Jess (Boozheemama), I am so sorry to hear this. Gosh, I know I would feel just like you do if I'd been given the same news.
Forgive me, if I don't remember all your details, do you have children ? How old is your youngest? How long have you been ttc? 40 seems so early for menopause. Have you thought about acupuncture? Would/could you do donor egg?
Waturmama, it is a relief to hear that I'm not the only one with a "reluctant" partner, when it comes to ttc. As well as the sadness I also carry some guilt, I wonder if I should stop being "spiritual" about all this, stop listening to my intuition and heart and listen to my head which says I should just enjoy what I have (which I do) and go on birth control and honor my DH's desire to stop ttc. But then I feel I would not be being authentic at all. And after my BIL died a few years ago I made a decision to live with integrity and truth as much as possible. I even dreamt his morning that I should not leave my son alone - I read this to mean he needs a sibling for company.He has older sibs, but they are so much older, I dearly want him to have a playmate and ally.
I wish it wasn't so hard, but then it wouldn't be worthwhile I suppose?
Who is doing the Paleo way of eating? Can you tell me a bit about what sorts of things you'd eat for snacks? Now that I have given up sugar I don't eat very much fruit, I've been eating about 1 serve a day, and sticking to low sugar fruit like berries and kiwi fruit. I seem to be eating quite a lot of full fat dairy - yoghurt, cottage cheese, cheese and cream. I wonder if I am having too much - but then I hear from some sources it is good for fertility. I guess I should try to snack on vegies, but i don't find it very convenient.
I have to say that I feel really good on the sugar free diet. I've lost a little weight, but not much, but that's not why I'm doing it- it has really helped my energy levels, less pre-menstrual symptoms, no more bloating, no midday slump etc. It's great, and mostly not too challenging.
Purplefish, how are you doing? I have been thinking of you.
I'm praying/asking the universe for wonderful fertile things to happen to us all! May we all have bfp's and strong healthy pregnancies by the end of this year. It's funny, I really though I'd birth a baby in 2011 - it doesn't look likely now, unless I get pregnant this cycle and deliver early. I'll settle for a 2011 pregnancy though.