Hi. I'm mom to a 5.5 year old who we feel has developed OCD and it is getting worse. I have been reading a tremendous amount on it and have ordered every book possible to help us deal with this. I have read "Raising Your Spirited Child" of which she fits most of the extremes and I have also read the "What to Expect from your 6 year old" and she also fits many of those things. As much as I have read and think that some of her behaviors are within the range of normal, there are other behaviors that definitely are not. For example, she has to step in certain places when walking through a room. She also counts various things and will get very frustrated and have a meltdown. Tantrums (the 2 year old kind) have increased drastically in the past three weeks. We can not get her dressed in the mornings and can never seem to get her out the door to go anywhere no matter what we do. She does not have the some of the other 'typical' things like washing hands and cleanliness (in fact, it's often much the opposite).
Stress is what they say exacerbates such behavior and we have had a tremendous amount of that. We just moved half way across the country, away from all of our friends and family. A month after we moved we found out I was pregnant again. And she started kindergarten. The behavior skyrocketed after a visit from dh's family in which they spent the entire time asking her when she was going to come visit and if she was coming soon, etc. Not the anxiety she needed, so for now, she isn't even allowed to speak with them because they don't respect us when we ask them not to say those things to her.
All this said, I'm very cautious to take her to a psychologist for an 'official' diagnosis. I'm not a fan of labels and I don't want her to feel labeled because I think often times when you are labeled as something, you live up to that label. I'm hoping that some of the books I ordered will really help us to cope with her behavior. I have read a few websites and have already started implementing some of the tactics, that, for this moment, seem to be somewhat working.
I'm just wondering if there is anyone else out there that as BTDT or can offer any advice. I feel so extremely alone and my anxiety is over the top trying to deal with the every day with her. Dh's way of coping is to ignore it. Not helpful. If you can offer any insight, I would be so grateful! Thanks!