Jumping January 2011 Chat Thread - Page 3

[tsfairy]

Oh and DS1's cheeks (both sets) are rashy. I don't know what he's reacting to, poor kid. His behavior hasn't been off the charts but calm is definitely not in his vocabulary.

[kjbrown92]

So DH came home at 1am and I was half-awake anyway because my back was killing me, so I asked him how he did with the no dairy during the day. And he says, "Do m&ms have dairy in them? And what about Dove dark chocolate?" I said he may have been safe with the dark chocolate, but m&ms are definitely not safe. I was like, it's been 10 years off and on of no milk, why is that you can't figure it out. And considering that he says he needs a couple pounds, why is he eating candy all the time at work? It's not like he didn't have food with him - chicken marsala with rice, peanuts and raisins to snack on, and a salad.  Maybe he doesn't really want to know. But he's the one who complained about all the stomach issues. It's frustrating. He's an adult. I can only control his diet at home. Anyway I'm irked. So I finally took a muscle relaxer because I couldn't move without yelping but that was at about 1:30am so when I got up at 6:15 I was really groggy. But the good news was, both kids got up by themselves with their alarms, got dressed and came right down (actually all 3 kids, but DD2 doesn't have to go to school until 1.5 hours after the other two), ate their breakfast and no whining, complaining, or anything else. It was nice. I have to figure out what I did yesterday that was right! And I put DS back on cell salts this morning. And stuck the next dose in his grape juice in his thermos. Am I going to get in trouble for the zero tolerance drug policy if they find out? Or don't they count as drugs since they're naturally occuring salts?

[changingseasons]

Hugs everyone.

Kathy- that is annoying.  Seriously. 10 years.  Come on, man.

Ugh.  DD slept horrible last night.  No idea why.  Getting frustrated.  :(  Also getting frustrated because she's 3 now and I'm STILL waiting for her to be "daddy's girl".  Since she was born, she freaks out if DP does a.n.y.t.h.i.n.g. for her.  So when I need a night to just hole up in my office by myself, we have complete hysterics when it's time for her to get out of the bathtub and put on pj's.  "Noooooo!  Mama's has to do it!!"  Seriously.  Driving me up a wall.  Won't let DP wipe her hands after eating, help her get dressed, brush her teeth, anything.  It's really frustrating for him too, and I see him pulling away from her when she freaks out like that.  Any suggestions?  Or do I just wait... and wait... and wait....?

[Sandrine]

I am sooooo frustrated with the running around to see where my referal is with the hospital and between the dr's office. UGH

[Theloose]

hugs, cs and sandrine and heidi

Kathy, I'm placing bets on dh not wanting to know for sure that dairy is an issue.  Losing a food is no fun.
 

Originally Posted by changingseasons 

Hugs everyone.

Kathy- that is annoying.  Seriously. 10 years.  Come on, man.

Ugh.  DD slept horrible last night.  No idea why.  Getting frustrated.  :(  Also getting frustrated because she's 3 now and I'm STILL waiting for her to be "daddy's girl".  Since she was born, she freaks out if DP does a.n.y.t.h.i.n.g. for her.  So when I need a night to just hole up in my office by myself, we have complete hysterics when it's time for her to get out of the bathtub and put on pj's.  "Noooooo!  Mama's has to do it!!"  Seriously.  Driving me up a wall.  Won't let DP wipe her hands after eating, help her get dressed, brush her teeth, anything.  It's really frustrating for him too, and I see him pulling away from her when she freaks out like that.  Any suggestions?  Or do I just wait... and wait... and wait....?

