I need a village! - Page 3

[lightinmyhands]

Mamma Moo... I am no longer in Missouri, my family and I moved to Florida in February.  However, our longer range plans are to move away from the sand and the desert to the lush greenery of Oregon, most likely Eugene.  And since April here feels like mid June in Missouri did, I think long range for me means next year.  

[Momma Moo Martin]

Originally Posted by lightinmyhands 
And since April here feels like mid June in Missouri did, I think long range for me means next year.  

That doesn't sound pleasant!  I hope you get to Oregon as soon as possible!  :D

[youngspiritmom]

All mamas on this thread, try posting in the finding your tribe part of mdc. PM the people who reply to the thread, and I would directly ask them if they would like to be friends and meet up.

I have found that lots of mdc mamas are willing and wanting to meet up!

[Czarena]

my family and I are planing an intentional community/ tribe/commune - whatever you want to call it

We lived on a commune for 10 months so we have a clearer idea of what we want now than we did before.

Our biggest need is finding people that mesh well with us that want to move to Oregon :)

Anybody want to move to Oregon that is into natural consensual living with each other, the earth and our kids but still likes computers and such? (that is the best description I can think of without listing 100 things!)

Czarena

Mama to DS8, DS2, DS1, and a new little due in December

[Momma Moo Martin]

Ooooh, I'm intrigued!  Can you tell us more abou this, Czarena?  One of my husband's biggest complaints about living in an intentional community/commune is that we are a computer-friendly family that enjoys watching movies together.  He thinks all intentional communities are anti-technology whatsoever.  I would be interested to hear your plans.  
 

Originally Posted by Czarena 

my family and I are planing an intentional community/ tribe/commune - whatever you want to call it

We lived on a commune for 10 months so we have a clearer idea of what we want now than we did before.

Our biggest need is finding people that mesh well with us that want to move to Oregon :)

Anybody want to move to Oregon that is into natural consensual living with each other, the earth and our kids but still likes computers and such? (that is the best description I can think of without listing 100 things!)

Czarena

Mama to DS8, DS2, DS1, and a new little due in December

[lurve]

if you can find my hubby a job in oregon we are there!

[Czarena]

Lurve- What kind of work does he do/ prefer/ dream of being able to do?

Both - I'll post here or PM tonight - I'm headed to work at the moment

-Czarena

[Azadehhast]

Oh, I just want to hug all you lonely mamas! My little one isn't born yet, but I too feel this loneliness. I've lived in this city/country for a year, but I work from home, and I just haven't been able to connect with anyone. Everyone I meet is a computer programmer--but I'm so not into that (despite the fact that DH is one!).

But! We're moving spring 2012 with our baby due this December, to buy a little farm and start homesteading. Our good friends and former housemates, along with their 6 and 1 year old, are contemplating joining us, and we're open to sharing our place with other families. Our goal is to be more self-sufficient, but DH is a programmer, and will continue his work (from home) after we move, so it'll certainly be a tech-friendly place. Any Canadians (or those who could be!) interested in joining us on the (very affordable) East Coast?

[little birds]

A village, A playgroup, even another mom friend would be great. After my girls were born, I didn't feel "mainstream" enough for our local multiples group, but also didn't feel comfortable juggling my girls in a singleton playgroup. The only "group" I've been involved in is my local BWing meet up. I've slowly been losing touch with my single friends from my old job as well. No fun. I should post on my local board, that's a good idea.

[Janeen]

What I'm finding really frustrating right now is that when I try to join mom groups, I don't fit in at all. Both of the meet up groups in my town don't just meet in town but all over the area. Well, I don't have a car and I don't drive. I rely on the bus and the bus does not go all over the place. It doesn't go into the really affluent areas of town either which seems to be where a lot of these moms live. Not to mention, many of the events cost MONEY. Again, I'm poor. I do not have $5-$10 to drop on a trip to the Children's Museum. It's getting SO FRUSTRATING! I had really high hopes when another meet up group got started because I got kicked out of the other one I joined because I wasn't able to make it to any of the stinking activities (and of course, no one is going to give a ride to a mom she doesn't know). This one is pretty much the exact same kind of group! ARGH! Why make another meet up group then? I'm just really tired of being broke. Really tired of staying home and not having anyone to talk to and more and more getting really tired of being a parent. I'm beginning to understand more and more why my mom went back to school. I used to hate her for it because she was never around but now I can understand why. Going back to school she met people, did more things, and wasn't home alone with us kids all the time (especially after we all were in school, I imagine it was hard for her because we lived on a ten acre far away from pretty much everyone). So, at this point, I'm planning on looking for work once my youngest turns one. I just can't do it anymore.

