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post #421 of 521

i am feeling really blessed that we have not had sickness here. after reading what so many of you are dealing with. not that we haven't had people trying to give us ickiness, but somehow we have been able to kick major butt on that front at least.

 

so tired of dealing with this house mess. talk to one person and they say one thing and someone else says something else, and so and so won't do this till this is done. the only bright light is our servpro guy (the clean up crew) he is so helpful and honest. i wish i could actually meet him. lol 

dh was also being really sweet. there is really only so much we can do and then that is all. we don't have anywhere near the money needed to fix the place or to heat it if the insurance says ok. and i am not even looking forward to the water bill. god only knows how much water was spewing into the house for how many days. i am hoping to be able to work something out so we can pay the bill over three months or something (depending on how bad it is). 

 

anyway i made brownies cuz that is way more fun then dealing with that mess. LOL and i am hankering for some sort of asian food, so i think i will have to see what we have in the house and then whip something up... gonna have green beans in it for sure though. lol

 

all this stress has also made me more cleany. LOL i organized our files, a "junk" drawer and i am going to clean the bathrooms and maybe tackle the boys room. oh and vacuum. (i love to vacuum, it always feels so rewarding when it is done.)

 

((hugs)) to all who need them or want them. :)

 

h

post #422 of 521
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Originally Posted by liza-s View Post

Can somebody explain exactly how we are in the last week of January?????? 

 

I hope everybody has a great week. 


SOrry,  I got nuttin'  ROTFLMAO.gif  Suddenly it's just damn near FEBRUARY!?!?!?



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cari: OUCH! i hope it heals up quickly. and your dh, lol sorry but really? upset at you for him crushing your arm. what a goob!

 

well the insurance people are out to look at the house today (finally the weather is ok enough for them to drive) so we will see. trying not to stress about it. i guess if worse comes to worse we will just have to let the house go 

h

Thanks :)  For the well wishes AND the comisserations on dh's dingyness!    He did feel really bad lol.    I'm glad the insurance can finally have a look, I REALLY hope they will cover it.  You did all the right things, you should not have to have a walk away on your history :(



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anyway i made brownies cuz that is way more fun then dealing with that mess. LOL and i am hankering for some sort of asian food, so i think i will have to see what we have in the house and then whip something up... gonna have green beans in it for sure though. lol

 h



brownies... excellent strategy!  lol 

 

My arm is actually better than I thought it'd be... it's VERY bruised and the tissue is firm and a bit warm and quite SORE obviously.  But I can drive and do most normal stuff without too much pain.. just a dull roar of an ache.   So I'm off to work in a few hours.. but first I must go pick up the kids at 245, come home, THEN go to work.    I am exhausted... really could ave used a nap, I woke up at 508am sore & unable to get comfortable or go back to sleep.  Now I'll be awake till 11pm *cry*    Tomorrow is Australia day (sorta like july 4) so at least daim won't be working and I can hopefully actually sleep. 

 

Today when we dropped the boys off, Quinn was SO sad that he started asking to go to kindy.  He nagged me incessantly about calling his kindy so when we got home, I rang a preschool, and we went in to visit for an hour or so.  He had such a good time he did not want to leave (of course)  So he wailed half way home *sigh*  I've got the paperwork and have set him up to go for a few hours on thursday :)  COnvenient as I have a meeting at work to set our rosters permanently and I REALLY needed to be there!    It's about 100 a week for the 3 days after our child care subsidy.. BUT apparently now, since I work, I will get 50% of our out of pocket child care expenses back either quarterly or in a lump sum at the end of the year!  How cool is that! thumb.gif

 

GOing to take some nurofen for this arm, and the headache that is attempting to spawn after being out in the sun/heat.. might sit and relax in the dark for 20mins then head out to get the boys :)  Have a good one mamas!

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I spent a couple of hours just laying in my bed with quinn having a cuddle :)  That was nice.. I was a bit teary at times... but the boys say they had a great day!   They both said they made lots of friends and like their teachers.  Quinn wants to go to kindy now (preschool) lol  so if he keeps nagging at me, I  will have to have a serious look at preschools nearby lol  THEN I will be completely a wreck!
 

So good to hear the boys had a good time at school.  I remember how tough it was for me when my guys went to school.

 

 

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I've had a couple of long conversations this week that have left me so incredibly grateful to have the spouse I have.  A week ago I was joking with a friend "aren't you glad we aren't married to idiots or *coprolites*  Well, I'm growing in my gratitude.  I am so happy that I have a partner who is has gainful and stable employment; is sober and does not struggle with addictions; would never hit me or the kids; has a strong sense of morals and ethics; loves being a dad and is an active and engaged parent and is a partner to me in every way. 

