October Mamas: week of March 29

[Piglet68]

I'm posting this a bit early b/c I'm not sure if I'll get online tomorrow in the morning...

Roll Call

momtol&a
chrissy 09/28 (honorary October mom!)
snugglebutter 10/01
mirthfulmum 10/03
FutureMama 10/04
TracyK 10/04
mhurst 10/04
kraftykathy 10/04
water 10/06
Proudly AP 10/08
allformyboys 10/11
Lucysmama 10/12
bendmom 10/12
momadance 10/13
Mandi 10/14
wannabmommie 10/18
Piglet68 10/18
BeauGeek 10/20
BeansMomma 10/20
CourtneyandLogan 10/21
ScooterMama1 10/21
EmbersMOM 10/21
Stanleymama 10/23
3boyz4us 10/24
aspiring mama 10/25
truebluexf 10/27
ameliabedelia 10/29
flitters 10/30
Soogie 10/31
AnnR33 10/31
kama'aina mama 10/31


So how are we all doing? I'm entering my 12th week. I *think* the nausea is finally dying down - this weekend was good. Went for a wonderful long walk with DH and DD Sunday and it was actually WARM out and we wore just T-shirts! Nothing like an endless winter to make you appreciate the sun!

But man, was I ever wiped out for the rest of the day!

So, time for the question of the week:

Are you "hoping" for a particular gender?

With my first, I really didn't care. I sort of thought it was a boy, and was a bit surprised to find out it was a girl. But I very quickly adjusted and now I can't imagine anything else! Which is probably why I'm really hoping for another girl. I *know* of course I'd be thrilled with either, and I'm not laying any guilt on myself. I just know that deep down, I'll be doing a big ol' happy dance if this one's a girl, too!

[snugglebutter]

I am 13.5 weeks and just starting to feel a teensy bit better. Yesterday went really well. I even had a burst of energy and did some cleaning! Hopefully that nausea will go away SOON. I want a salad in the worst way! (green veggies have been out for a while)

We heard our baby's heartbeat on Friday!!!!! I was so nervous about it the entire day, but the nurse found it in less than 10 seconds - right around 145 bpm.

QOTW - We have NO preference on gender. Part of that I'm sure is because of how long TTC took us. I can imagine just wonderful things about raising a boy or a girl. We have a little feeling that we're having a boy, but I think that is more Dh than me. My stepmom says that the Chinese gender chart says boy and some necklace test a coworker had me try said boy so we will see. My side of the family hasn't had a boy in over 20 years so I think they are leaning in that direction a little.

We are having a MUCH harder time agreeing on a boy's name though. Dh was immediately ok with my girl choices, but we have a long way to go for a boy.

Hope everyone is doing well this week!

Sara
EDD 10-02-04

[ameliabedelia]

Anyone have uneven nipple sorness? My right breast is incredibly sore! My left breast is just a tiny bit sore. It has been like that almost all this pregnancy, but recently it got more pronounced. The right got sorer and the left got less sore. It is weird. I know my right breast is smaller and makes less milk than the left, so that is probably the reason. Anyone else experience one breast being sorer than the other?

QOTW. I am very certain this is a boy. I am neither hoping for a boy or a girl, I am just pretty sure it is a boy. However, if it is a girl we will be happy. Part of me wants another girl, I think it is nice to have children in pairs of sexes. Two girls, then two boys, you know! I just think they make great playmates that way! Plus, we have all girl clothes (although they are the wrong season for the most part, so we would need new clothes anyway) and I take a real peverse pleasure in dressing DD up in dresses and cute little outfits (is that bad?), so I would like another girl to use all her cute clothes again!

[mirthfulmum]

I'm not positive but I think I felt the baby kick yesterday. I was sitting at the computer working on a paper and I felt three little distinctive thumps right underneath my belly button. They did not feel like the usual gas bubbles. It really surprised me. I haven't felt anything since but the idea that I might already be able to feel the baby moving is very exciting!

QOTW: I guess because I have a son I am kind of hoping for another boy. I feel like I already know what to do with a boy. And I like the idea of my children being able to build a strong friendship (that is made a bit more difficult if they're different gendres). And to be perfectly honest, raising a girl scares me. My mother and I have a complicated relationship (which seems to be a family issue as my mother also had a strained relationship with her mom) and I am affraid of passing on the toxicity to my daughter. But despite the whole bundel of anxiety I have around having a girl, my husband really wants a daughter and we are planning on stopping at 2 kids so this is his last chance. And there is a part of me that wants him to have his little girl.