What *do* they do together?  How do they bond?  Dh is really good at making games out of things, and dd will respond to that when I'm stuck.  Do you think there might be a reason why she's refusing him?  Do/have you ever implied that he's not doing it 'right'?  (That might be what happens around here )

[changingseasons]

Originally Posted by Theloose 

What *do* they do together?  How do they bond?  Dh is really good at making games out of things, and dd will respond to that when I'm stuck.  Do you think there might be a reason why she's refusing him?  Do/have you ever implied that he's not doing it 'right'?  (That might be what happens around here )

Errr.... possibly.    I try not to do it in front of her though.  He just doesn't listen well (to me either)- like if DD is asking him something, and he's in the middle of something else (cooking, watching TV, playing on the computer, whatever), he literally just can't hear people talking.  It's a HUGE pet-peeve of mine, so I remind him that he needs to listen and respond when she's talking- even if it's a "oh- that's nice."  And he has a tendency to just pick her up and take her where he needs her, rather than explaining to her first that it's bathtime, or we need to get our shoes on, or whatever- and she doesn't respond well to that, she's too independent and want to do everything (and make the decision to do it) herself.  I'm trying to remind her to use her words and tell him what she needs from him (since he responds well to that), but that hasn't been too successful yet either.

[chlobo]

Originally Posted by changingseasons 

Originally Posted by Theloose 

What *do* they do together?  How do they bond?  Dh is really good at making games out of things, and dd will respond to that when I'm stuck.  Do you think there might be a reason why she's refusing him?  Do/have you ever implied that he's not doing it 'right'?  (That might be what happens around here )

Errr.... possibly.    I try not to do it in front of her though.  He just doesn't listen well (to me either)- like if DD is asking him something, and he's in the middle of something else (cooking, watching TV, playing on the computer, whatever), he literally just can't hear people talking.  It's a HUGE pet-peeve of mine, so I remind him that he needs to listen and respond when she's talking- even if it's a "oh- that's nice."  And he has a tendency to just pick her up and take her where he needs her, rather than explaining to her first that it's bathtime, or we need to get our shoes on, or whatever- and she doesn't respond well to that, she's too independent and want to do everything (and make the decision to do it) herself.  I'm trying to remind her to use her words and tell him what she needs from him (since he responds well to that), but that hasn't been too successful yet either.

Wait a minute.  Are you talking about *MY* DH?  The man has serious listening issues.  It's also been my pet peeve since we met.  It is sooooooooooo irritating.  Just this weekend we were talking about DDs schedule and I was saying she needed another activity b/c her only activity was DI on Monday.  Monday rolls around and DD asks "what am I going to do today after school?" and I say DI and DH says, no, that's not today.  huh?  Hellooo?  

[kjbrown92]

Originally Posted by changingseasons 

Hugs everyone.

Kathy- that is annoying.  Seriously. 10 years.  Come on, man.

Ugh.  DD slept horrible last night.  No idea why.  Getting frustrated.  :(  Also getting frustrated because she's 3 now and I'm STILL waiting for her to be "daddy's girl".  Since she was born, she freaks out if DP does a.n.y.t.h.i.n.g. for her.  So when I need a night to just hole up in my office by myself, we have complete hysterics when it's time for her to get out of the bathtub and put on pj's.  "Noooooo!  Mama's has to do it!!"  Seriously.  Driving me up a wall.  Won't let DP wipe her hands after eating, help her get dressed, brush her teeth, anything.  It's really frustrating for him too, and I see him pulling away from her when she freaks out like that.  Any suggestions?  Or do I just wait... and wait... and wait....?

You could always go away for a few hours and she won't have any choice. Or can he take her somewhere fun that you usually take her - the library or somewhere there's no food? My kids go to DH if they want rough-housing or playing board games, me if they want food or if they have an injury or splinter.
 

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Originally Posted by chlobo 

Originally Posted by changingseasons 
Errr.... possibly.    I try not to do it in front of her though.  He just doesn't listen well (to me either)- like if DD is asking him something, and he's in the middle of something else (cooking, watching TV, playing on the computer, whatever), he literally just can't hear people talking.  It's a HUGE pet-peeve of mine, so I remind him that he needs to listen and respond when she's talking- even if it's a "oh- that's nice."  And he has a tendency to just pick her up and take her where he needs her, rather than explaining to her first that it's bathtime, or we need to get our shoes on, or whatever- and she doesn't respond well to that, she's too independent and want to do everything (and make the decision to do it) herself.  I'm trying to remind her to use her words and tell him what she needs from him (since he responds well to that), but that hasn't been too successful yet either.

