Originally Posted by WorldsBestMom
What confusion would that be to show my little boy this book and say look, "here is a little boy who wants to be a princess". No Way.
I'm not sure why there'd be any confusion, or what it is you're getting at. It's not hard to explain that such-and-such little boy likes princess clothes, and it's also not hard to explain that a princess is, by definition, a girl.
Not because a girl can wear pants that means it is ok for a boy to wear a dress. To prove what really?
Why does it have to be to "prove" anything? Most (I'm tempted to say all) of what my kids wear is about appropriateness for the weather/circumstances and about their personal preference. DS2 isn't "proving" anything when he wears sweatpants and a shirt with a jeep on the front, and he's also not "proving" anything when he wears his sister's princess dress (or when the two of them switch clothes and respond to each other's name for an hour or so).
I also don't see what the "because a girl can wear pants" thing is about. Girls didn't use to be "allowed" to wear pants. It was frowned on, and completely inappropriate. In my own lifetime, I've had a friend's grandmother call me a hussy and a slut, because I was wearing jeans with heels (1.5" pumps - nothing sexy, believe me). If some people hadn't let their girls wear them, anyway, then it would still be wildly inappropriate for a girl to wear pants. These gender rules about clothing are very, very arbitrary, after all.
As a matter of fact how many of us would date a man who came to us wearing a dress because his parents raised him to be comfortable in it because that is what he only wanted to wear when he was little.
I have no idea. I've only ever met one man who publicly wore dresses, and I don't know him well. I wouldn't date him, but not because of the dresses (it's because he gives every impression of being a major adrenalin junkie and that's just not my style). Whether or not I'd date a guy who came to me wearing a dress would depend on a huge number of factors. Of course...whether or not I'd date a guy who came to me wearning pants would depend on a huge number of factors, too.
Kids will be Kids, they will be curious and dress up and all that,and some may have their preferences and its obvious they are going through a stage/Phase but as parents we should teach them what is appropiate and what is not. If they still want to do what they feel comfortable with and live a certain lifestyle, especially when they reach teenage years then we have to allow them and let them make their own decisions. We did our best, what more can we do, than love them.
I guess I don't see what being appropriate or going through a stage/phase has to do with a little boy wearing a dress (or lace, or sparkles, or whatever). Mind you, I let dd1 go out in all kinds of bizarre getups when she was younger (still would, but she doesn't do it, anymore). I can't imagine myself caring about the opinion of people who would care about that, yk?
Interestingly in the future if Princess Boy should start acting like a Prince when he reaches teenage years and see those pcitures of him posted all over high school or posted on the internet he would just be mortified. So again we have to becareful as parents and thats my OPINION.
This, I actually agree with. I think sticking a child publicly with an identity that is only one small part of who they are, when they're still very young, is a really, really bad idea. And, yes - it could definitely bounce back on the child.