[flitters]

Good morning and happy Monday!

gosh - it's so exciting to start hearing about everyone starting to feel better and maybe even feel their babies!!!

i'm still not feeling super-excellent physically... food is rough and i've been exhausted. i'm looking forward to eating without it being a huge ordeal. and sex - i miss when it felt good (yeah, i know, i'm a bit hung up on this one - dh is so patient!).


as for gender, dh is hoping for a boy (mostly cause he's scared of teenage girls :LOL). i'm honestly completely fine either way. really no preference. for some reason so far i think it's a boy though. don't know why. i always thought i'd have a girl first, but right around when i conceived i started thinking this would be a boy and that notion seems to have stuck.


and one more thing, referring back to the last week's thread:

Originally posted by wannabmommie
She said I could AMA and I'd have to "take the responsiblity." : She also used the rationale that if it was *so easy to lose a baby that way, women who didn't want their babies would be doing it. The same answer to sex.

what do you mean by AMA? i'm confused. and why is the hpv test such a big deal to them? (especially if your paps are always normal!)

[AnnR33]

Hi All, week 9 here and not looking forward to the nausea and vomiting with DH away on travel until Wed night Poor kids will end up stuck in front of the TV way more than they should be I'm afraid!! hate this part! I know I have at least a few more wks of this misery and just trying to hang in there.

Letia, I go to a general practitioner and while she prefers to do an internal at 12 wks and later optional ones at 36, 38 40 wks I told her I was going to skip it this time-I had to sign a waiver but she was fine with it. I have a tilted uterus or something and internals are always difficult and pointless really if you don't have anything they're looking for specifically. So hang in there mama!

I have a boy and girl now and I really thought my girl was a boy up until the end last time. This time I think it's another boy and have had dreams about it even before he was conceived. I'll be really shocked if it's a girl but of course, that's fine too
Ann

[blessed2bamommie]

We're movin on through the first tri aren't we Pig?

I want a boy. I have always wanted a girl;but, when we lost our first son, I have gotten in boy mode. I still want a girl though. I *think its a boy. I've been praying for a boy and so is a woman in my church. I'd be surprised if we had a girl; but, I'd be happy all the same.

Amy, I'm a bit confused about the practice, as I look at the site. I was given a choice of mw or doctor. I think they must all be in one practice, even though I don't see them. They seem to be autonomous. But, I'm trying to see a diff with the prenatal care. : There's another practice in the area that's OB and two mws. But, the OB are low intervention, etc. A rareity.


Is flitters the only one wanting sex? :LOL No, I think there was *one more right? Dh wishes. : When it felt good? Does it hurt!?!

Against medical advice. : I don't know why the HPV is a big deal either. The answer is negative! It always *has been!

Sara, I did some cleaning this weekend too! Dh just looked at me in amazement, and I said haven't you seen a woman almost in her second trimester before! :LOL


He's hopin I'll want to hop in the sack! :

I think I might need a nap. I had planned to clean today; but, forgot about cycle class.

[True Blue]

Well had my appt this morning. It was so unexciting! We didn't try for the heartbeat since it is so early. SO basically we chatted, took history, and bloodwork. She did say I can come by in a couple weeks and listen for a heartbeat though if I want. So.....boring.

DH is waiting for my sex drive too. I wouldn't fear flitters, it will return soon. We refer to my second trimester last time as "horny time" :LOL And gosh I think pg sex is better than non-pg sex...everything is in a constant state of engorgement, so you get turned on faster!!!

Don't really care if it's a boy or girl...boy would be easier bc we have everything. And we'll prob have a 3rd anyway so I know I don't "have" to have a girl this time. DH really wants a girl though!!

[blessed2bamommie]

I heard that second tri is better. So,there's hope? (For our dh's.) :LOL

[Piglet68]

Can't comment on the 2nd trimester sex thingy - darn it if my libido isn't sky high all the time while I"m PG. The only thing getting in the way is my sleepyness - I seem to sleep a lot, lol. But DH is a happy boy these days. Now our biggest problem is convincing DD to stay in the living room for a few minutes before we get out of bed ("I think I hear Sesame Street!! Oooh, better go see if Cookie Monster is coming?" - while DH is groping me under the covers, lol!).

wannab: I'm so happy we're almost done with trimester 1!

mirthfulmum: it's funny how we feel the same way but with opposite genders. girls are what I "know" now, and I feel like boys are so alien to me, like I'll never figure them out, lol.

lucy'smama: did you love this weekend or what?? you are right, cleveland doesn't seem so bad when it's that warm out and not a cloud in the sky!!

