I just can't make my brain comprehend this. I posted on my blog about what happened. It was totally unexpected and it caught us all by surprise. My blog is here, if I can't post this here I'll take it out. I've been in tears all day. I just don't know what to do or how to begin coping and healing.
My dad passed away this evening.
So sorry to hear about your loss. My dad passed away six months ago. Two days before my son (his first and only grandson) was turning one. I wish I had thoughts or words to say, but it basically just sucks. I feel robbed even though I hav a gorgeous healthy boy. He just needs a grandpa. Just embrace your children, for me that is all that is getting me through.
I am really sorry about your dad's passing. My dad died last June of a heart attack, very suddenly. You need to make sure that you have people around you to support you- child care, cooking, etc. for at least a few days, if you can... For me, I was in shock for a good 4-5 months. By November a deep depression set in and I'm still there. I started therapy and it is very helpful. I also realized that I was drinking to cover up my sadness so I stopped that. Now the sad feelings are coming out in full force but at least there are there and I am dealing with them. It's probably going to take a long while to get over. I expect that for me it could take up to another year to feel somewhat normal again, as painful as it is. It's so hard, too, to deal with a sudden death like that. It's such a shock. Just go easy on yourself. Pamper yourself, if you can... massages, dates with your partner if you can, visit with friends, fun stuff. When I was at my mom's house after the death and we were cleaning out the house and dealing with my dad's stuff, it was pretty intense. We all took a day and went to a water park just for an escape. It was like medicine. It really took our minds off of all the drama and unpleasantness and it was wonderful to have a day of fun and relaxation.
My prayers are with you.
Udonandbroth, I have been drinking a lot more than usual and realize it doesn't help make the pain go away. I'm also seriously considering talking to my doctor so that I can get a prescription for antidepressants, it's not what I want to do, but I am realizing that I don't cope well with even minor disappointments now. The slightest kink in my day can send me from a great mood into a snotty mess in no time. I've tried pretending to okay, and I seem to have fooled most of those around me, but it's not working for me.
How are you holding up? Big hugs to you! My father in law unexpectedly passed two weeks ago tomorrow. We are having a rough time, to say the least. They were married for 37 years, 3 kids, 9 grandkids. I feel so sad for my mil who now has to face a huge house on 35 acres alone everyday. And I hate that my babies don't get to see their Papa anymore. There are so many mixed emotions every single day. I hope you are still making it through each day.
I'm still kinda having a rough time. Dad's birthday is in less than a week, and my grandma who passed away almost two years ago would have had a birthday on the 24th. I still haven't talked to my doctor about antidepressants, I really don't want to go that route if I can avoid it. I finally broke down (after I drank quite a bit) and told hubby that I wasn't coping well. I'm making an effort to not turn to alcohol when I've had a bad day, but that's also a struggle. Sometimes I feel like I don't have a grasp on things like I should and small things that shouldn't bother me still have to ability to send my day into a tail spin.