 

I'm not sure what is up with the universe but it seems that most of my IRL friends are dealing with some pretty big partner issues.  In at least one case, the "issues" that have come up will likely affect my friendship. It sucks. 

 

 On Thursday he was eating snow at school, unfortunately it was on a metal rail on the playground and he got is tongue stuck. It was really ugly and I had to come by with ibuprofen so he could eat (and popsicles for him and his class for afternoon snack), luckily it looks a little red still but all the "scabs" have healed.  I think it was worse for all the adults who saw it than it was for him. 

 

I hope everybody has a great week. 



Three cheers for great partners/hubby's.  I too have a wonderful DH and sometimes forget that.  Must take the time to let him know:)  Your poor little one, hope he feels better.


 


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Just popping in, sick as #$%^ but wanted to send hugs hug2.gif and good stuff to Clay! (And all of the rest of us too!) grouphug.gif

 

Heading to my new dr today for the appt I've been waiting for for 2 months or so. We're really hoping we can get some real answers finally regarding the autoimmune disorders, heart problem, and so on. 



Hope you feel better and the Dr. has the answers for you.



 

 

Clay sending tons of get well vibes your way. 

post #424 of 521

Morning:)

 

Oh my gosh was yesterday just one of the coldest days ever!!  Today it's not too bad but it's snowing again:(  I know I have mentioned it before but I am in need of some Spring!!  It is starting to get to me all these dark cold days.  I need to open a window and hear some birds singing.

 

post #425 of 521

Clay, many good thoughts coming your way. That's a heck of a lot to deal with.

 

UnschoolinMA-same to you. Hope you feel better and get answers.

 

We all have colds here. Yay:/ But I've managed to go 4 days without coffee...with the help of tea. I had read this article that some people react to coffee as a cross-reaction to gluten. So I'm trying it to see if that's the case. I'm not sure how long I should give it up for though for a real test.

post #426 of 521

Morning. Dang it was bitter cold yesterday! And now more white crap is falling! What the heck man!? I have work, then a meeting with my manager and then I go to see my doctor! What a long day! Hopefully I will actually talk to him about all the stuff thats wrong with me. I always go with a list of things wrong and then omit half of it. :/

post #427 of 521

UnschoolinMa- Hope you get answers, how long have you been working at your diagnosis, noticing symptons/concerns.

 

Clay- *hugs* Are the kiddos better?

You are dealing with so much right now...hang in there sweetie, maybe Weds will provide some resolve (though it comes with its own concerns, doesn't it?)

 

Nothing much to report.The girls are having their first real sleepover this weekend, so we need to get ready for that.

post #428 of 521

I just realized it's been a week since I've signed into MDC.  Back to school, stressing just a tad because I have gotten my financial aid refund yet, so no money for books.  And my school doesn't do book vouchers.  So I am already a week behind in reading.  Bleh.

 

But other than that, FRIGID weather and getting tired of being the one stuck shoveling since it always seems to snow when DP is at work (oh my back), all is pretty well in my little bubble.

 

I am going to try to catch up... we'll see.

post #429 of 521

i had some contractions last nite! of course everything stopped as the sun came up, but still. good sign. 

 

the whole house mess is pissing me off. the main insurance guy in IL wants me to resend the gas bills/stubs because one was wrinkled. he says the most important info was on the wrinkled part. NO IT ISN'T! that is the part that tells me we have 30 days to pay, the most important info is fine and he can read it. UGH! i swear to all the gods i am about to freaking go nuts. either we had enough oil (in their opinion) or we didn't. just make up your mind. then the guy who went to the maine house told the clean up people to just keep working. LOL not your job buddy. until we have an ok your gonna pay. the clean up guy called and told me that. he is so good. i told him as of right now he needs to stop because we can't pay anymore at this point. we also decided to ask the bank (if this is all covered) to pay the heating oil bill while the house is being repaired, if they say no, then we are going to try and get a deed in lieu of foreclosure. so we will see. dh has been so sweet. last night he said "this is all nothing, we will get thru this and be ok" which is big for him, our credit score is getting totally trashed and we may not be able to buy a car or a house for at least 7 years after this, which most of the time i am like who cares about the darn number and dh is all crazy about it. makes me feel better.

