Originally Posted by lilmom
LTB I have been tested repeatedly for thyroid issues and have always tested normal. I have suspected a thyroid problem for years though. I think I am one of those people who has normal numbers but my thyroid may not actually be functioning correctly. My mother and sister both have had thyroid trouble and my mother takes medication daily for it and probably always will. My sister took meds for a short time and has been fine ever since. So, that really might be part of my problem but I have not had success finding a doctor who wants to give me meds while my numbers are normal. : )
Lilmom.... Thyroid issues are serious stuff, as they affect the fetus (and can cause infertility). I also have lots of relatives with thyroif issues and it seems to go from mother to daughter, at least in my family. I had almost normal lab results. Well, almost within range and had to find a specialist known for dealing with the whole person, not just labs. By then I had suffered terribly from all the symptoms, though. (It was hell!)
I thought more about the mental side of infertility today. I could almost swear that is what is going on with me. First of all, although I got pregnant easily, I had a mentally and physically rough pregnancy with dd. (I think at least partly due to untreated hypothyropidism.) Then I was up a lot with dd for the next 3 years, and having tons of hypo symptoms and a back problem that made my life really difficult. I realized then that my body could not deal with another pregnancy, so first I was not sad not to be TTC before dd turned 3. Some years and medicines (for hypo and adrenal fatique) later, I have been ready and trying for quite some time. However, I feel like my mind is still thinking I am in that sleepless and hypo (and thus depressed) state and just isn't getting the message that I could carry a child. Or maybe, having been through all that, deep down I am afraid it would end up being round two of the same thing. (I could not deal with that... not that I would have a choice.) So, yeah, somehow I really think my mind is to blame. I have some thoughts about what to do, but not sure if that is nearly enough. I was also reminded that I would not be able to deal with what I went through before, at least not without dd suffering from it. In that sense, I suppose, my not being pregnant is not only negative. It is good for me to remember that, also, no matter how much I would like another child. (I think this is why adoption has been so easy for me to accept as the better option... Pregnancy and the time after that was just so rough for me, physically...)
I am not into Reiki. I absolutely believe in it being a real thing, though. It is just that a friend of ours is an exorcist and I have learned a lot through his work, about how we can invite things in. I have simply seen way too much to be comfortable with Reiki and other such things. (I realize many here on mdc have no problem with it.. but this is my take on it.)
rcr... I am SO sorry! I would also be very hurt. Some people just have a hard time not telling things, even if they know they are not supposed to (I am a bit in that category with my own mom, although I would never tell something if dh has asked me not to). I really hope your husband thinks about it and does not try to defend his action... And since your inlaws now know, I sure hope they are sensitive and supportive. (Although I assume you had a reason you were not comfortable with them knowing.) I hope you two can have a good, long talk.