I just want a go at "fresh sperm" and he is one of my best friends. He is gay, and my girlfriend feels that we would have an advocate in him if anything were to happen to me. I don't plan on putting him on the birth certificate, but I know that legally he could still screw us if he wanted to. I also know that if he did, I would fight for him to pay child support which I told him. He says he wants an uncle type role in the child's life. I am just worried now that we talked to the lawyer. My girlfriend isn't as worried as me. She thinks that if I died my side of the family would try to take our children away from her anyway and at least using our friend would be a way that they couldn't do that. My family is ultra conservative. Anyway, I need some advice. The lawyer wants to charge us $100 to list the reasons that we shouldn't use a known donor. I know there are risks, but at least, our child could know who their biological father was growing up. I feel like he/she might hate us otherwise. 

 

Ahhhhhhhhhhh decisions. Well I need to stop stressing or I am going to mess up my eggs for this cycle. :) And then we won't have to worry about getting pregnant. 

 

The joy of baby making. 

 

Have a great Saturday ladies. :)

post #511 of 594
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Originally Posted by Teamusery View Post

 

I have a question for ya'll. I need recommendations for sperm banks that will ship to my house without a doctor's consent. He won't give one, and I am not paying for another IUI. If I pay for anymore help from them it will be IVF (which I may resort too................I am just trying everything else before we refinance the house to do it!). I am currently on Day 5 right now. When should I plan on inseminating? I have some OPK's left from last month. I thought about ordering one of those saliva test things off of the internet too. Anyone used one of those? 


Can you find another doctor or midwife who will sign off? My regular family practice doctor signed the California Cryobank form for us. After one ICI, we did IUIs at home (third one worked!). Before we got started, we had a quick consult with an RE at our local fertility clinic's monthly open house, and she encouraged us to try at home for six cycles before coming to her (since she'd basically be doing the same thing to start, but it would cost a lot more). 

 

We never used the saliva thing, but found that a speculum to keep an eye on my cervix was the most valuable thing ever. Seeing how open it is, versus feeling that, was very informative. Combined with CM and position and OPKs, we had a good handle on timing, even with my very irregular cycles. We got a positive OPK at lunchtime on a Friday, and did the successful IUI at about 6 pm Saturday (we'd planned to do it at 1 or 2 pm, about 24 hours post-positive OPK, but had a comedy of errors that delayed us a bit). It's a little less clear to me how to time ICIs with frozen sperm, as you have to factor in time for them to swim much further (and I think they have the same short lifespan as IUI sperm). 

post #512 of 594

Team Im useing NW they have been ok . I had a small problum with an adress change but they were helpful in getting it resolved . my first cycle will be next month

post #513 of 594

Amanda mmmm pineapple banana smoothly

 

Ive been checking out maternity shirts on-line today I cant decide between , star trek , Buffy , or my favorite " ask me how effective my birth control is "

post #514 of 594
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Originally Posted by Teamusery View Post

 

I thought about ordering one of those saliva test things off of the internet too. Anyone used one of those? 

 

 

We ordered a saliva microscope, but didn't end up using it while TTC.  It was straightforward enough to use, but it turns out that I have that fertile ferning pattern for over a week, so it wasn't useful at all in trying to pinpoint ovulation.  I ended up using a combination of OPKs and monitoring cervical position and cervical mucus, and that worked out pretty well.

 

It might be different for you, though.

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Where did you order your speculum from? When did you start monitoring your cervix? I guess after your period? That might be something worth looking into for us. 

 

 

Thanks for help! 

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Tea--Amazon! smile.gif
post #517 of 594
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Originally Posted by Teamusery View Post

Where did you order your speculum from? When did you start monitoring your cervix? I guess after your period? That might be something worth looking into for us. 

 

 

Thanks for help! 

 

Yep, Amazon. I personally got this one, and it's worked well - http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B000F1SSEY/ref=oss_product

 

I'd start monitoring after my period ended, and checked it every night before bed during the first cycle, to have a sense of how it changed, and to see how many days it takes to fully open. Once I had a better idea of what to expect, I could wait until it was almost time to start using OPKs (maybe a week before you think you might ovulate?), and compare it to what we observed the cycle before. It's pretty fascinating! 

post #518 of 594
Hi, Everyone!