[3bees~1flower]

hello! i'm sooo excited! i had to work an 11p-7a shift last night (i'm an on call Ob nurse and work a couple times a month). i grabbed the doppler and had myself a little listen!! there it was thumping away at 170-180 beats per min! i listened again at the end of the shift. what an awesome sound!!


as far as sex of the baby goes, a boy would be the easiest beings this will be our last one and having to get a whole new wardrobe if it were a girl sounds overwhelming, but of couse we would take a girl...dh wants another boy...my older boys want a little sister in the worst way, so i guess if i were to answer the question of what do *I* want, i'd have to say a girl so my older boys can have their little sister. but they understand that whomever we get will be exactly who God wanted us to have. i would be totally happy with another little boy. i don't why i feel this one *could* be a girl...the pregnancy has been quite different then the boys'...plus the HR seems way higher then theirs was at 10 wks, but i'll ask my dr when i see him on the 15th of april what the others were at 10 wks.

in the libido dept, well, i have NONE! i'm a little anxious about the thought of it since i had that spotting earlier and i told this to dh, plus i can't stand the boob/nipple fondling, they just feel like exposed nerve endings and any attention just doesn't do anything for me.

someone asked about obsession of pregnancy if it wasn't your first....well, this is my fourth and it is as fascinating and exciting to me as my first was, and i am every bit as obsessed about things being ok as i have with all the others. if i had 12 they would all be just as exciting and fascinating as the first, it's such an awesome think to experience!

just wondered if anyone else had COPIOUS amts of CM? man, it seems like a lot. and if it's mot TMI, what color is yours...mine is yellow...when i think of yellow, i think of infection, but there is no odor to it at all. sorry if this is TMI!

[blessed2bamommie]

:LOL Carrie, I tell ya bout the boobs. If he *did get lucky they would *surely be off limits!


The NP said that the CM would increase, btw. Seems like Taking Charge of Your Fertility mentions cm can be yellow. Butl, keep checkin, you know your body and make sure an infection doesn't slide by.


Do I want fries with ranch dressing again?

OK! *I have a question! I can think of no way to explain it and I'm in *no way tryin to rag on ADD patients. But, I know what it is being a teacher and I feel like I have it when it comes to decidin what I want to eat! OK, for instance, today, I wanted salad, then pasta, and I call my mama's best friend tryin to figure out how to make *half of this frozen block of ground,and now my friend mentions fries with ranch dressing and I'm at her! I think I want them now! I think I'm *over the pasta!

[flitters]

hahahha, here is what i got at the grocery store on saturday:

frozen cheeze blintzes
salt and vinegar pringles
cream cheese (for pringle dipping)
a salami (which normally i dislike!)
apples
eggo waffles
blueberry muffin mix

dh makes fun of me cause basically i like something (salami for example) for all of 1 sitting, then it's left in the fridge for him to eat.

i seem to have caught a cold. i don't feel particularly bad but my nose is a faucet and my temperature regulation just seems a bit off... i feel slightly chilled. i should probably go drink a load of juice.

and as for sex, yeah, actually it does kind of hurt.

warning: TMI starting here.

i noticed i wasn't enjoying it as per usual during my luteal phase but it wasn't until about 14dpo that it started feeling unpleasant... kind of that feeling like he just pushed my insides into my throat. most recently that seemed a bit better but it actually felt a little abrasive on the front inside wall of my vagina... and it sort of was stinging for a few minutes after. i dunno, it just doesn't feel particularly good. oh, and yeah, my boobs are SO not interested in being played with. i hope this gets better soon!

[blessed2bamommie]

ugh! Sounds like the abrasiveness could be a lube issue, which you would have to supplement until the copious CM starts?

[sqoya]

Hey Piglet, can you add me to the list? Thanks! I'm due 10/14! I'm so excited we're moving through the first trimester!

QOTW: No, we definitely don't care whether it's a boy or girl. At first, we thought we'd try for a specific gender, using a timing method that worked for most of my friends, but then we couldn't decide if we wanted a boy or girl! lol!

Wannab, and Sara, I'm so jealous that you cleaned! I look at my messy house, and watch my husband put things away and do laundry (where does this go? do you wash this on cold or hot?) and I am dying to clean!!! Thought I'd never say that!

Hope everyone's feeling better soon!