Wait a minute.  Are you talking about *MY* DH?  The man has serious listening issues.  It's also been my pet peeve since we met.  It is sooooooooooo irritating.  Just this weekend we were talking about DDs schedule and I was saying she needed another activity b/c her only activity was DI on Monday.  Monday rolls around and DD asks "what am I going to do today after school?" and I say DI and DH says, no, that's not today.  huh?  Hellooo?  

No, it's MY DH. I have to go stand in front of the TV if he's watching it to get him to respond. He's oblivious to everything else. And he's admitted that he says okay to things without actually listening (of course I wish I knew ahead of time when he wasn't really listening, I could get permission to buy all sorts of things, and say "well you said..."). hee hee. And if there is a Disney movie on anywhere, even if DH is doing something else (playing cards, cooking, talking to friends, anything) he'll get sucked into it. If there's a cartoon on, he has to sit with his back to it.

I gave him one of my chocolate bars from my stash today to take to work, so that he won't succumb to the dairy temptation. And he liked my mocha almond fudge coconut milk ice cream a little too much yesterday!

I've got sandwich bread rising, but I sooooo want French bread. Every since Jacqueline (yes I'm blaming you) was talking about the subs I've been craving a hot turkey sub. I don't even know where to start. I read Julia's explanation of how to make French bread but I don't really think her method can be used without gluten. I wonder if there's any gluten-free French people who have recipes for bread?
 

[chlobo]

You are *NOT* allowed to give him your stash.  Not allowed.  They are yours.  Yours I tell you.

Originally Posted by kjbrown92 

Originally Posted by changingseasons 

Hugs everyone.

Kathy- that is annoying.  Seriously. 10 years.  Come on, man.

Ugh.  DD slept horrible last night.  No idea why.  Getting frustrated.  :(  Also getting frustrated because she's 3 now and I'm STILL waiting for her to be "daddy's girl".  Since she was born, she freaks out if DP does a.n.y.t.h.i.n.g. for her.  So when I need a night to just hole up in my office by myself, we have complete hysterics when it's time for her to get out of the bathtub and put on pj's.  "Noooooo!  Mama's has to do it!!"  Seriously.  Driving me up a wall.  Won't let DP wipe her hands after eating, help her get dressed, brush her teeth, anything.  It's really frustrating for him too, and I see him pulling away from her when she freaks out like that.  Any suggestions?  Or do I just wait... and wait... and wait....?

You could always go away for a few hours and she won't have any choice. Or can he take her somewhere fun that you usually take her - the library or somewhere there's no food? My kids go to DH if they want rough-housing or playing board games, me if they want food or if they have an injury or splinter.
 

 Quote:

Originally Posted by chlobo 

Originally Posted by changingseasons 
Errr.... possibly.    I try not to do it in front of her though.  He just doesn't listen well (to me either)- like if DD is asking him something, and he's in the middle of something else (cooking, watching TV, playing on the computer, whatever), he literally just can't hear people talking.  It's a HUGE pet-peeve of mine, so I remind him that he needs to listen and respond when she's talking- even if it's a "oh- that's nice."  And he has a tendency to just pick her up and take her where he needs her, rather than explaining to her first that it's bathtime, or we need to get our shoes on, or whatever- and she doesn't respond well to that, she's too independent and want to do everything (and make the decision to do it) herself.  I'm trying to remind her to use her words and tell him what she needs from him (since he responds well to that), but that hasn't been too successful yet either.

Wait a minute.  Are you talking about *MY* DH?  The man has serious listening issues.  It's also been my pet peeve since we met.  It is sooooooooooo irritating.  Just this weekend we were talking about DDs schedule and I was saying she needed another activity b/c her only activity was DI on Monday.  Monday rolls around and DD asks "what am I going to do today after school?" and I say DI and DH says, no, that's not today.  huh?  Hellooo?  