 

i have been having alot of guilt about the whole move to maine thing. we moved because i was having a major fit due to PPD. i threatened to leave dh, take the kids and do it without him. so he came along, and we tired to make something from that. i could just kick myself, who makes a major life choice like that while in the middle of a major depression? he was so sweet to go a long, and still stand by me as the whole freakin' thing falls a part. i am not sure i would be as strong as him. he really is a good guy. i have been trying to to get all crying about it, i feel so bad for screwing up this big. 

 

h

post #430 of 521
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Originally Posted by CariOfOz View Post

BUT apparently now, since I work, I will get 50% of our out of pocket child care expenses back either quarterly or in a lump sum at the end of the year!  How cool is that! thumb.gif


That's fabulous that you'll be getting half of it back!!

 



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Morning:)

 

Oh my gosh was yesterday just one of the coldest days ever!!  Today it's not too bad but it's snowing again:(  I know I have mentioned it before but I am in need of some Spring!!  It is starting to get to me all these dark cold days.  I need to open a window and hear some birds singing.

 


Ye gods, I'm so darn (really wanted to cuss) sick of winter.  This year has been awful.  So awful, that people are talking about the apocalypse (ok, that part is funny.)  I just want to cry that we are getting another 18" Wedn night/Thursday.  And what the heck is up with the -23 degrees in New England?! 

This morning at drop off, it was 10 degrees.  I felt thankful for that.  Crazy.  Yet, it's snowing again today.

I want to move south.

 


Mamaofthree- Hopefully you'll be holding your sweet new baby soon!

 

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i had some contractions last nite! of course everything stopped as the sun came up, but still. good sign. 

 

 

post #431 of 521

((((Mo3))))

 

 

I'm feeling sad and depressed. Missing my mom... She always called on my birthday and now the phone is not going to ring... I don't know why but this is the hardest hit since she died.

post #432 of 521

NOW let's see if the reply feature works...gad, I tried to reply before and none of the quote buttons worked, nor did the submit button irked.gif Testing 123!!

 

 

ETA: Yay, it worked!!

post #433 of 521

So... sorry I didn't reply individually to everybody, then; I was just so annoyed at the buttons not working. MO3, You'll be having your baby soon! How exciting!

 

DOK-- I wish you could buy my house. It hasn't been all that warm, for the SE, but it's way warmer than where you are! M told me yesterday morning it was -16 when he was getting ready for work. I don't know how in the world his car started.

 

Baking my ds's birthday cake and cupcakes. Trying to get them done ahead, and put them in the deep freezer till the weekend. His 10th birthday is Monday! I can't believe my little baby is going to be double-digits. Ye Gods, he has the attitude to match, half the time. But the other half, he is so sweet. I'm really proud of him. He's going to try out for Little League this spring! jaw2.gif He has never been a try-this kind of kid. He always has thought he'd fail so he refused to try. I'm really excited. Even though games will put us WAY past our normal early bedtime.

 

Cari, yay for childcare vouchers for you!

 

Sunshine-- where do you live, again?

 

Witchy-- been thinking about you and wondering where ya been. And there you are!

 

Valerie-- hug2.gif

 

I have a bit of a chest cold-- must keep it at bay for ds's party, which is Saturday.

 

OK, mamas, I have this really weird conundrum, and need feedback by like today. I got an email from the mom of a boy in the other 4th grade. Not ds's class. Saying her ds would love to come to ds's party this weekend, and is it OK to bring the little brother (they do that around here, "are siblings invited", which really pisses me off, as if the sib was invited, I'd put their name on the invitation). Well-- this kid wasn't invited, and I don't know how the mom got my email address or the idea that this kid was invited.

Not that I'd mind; I like the mom and ds likes the boy, but he didn't invite anyone from the other class. It'd actually be fine with me, as there's probably 2 kids on the meager invite list that can't show up. But still. I'm confused!!!

And how do I kindly say no about the sibling? I think she's a single mama, too, but not sure, in which case she'd have trouble with childcare. But I only have enough goody bags and whatnot for just the amount that were invited.

What would you do?

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Maia: god i hate that! dd had a friend whose mother did that alot, just assumed that the younger sister was invited. finally i just had to say she wasn't invited. i felt horrible. honestly i think she sort of used these get togethers as free child care so she could get a bit of time to her self. i am not sure if you do parties with parents there or not, but we don't/didn't so the folks would usually drop off their kids and come get them at a certain time. i tried to be really nice about it saying that it was just for the invited kids, but i am sure it sounded crappy to her. although after that she stopped assuming and would ask me before hand. i think, maybe because she is asking if he can come, you could say it is just for the invited kids. maybe your son invited that kid? is that possible?