[mommy212]

Originally Posted by Janeen 

What I'm finding really frustrating right now is that when I try to join mom groups, I don't fit in at all. Both of the meet up groups in my town don't just meet in town but all over the area. Well, I don't have a car and I don't drive. I rely on the bus and the bus does not go all over the place. It doesn't go into the really affluent areas of town either which seems to be where a lot of these moms live. Not to mention, many of the events cost MONEY. Again, I'm poor. I do not have $5-$10 to drop on a trip to the Children's Museum. It's getting SO FRUSTRATING! I had really high hopes when another meet up group got started because I got kicked out of the other one I joined because I wasn't able to make it to any of the stinking activities (and of course, no one is going to give a ride to a mom she doesn't know). This one is pretty much the exact same kind of group! ARGH! Why make another meet up group then? I'm just really tired of being broke. Really tired of staying home and not having anyone to talk to and more and more getting really tired of being a parent. I'm beginning to understand more and more why my mom went back to school. I used to hate her for it because she was never around but now I can understand why. Going back to school she met people, did more things, and wasn't home alone with us kids all the time (especially after we all were in school, I imagine it was hard for her because we lived on a ten acre far away from pretty much everyone). So, at this point, I'm planning on looking for work once my youngest turns one. I just can't do it anymore.

Totally understand you. ALL the groups in my area are the same way! I think I'll start a meet up group that only goes to free places on the bus near me... lol :) You're not in Tacoma are you? Cuz this really does sounds exactly like my problem...

[Janeen]

Originally Posted by mommy212 

Totally understand you. ALL the groups in my area are the same way! I think I'll start a meet up group that only goes to free places on the bus near me... lol :) You're not in Tacoma are you? Cuz this really does sounds exactly like my problem...

No, I'm in WI, pooh. Setting up those meet-up groups aren't cheap either. There is a MOPS group but the registration fills up fast and I imagine that costs money too. The meet and greet for the group is in a park I can't get to. There are PLENTY of nice parks in this town that are easy to get to and I'm even four blocks away from one of them but NO, someone goes and picks one of the few parks that is off the bus route. It's just SO frustrating. My husband doesn't get it. He would love to stay at home with the kids. He doesn't have the need to be around people like I do. I'm not a huge social butterfly but I really need SOME social interaction as I do get lonely very quickly and staying at home all day with a five year old and a 10 month old is not doing that much for me. Add to that the problem of being constantly broke and you have a recipe for major depression. I've been staying at home for almost 6 years now and even stayed at home while we were in South Korea (which about drove me out of my mind, I got to where I started hanging out with single women who were over there teaching because I could not find any moms over there to really hang out with once we moved out of the one area we were living in) and I just can't do it anymore.

[lightinmyhands]

janeen...... would a change of location (moving) help?  is it a possibility?  I'm still not where I want to be but I'm a lot happier now having changed states!

[Janeen]

Right now, we don't have the money and we just all got back here from South Korea after being there for close to two years. Moves are expensive unfortunately and you can't be sure that everything will fall into place when you do move (as my older sister is finding out when she decided to up and move to Tennessee). I know my husband would love to get out of this area but again, it takes money and quite a bit of it.

[lightinmyhands]

Janeen, you are correct, it does take quite a bit of money to move.   I learned that with this last move, it was quite costly, though we were fortunate in that DH's new company covered a large chunk of it, "relocation expenses".  Hopefully you will find the right group of mom's where you're at--- somewhere you fit in.  I really didn't like where we were and was having a very difficult time finding a group that I could connect with and just a few months before we left, I finally found an unschooling group that I could socialize with and not feel like an outcast.  Motherhood does get awfully lonely without it being a shared experience.  I wish you luck on your quest. :)