I'm posting here because most of the info in Family Bed/Nighttime Parenting seems to be geared toward younger kids. Obviously we messed up there because our kids NEVER go to sleep in a reasonable manner. I started putting DD to bed at 7:00. It's 10:00 now, and DH is STILL in there with both DC. (Of course he could be asleep by now, too...)
DD will be 4 on Thursday. DS will be 6 on Jan 17. I'm at my wits' end. I work (more than) FT and will start school FT next week. I'm transitioning into a new career, and the additional courses will take 18 months. In my theoretical plan, I'll put the kids to bed 3 nights a week, and DH will do it 4 nights. I will not have 3 hours to do it, though.
We have tried so many suggestions, and if anything works, it doesn't work for long. I'm really just at the end of my rope. I don't know what to do. We've tried both carrot & stick, and neither seems to work. They have toys in their room, and they play if they're in there alone. I'm tempted to take all of the toys out, but frankly, that would mean putting them somewhere else, which would mean making room for them, etc., etc. Still I'm at the point of thinking that may be the best choice we have.
They share a room and will do so for 1.5 more years. They absolutely cannot go to bed together because they play and talk.
We've tried different bedtimes, and it doesn't matter. There's no difference based on physical activity during the day either. We can go to the Y where they play for an hour and swim for an hour, and they still come home ramped.
TBH, if they would do something quietly in their beds, I wouldn't even care so much, but they don't. They get themselves more wired.
What does your routine look like? I don't know what to do!