No, it's MY DH. I have to go stand in front of the TV if he's watching it to get him to respond. He's oblivious to everything else. And he's admitted that he says okay to things without actually listening (of course I wish I knew ahead of time when he wasn't really listening, I could get permission to buy all sorts of things, and say "well you said..."). hee hee. And if there is a Disney movie on anywhere, even if DH is doing something else (playing cards, cooking, talking to friends, anything) he'll get sucked into it. If there's a cartoon on, he has to sit with his back to it.

I gave him one of my chocolate bars from my stash today to take to work, so that he won't succumb to the dairy temptation. And he liked my mocha almond fudge coconut milk ice cream a little too much yesterday!

I've got sandwich bread rising, but I sooooo want French bread. Every since Jacqueline (yes I'm blaming you) was talking about the subs I've been craving a hot turkey sub. I don't even know where to start. I read Julia's explanation of how to make French bread but I don't really think her method can be used without gluten. I wonder if there's any gluten-free French people who have recipes for bread?
 

[kjbrown92]

Quote:

Originally Posted by chlobo 

You are *NOT* allowed to give him your stash.  Not allowed.  They are yours.  Yours I tell you.

Don't worry. It's the only one he's getting. Just to get him through one friggin' day where he doesn't cheat!

[DevaMajka]

gah. How frustrating- ds2 messes it up every time I start posting. Anyway:

Kathy- that sounds like my dp. I'm sure he'd not realize that milk choc had dairy in it. lol. He promised to do better with the kids though.

Deditus- jeez! What a reaction! Hopefully it doesn't happen again. Maybe it's to a very specific chemical, so you won't encounter it again?

Tanya- hope you got the butter all cleaned up, and a snack that made you happy.

I'm debating on what to do ED wise this weekend. Either wheat and dairy free for both kids (on top of ds2's restrictions already), or just go whole hog and take out the top 8, corn, citrus, and chocolate for ds1, and a few other random foods I've suspected for ds2 (tomato, most fruit other than apple, onion, garlic).

plus I don't know the chance that ds1 can/will stick to it when he goes back to school on Monday.

I've had all those foods (and more) out for ds2 at one point or another, but we were always eating something that's on his current "probably a trigger" list. So I suppose the best thing to do is to try removing them all again, now that we are pretty sure of some of the triggers.

I'm tired of not knowing, I'm tired of trying to figure it out, and now it's doubled with ds1's issues. blah.

[Sandrine]

i was thinking you were all talking about my dh?! lol Mine gets distracted very easily and then he doesn't listen. He's like the electronic babysitter aka tv to help him watch the kids. He's good though to bring them to the park or going out to sleigh.

I had a french gf bread recipe that I just used like a sandwich bread it was from on of the online recipe sites. I'll try to find it for you, Karen. I know that I really liked it and dd3 did too.

as for my phone call shuffling. I think that's over. sheesh that was one big mix up and I didn't really help. :bag: I called the wrong doc office but she was super nice and help me by faxing the referal to the right doc's office after I found out that it probably never got sent from the ER dept here. Now waiting for the right doc to call. The secretary there told me that there was about a 2mth waiting and that it also depends on the emergency of the situation. I ask if a 31wks pg woman with kidney stones was urgent and she went ohh, probably" but didn't want to commit. lol

[Theloose]

Originally Posted by kjbrown92 

No, it's MY DH. I have to go stand in front of the TV if he's watching it to get him to respond. He's oblivious to everything else. And he's admitted that he says okay to things without actually listening (of course I wish I knew ahead of time when he wasn't really listening, I could get permission to buy all sorts of things, and say "well you said..."). hee hee. And if there is a Disney movie on anywhere, even if DH is doing something else (playing cards, cooking, talking to friends, anything) he'll get sucked into it. If there's a cartoon on, he has to sit with his back to it.

I gave him one of my chocolate bars from my stash today to take to work, so that he won't succumb to the dairy temptation. And he liked my mocha almond fudge coconut milk ice cream a little too much yesterday!