 

so update: more contractions today, nothing really strong or long or close together, but i can feel them that is for sure. and i feel all yucky int eh tummy department and i am cleaning like a mad woman. so fingers crossed maybe i will have a baby in a couple days. :) (same sort of thing happened when i had dd, three days of this sort of thing and then... bam real labor. lol)

 

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OK, mamas, I have this really weird conundrum, and need feedback by like today. I got an email from the mom of a boy in the other 4th grade. Not ds's class. Saying her ds would love to come to ds's party this weekend, and is it OK to bring the little brother (they do that around here, "are siblings invited", which really pisses me off, as if the sib was invited, I'd put their name on the invitation). Well-- this kid wasn't invited, and I don't know how the mom got my email address or the idea that this kid was invited.

Not that I'd mind; I like the mom and ds likes the boy, but he didn't invite anyone from the other class. It'd actually be fine with me, as there's probably 2 kids on the meager invite list that can't show up. But still. I'm confused!!!

And how do I kindly say no about the sibling? I think she's a single mama, too, but not sure, in which case she'd have trouble with childcare. But I only have enough goody bags and whatnot for just the amount that were invited.

What would you do?



This is my guess, but maybe your DS invited the boy to his party (ie. like come to my party and just let my mom know if you can!)  and the mom is probably doubling checking without even considering invites were sent out.

 

I would just be honest in a no-fault way.  This would be the start of my response... Oh goodness - I think there may have been a bit of a mix-up... and if you can confirm with your DS if he might have invited the boy without letting you know that might get to the bottom of it even faster.  Then if you know there are cancellations, you would love to have them join you (if that is the case), and just put it out there it was a small guest list because of $$ and that (again if you feel comfortable) that the sib is welcome, but they might not get a goody bag.

 

I hope that helps!  *hugs* mama!

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Originally Posted by mamaofthree View PostMaia: god i hate that! dd had a friend whose mother did that alot, just assumed that the younger sister was invited. finally i just had to say she wasn't invited. i felt horrible. honestly i think she sort of used these get togethers as free child care so she could get a bit of time to her self. i am not sure if you do parties with parents there or not, but we don't/didn't so the folks would usually drop off their kids and come get them at a certain time. i tried to be really nice about it saying that it was just for the invited kids, but i am sure it sounded crappy to her. although after that she stopped assuming and would ask me before hand. i think, maybe because she is asking if he can come, you could say it is just for the invited kids. maybe your son invited that kid? is that possible?

 

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Originally Posted by _ktg_ View PostThis is my guess, but maybe your DS invited the boy to his party (ie. like come to my party and just let my mom know if you can!)  and the mom is probably doubling checking without even considering invites were sent out.

 

I would just be honest in a no-fault way.  This would be the start of my response... Oh goodness - I think there may have been a bit of a mix-up... and if you can confirm with your DS if he might have invited the boy without letting you know that might get to the bottom of it even faster.  Then if you know there are cancellations, you would love to have them join you (if that is the case), and just put it out there it was a small guest list because of $$ and that (again if you feel comfortable) that the sib is welcome, but they might not get a goody bag.

 

Well, I had a talk with DS and he has no idea how this kid got invited. He was just as surprised as me. I'm hoping the whole class doesn't do this! Can you imagine? huh.gif

 

Since we're pretty sure 2 kids aren't coming, and there were only like 6 to begin with, including DS, neither of us minds this boy coming. We both like him and his mom.

But the sibling thing just rubs me wrong. Always has. I'd never heard of such a thing, my whole life, till I moved out here. I find it appalling.

 

This mom might be a single parent. I'm not sure. If she is, that might be why she asked about the sibling, but it also might just be the local habit. I am thinking of saying something like "We're excited to see you and P___ this weekend at the party! However, no, I'm sorry, but siblings aren't invited. I have a very small house, and only if no other arrangements are possible would it be alright if S____ came." I can't say it's only for the invited kids, though, cause really, this kid wasn't originally invited. I'm really hoping they don't find out, though! How embarrassing all the way 'round!

 

Oh, and parents are welcome to stay or go as they please. I'm hoping at least one will stay, though, and keep me company!

post #437 of 521
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Originally Posted by Valerie.Qc View Post
 I don't know why but this is the hardest hit since she died.