Isa: I'm sorry you got a bfn. Your temp looks steady today, so I still have my fingers crossed for you, but I know it is disappointing to get a negative test. It sounds like you have a good plan for moving forward if that is needed. Hopefully you'll get some exciting news in the next couple of days! fingersx.gif

Lisedea: Are you feeling convinced that you ovulated on CD18? I know that is what FF says (it looks like based on your temps and your opk), but it looks equally likely to me (based on your temps and your CM) that you ovulated on CD15. Anyway, either way I think your timing could have been good--either right on time or nice and early. fingersx.gif

MrsPP: I'm sorry that you're feeling down about maybe needing to switch sperm banks. I hope you can find a new bank that is perfect for you. You still have plenty of time.

Krista: I love that you hammer open your HPTs. Good to show them who is boss. orngtongue.gif 11dpo is still early. I can't access your chart so I don't know how your temps are doing (I think you should use FF so I can stalk you), but I think you're still definitely in the game. fingersx.gif

Graceie: I'm sorry that your midwife isn't willing to work with you. What a pain. Do you have a plan on who you'll use instead, or will you need to look around? I bet there are lots of options in Seattle.

Seraf: My bank just raised their prices too, but I agree that you have to do what you have to do. shrug.gif Are you insemming next cycle or waiting for the cycle after that?

Library: I'm sorry that your principal is a jerk. Mean principals can make schools very hard places to work. hug.gif

AmandaMom: Your temps are beautiful! fingersx.gif

Max: Progesterone makes me incredibly impatient and unfriendly. I'm sorry that you're experiencing that too. I find that it does help to eat very regularly. hug.gif

Teamusery: I second the recommendation to look for another doctor who will sign off for you, since that will give you a lot more options on what bank to use. When do you usually ovulate? Are you charting (temp, cervical position and texture, cervical mucus, etc.)? That should be useful in helping you decide when to start using opks and when to start insemming. I haven't had luck in seeing a pattern using the saliva microscope, but I know that they work well for some women. I agree with Amy that looking at or feeling your cervix is incredibly useful and definitely worth doing. I ordered my speculum (that I don't use) here just because I found all the options on amazon overwhelming. I start monitoring my cervix by touch as soon as my period ends. Good luck!

AFM: CD5. I'm having all sorts of mixed up feelings these day---hopeful that it will work soon, frustrated that it hasn't worked already, trusting that we'll end up with the right baby for us, angry that we're not having a baby soon, envious of people who are pregnant, grateful that we have the resources to keep going with this crazy process, etc. About a week or so more until we insem again!

 

 

 

post #519 of 594
Isa--How are you feeling today? I am sorry about your BFN...greensad.gif but your temps still look good....
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Library, a good boss or a bad boss makes all the difference. Hugs right back at you.

 

AmandaMom, I had a pineapple banana smoothie for you this morning.

 

Max, grumpy is a hard way to be. 10 more weeks on it will be a riot, yeah?

 

Tea, my family doc signed my form. It just said something like, "I am monitoring _______ and it's ok to ship sperm to her home address." She just gave me a very basic physical and asked if I was going to drink once I got pregnant. On the known donor front, I have one of each. My son came from a bank, my daughter from a friend. I'm using frozen again. We have a great relationship with her donor, but we met his parents. She looks just like him and his mom knew immediately. She has been cool about it but it was a huge stress at the time. If she wanted to, she could give me some trouble. The contracts aren't worth the paper here. We didn't draw one up because of it. At one point we were really broke and got a medical card for the kids and they were ready to hunt someone down for child support. Because I don't have paperwork from the bank on her, that caused us all some stress. Known donor relationships can go really well, but there is a lot more risk involved, basically. Rainbow flag sperm bank releases the identity of the donor at 3 months, I think. I didn't go with them because their application annoyed me, tho. (I think they also cost less, but I could be wrong)

 

Graceie, now I have to google buffy maternity shirts.

 

Escher, where did your screen name come from? It makes me think of eschar, which is not attractive, so I always wonder. I am trying this coming cycle, as in, 2.5 weeks from now. Just as soon as I start my period I get to count it down! The sperm is ordered, I'm glad we got the January guy, because the Feb guy does nothing for me. So Freaking Excited.  You and I will be in the tww together for about 10 minutes.

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