Originally Posted by MusicianDad
I'm not seeing how this is using her son to make money. Does the book mention her son by name? Does it specifically identify the child in question as the authors child? Or is it just a book about a boy that likes princess things and dressing up like a princess? And why is it "using your child" when the topic of the book is something that goes against societal norms?
And where are all these parents living where a boy who loves "girl stuff" is going to be widely accepted by society as a whole? I'm really curious, I live in a part of a very liberal country that is often considered too liberal and we still get plenty of people who think they need to tell us and our son that dresses and pink are for girls. To be honest it does sound like there are people in this thread who are uncomfortable with the subject of the book and trying to find other reasons to dislike it.
For me, there's a fine line between letting your child be who they are and all the different things they like and embracing that, and promoting it as a cause or pushing the kid in one direction or another. Here's another thing that rubbed me the wrong way a bit; when I've seen segments on TV or the internet, it seems like it's just the same couple pictures of him....it just feels to me like this is one aspect of something he likes, and they're turning it into who he is. I feel like this family is veering too much into the promotion aspect for my personal liking, pushing too much if you will - I am all for kids experimenting with different things they might like; I can list out my cred with my daughter and son, if I need to - I just....the book, the talk shows, it feels more exploitative than embracing their son for who he is and letting him experiment with all the different things he can like and not like in a supportive environment.
I actually just had to have this conversation with my mom over the holiday because my almost 7 yo son had on some of the "sugarplum" glitter nailpolish my 4-yo picked out for me, and she was surprised/unimpressed - whatever, they're still stuck in that caring what people think thing. I'm not sweating her and my dad disagreeing with me letting my 7-yo son wear nailpolish. DH and I were on the same page, and that's all that matters.
Well, turns out it didn't all wear off and we forgot about it and he still had some left on his nails when they went back to school, a girl said something to him like, 'nailpolish is only for girls!' and he said, "no way, my dad said rock star guys wear it all the time." and then another one of his buddies said that he had worn it a couple times, too. And nobody has said anything to him since.
Annnnyway - I contemplated posting something about it on my blog or on FB because I was proud of him and his friend, but then rethought it because I didn't want it to become a "thing" for him, you know? He's just barely 7, and he did a super thing and had a super friend back him up, and I told him "right on", etc in our own home and it was a great moment - no need to make a bigger case out of it than that - I think what happened was exactly what needs to happen for it to become more of a mainstream thing; people speak up against the stereotypes, and a friend backs them up - and that's how it spreads. Next time someone says something to that litlte girl, maybe she'll say, "a couple boys in my school have worn nailpolish before, it's no big deal" and it spreads and spreads and spreads.
annnnnyway annnnnyway....I'm pretty sure this little boy didn't ask to be brought on talk shows and have a book published about this one aspect of his very young life. He could be a million things between now and then, and just...he didn't look happy or enthusiastic on the show I saw, and I dunno, if my kid was sick I'd probably call and cancel or reschedule or something...cause who wants to drag a sick kid onto a TV set? I mean, he's 5 - that's a lot of pressure to put on a kid.