I've got sandwich bread rising, but I sooooo want French bread. Every since Jacqueline (yes I'm blaming you) was talking about the subs I've been craving a hot turkey sub. I don't even know where to start. I read Julia's explanation of how to make French bread but I don't really think her method can be used without gluten. I wonder if there's any gluten-free French people who have recipes for bread?
 

What makes it french bread for you?

The ones that get distracted here and don't pay attention are dd and me MIL does it to, though, so dh 'gets' it and doesn't blame us.  It just turned on all of a sudden with dd, and it's such a focus thing, that my money is on dopamine or something similar being at play.  We don't have a TV cause I can't regulate myself and don't do well with screentime (computer included :().  That's part of why the videos that dd watches all the time bug me, but they actually seem to be good downtime for her.

Speaking of focus, I was realizing yesterday, when I was clearly in a bad place (reaction?  to dd screaming?  to missing a dose of glutathione?  to food?) that I *REALLY* wanted a project to help myself focus.  And that lack of a project would direct me to the computer.  I was craving something to focus my mind, cause without it I just couldn't concentrate on anything.  I've always been a project person.  If projects are a coping mechanism... I'm feeling lost in the land of symptoms vs coping mechanisms vs personality traits.
 

Originally Posted by DevaMajka 

I'm tired of not knowing, I'm tired of trying to figure it out, and now it's doubled with ds1's issues. blah.

I *SO* know the feeling.  Big hugs.

Originally Posted by Sandrine 

as for my phone call shuffling. I think that's over. sheesh that was one big mix up and I didn't really help. :bag: I called the wrong doc office but she was super nice and help me by faxing the referal to the right doc's office after I found out that it probably never got sent from the ER dept here. Now waiting for the right doc to call. The secretary there told me that there was about a 2mth waiting and that it also depends on the emergency of the situation. I ask if a 31wks pg woman with kidney stones was urgent and she went ohh, probably" but didn't want to commit. lol

Reminds me of when I called the OB to schedule a check up cause I was 10+ days post dates with dd and they said the next available appointment was in about 6 weeks.  Yeeeaaaaahhhh, that's not really going to work.  I got scheduled for monday morning, then went into labor instead.

[lil_miss_understood]

[DevaMajka]

Originally Posted by Theloose 

Reminds me of when I called the OB to schedule a check up cause I was 10+ days post dates with dd and they said the next available appointment was in about 6 weeks.  Yeeeaaaaahhhh, that's not really going to work.  I got scheduled for monday morning, then went into labor instead.

 

[DevaMajka]

I am officially sick of hospital visits, dr. visits, vet visits, and the kids being sick. I'd like to say I'm done. but I can't be. Them's the cards I was dealt.

Our dog had mast cell tumors removed a bunch of months ago. They came back, and she's doing so well that we decided to have them removed again last week. Well, dp accidentally left her cone off after feeding her, and she removed a couple of stitches, so back in she went to have it stitched again. Another couple hundred $ later, I'm guessing (I'll pick her up at 7 tonight).  On top of that, they had to remove so much tissue that there's not much skin left to stitch, so I'm worried about that.

K (ds1) went to the doc today, and we got referred to an allergist, so yay!

ETA: his appt is next Wed. That beats the pants off the 12 month wait for J's allergist appt! If I like this allergist, I'll take J to the clinic and have them refer him.

We're going to take J (ds2) to a pedi at a walk in clinic tomorrow (probably), to figure out why he has so much trouble breathing when he gets a cold. He's been in the hospital for labored breathing 3 times in the last 2 mos- every time he gets a cold. We've been told it could be asthma, reactive airway disease, or bronchiolitis. The dx depends on the doc. We have a puffer for him, which helped last time- he didn't need to be admitted that time because his oxygen levels were decent, though we went back twice. The previous 2 times he was there for 2 days each, with oxygen levels as low as 85 both times.

So if y'all wouldn't mind, would you cross your fingers that it will just get smoother from here?

Edited by DevaMajka - 1/6/11 at 5:58pm

[changingseasons]

[Sandrine]

Becky~   Hope it gets better soon. 

[chlobo]

Crossing my fings.

[lil_miss_understood]

Becky