[Court]

Hey everyone! I'm in the middle of the 11th week and feeling fine. The weather was perfect today, in the 70's, so we had a long day out.

ameliabedelia- I've got the uneven nipple soreness too! Only it's the left side that's worse. My left side has always made less milk, so that may be it. Ds probably works at it harder which makes it hurt more(?) maybe?

And I think we would like another boy, well mainly dh would, probably cause he grew up w/ 2 sisters and he wants Logan to have a brother to romp around with. I think girls can romp around just like the boys though, so I don't really care as long as it's healthy.

Last night I think I felt a definite baby movement, too. I was doing the dishes and I felt a swirly, squirly flutter right where my uterus is. I know for sure it wasn't gas. It made me happy - like the baby was saying, "hey mama I'm here!"

Dh says he's having sympathy hunger for me. All weekend he was raiding the fridge complaining of being hungry all the time. He also called me today saying he was so hungry he was dizzy, which is usually my thing. Our grocery bill has gone way up, we seem to be making big trips to the store every other day.

lol about the salami - I only buy that when I'm pregnant apparently. Cheese blintzes sound so good right now. Gotta go eat! take care mamas!

[Lucysmama]

GRRRR! I just typed out a novel and lost it!!! I will try to briefly sum it up!

I heard the heartbeat today!!!! It was galloping along at 160bpm! My mw started the use the doppler up high..and I moved the doppler down right to where I thought the baby was...and there was the beating! I was so proud that I knew right where my baby was!

My mw visit was 2 and a half hours long!!! We sat on the couch at her house, had tea, and just talked. I kept my clothes on the entire time, and my mw was so warm and sweet. She showed me how to do the iron check and urine check myself. I told her I didn't want to be weighed or discuss weight gain at all and she said, "Ok, whatever you are comfortable with is fine with me." That is pretty much her mantra.

THEN, to top off the great day, my dh took me out to a celebratory dinner at the BEST locally-owned restaraunt - A hibachi joint where they cook on the table. It's my favorite. I had a 4 course feast. MMMMMMMMMMMMMMM! It was amazing!

Hope you ladies are feelin' groovy!

[juliemaye]

Hi ladies,

I am 12 weeks tomorrow...YAY!!!

It's funny, I didn't think I would care what the sex is, but lately I have been wanting a girl badly...I would be happy with either though.

I don't have any sex drive either...poor dh...I try to get in the mood every once in a while for him but it is hard. Hopefully that will change soon.

[momto l&a]

I have the sex drive! of course this is the sex drive that made my dh wish I would leave him alone for just one night, it is also the drive that got me this surprise pregnancy. LOL

Because of my terrible evening sickness we can only have sex in the morning and I normally hate having it then.

I had my second mw appoinment last week, we tried to hear the heartbeat but 20 seconds doesnt give you much time. My mw will only use the doppler for 20 seconds because of the safety concerns to the baby. Wasnt as happy with this visit as I have been in the past. I have used this midwife for both of my other pregnancies. She is letting her helper do most of the checking on things and such. I also felt she was rushing us.Maybe she figures I dont need her as much as a newby being this is my third time throught this with her. Oh well still much better than going to a dr. Maybe it was just one of those off days we all have.

Think I will 12 weeks on Thursday. Close enough for me. I have always known my dates of conception and all that stuff so it kinda fun having a surprise:LOL

[Piglet68]

I heard the heartbeat today, too!

Had a long first visit with my OB today. He's so sweet - he hugged me, lol. And he was totally cool that I was still nursing DD. His only advice was to eat lots - oh yeah, I'll be having a hard time following that advice, NOT!

flitters: your shopping list made my mouth water. I had pringles this weekend too. me and DD were totally flaked out on the sofa and suddenly I had to get up and go to the store. got pringles, a twix bar, and six little donuts. YUM.

My fave preggo snack are veggie chips! They are expensive though, so I try to limit them. But payday is tomorrow so I'm gonna go stock up!

flitters, your experience with sex sounds exactly like mine after I gave birth to DD. definitely a hormone thing!

momtol&a: my DH actually *complained* last PG that I was wanting sex too much. what a joke! he swears he will NEVER complain about that again, lol. it was a long time after baby before he got any!

Mandi: I added you, welcome!!

Oh, one more thing, because I'm an "older" mama now (36) I get to have an early U/S. I'm going in two weeks and very excited b/c I love seeing the baby!! Dh and DD are going to come and maybe DD will start to understand there's a baby in there!