Hugs, Valerie!  After my dad died, I was prepared for the emotions at Christmas, Thanksgiving, his birthday, and Fathers Day, but I found myself overwhelmed with memories at other special times of the year  - Halloween, of all times, and yeah, family birthdays were hard..  I called it "being sandbagged" because it felt like I'd been punched in the gut with something heavy.   

 

Please take care of yourself, and maybe if it fits with your beliefs, be open to the possibility that your mom's spirit is with you and may communicate with you in some other way.  She's not there in body, but somewhere, somehow, someway, the love for you is still there and will always be there.
 

I feel my dad around me sometimes, I'd say a lot in the year after he died and a few times a year now (over 10 years since he died).  Sometimes, its in dreams, sometimes in little events of daily life.  One year, we had a great "conversation" late at night as I was staying up to make dh a father's day present.  I felt that my dad was proud of me for doing that, for being good to my dh. Yesterday, in fact, I was looking after my sister's toddler and felt him there admiring how cute his youngest granddaughter is and sharing my joy in her and at being an auntie :-)  

 

 And a few days after my grandmother died last summer, I was sitting in a hotel lobby with dh, when I had a strong sensation that she was sitting on the chair next to us, even to what she was wearing and how she looked.  Within moments, the front desk clerk wandered over and started a conversation with us, asking us why we were in town  - we told him for the funeral of my grandmother.  He started going on and on about how my grandmother (whom he'd never met) had lived a long life and a good life and we should not have any regrets about her passing - oh it would have been very annoying, except that that is *exactly* what my grandmother would have said, even to the turn of phrase he used - and he was not a native English speaker, so his wording surprised me a little.  I'm sure he was probably a sensitive sort and that my grandmother's spirit prompted or even bullied him into coming over to talk to us, somehow (She was a bit imperious - it would have been so  like her :-)

 

Both my dad and grandma were Christian but very open to the idea of the spirits of loved ones visiting after death.  My aunt, whom I was also close to and who also passed away last year, thought ghosts/spiritism dangerous nonsense and had a very conservative Christian view of what happens to the soul after death.  I haven't "heard" from her, and I don't really expect to.  You never know, though.

post #438 of 521

Maia~ I live in New Hampshire. Its been frigid! I don't know what to tell ya about the invites thing. Where I grew up, if there was a party, the whole community was pretty much invited. But I grew up weird!

 

Valerie~ Hugs.

 

Mo3~ sending healthy birthy vibes!

 

 

So today I worked, then had a somewhat stressful "supervision" (that is one on one meeting with manager), which turned out pretty well as she is gonna help me get more hours. Then I raced to my doctor's to have him be 40 minutes late and when he walked in he told me I was A DAY LATE! Luckily he took me right in anyway. He thinks I have some virus that's had me sick since November, running fevers every other week, etc... Even today I was running a low grade fever! He said that bloodwork would help, but he gave up on it because I have SUCH a traumatic response. So I don't know what's up with that. I told him I'm starting counseling and all the reasons my bff thinks I'm depressed and he gave me Zoloft to start on, a very low dose. He wants to see me after I see the counselor and see how the meds are working. Blah. Good news, the steroid inhaler he put me on is helping! My lungs sounded good and he said that the fact I rarely have to use my other inhaler means I'm doing good asthma wise.

 

My poor bff! She texted me on my way home, she was sitting outside on the side of the road crying! :( Her hubby and her are having a fight. My heart ached for her!

post #439 of 521

:)  the fevers are gone, the temp was a balmy 30 degrees, and dd1 did great at her final "major work" dental visit.  All in all, not a bad day!  :)

 

invites and siblings- It must be regional... around here parents are expected to stay if the kiddos are in the under-10 set, and people just assume siblings will be attending too.  On the other hand, goody bags aren't a "big thing"... the younger kiddo parties seem to have a craft of some sort that guests bring home (so kiddos tie dye a shirt, or paint a flower pot, or something to do with the "theme") and the older kiddo parties (of which I have heard tales lol) often give guests some sort of "value added" element... like 5 dollars in tokens at the arcade or admission to the movie or a gift certificate for coffee at the mall.  If your ds doesn't recall asking this kiddo... I'd go with the honest confusion approach.  Just say that invitations were sent out and while you'd love for this child to come, you really can't host siblings.

 

ooops... tor jsut fell out of bed!  gotta go!  (Dh is with him but I hear a MAMAMAMAMAMA)

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Parents in my town don't stay for parties or playdates.  It's weird.  They do not invite siblings, too.

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