I'm new here so don't kill me if I'm asking questions that have been answered a million times over. I tried reading through recent posts but nothing seemed to fit my situation. NOTHING seems to fit my situation.
DS was the perfect sleeper when he was first born. He slept all night long (waking to nurse every 2 hours) until he was 2 months old when he started STTN. He STTN until he was 4 months old and then started waking once or twice a night. Okay, fine, I can handle that. By 5 months he was waking a few times a night and I was getting worn out. We took him out of his bassinet which was right next to my side of the bed and arranged his crib as a side car (with the front taken off and pushed up to the bed) thinking he was getting to big/uncomfortable in his bassinet. That did little to help the multiple night wakings. Around 7 months, he started waking EVERY SINGLE HOUR of the night, sometimes giving me a couple hours in the morning to sleep. This continued until just recently. We eventually put the front back on his crib in hopes that a little distance from me would keep him from waking to nurse so frequently. The crib is put together and the short end is against the bed by my head. He sleeps best and longest when he's in bed with me, but I sleep so lightly and wake frequently when he's next to me...not to mention his new found appreciation for nighttime gymnastics. Around 8 months he started screaming every time I/we would try to put him to sleep. An LC suggested we cut wheat out of his diet to see if that helps with the screaming. It does seem to have had an impact.
He is now 9.5 months old and our nights are still wakeful but no screaming. Naps have gotten a lot better and he'll sleep 45min - 1.5hrs in his crib alone without waking (sometimes 45min, nurse, another 45min). At night, he'll nurse to sleep without screaming. Then I'll get 2-4 hours of sleep before he wakes for the first time. I'll get up, nurse him to sleep, back in his crib, and he'll sleep another 2 hours. Then it's up every hour until I bring him into bed with me. Sometimes I bring him into bed the first time he wakes, sometimes the second, sometimes the third...
I don't know what to do. I NEED more sleep. I'm exhausted beyond belief. I'm not looking to night wean him, but I really don't think he needs to nurse for food as often as he's nursing in the night. Even if he woke twice a night to nurse, I could handle that. Once a night would be ideal. He does eat solids (BLW) and eats a decent lunch and dinner. DH has never gotten up with him in the night because there's been no point. DS won't take a bottle so it'd be pointless for me to pump and give him a bottle.
Part of me is wondering about doing some gentle sleep training. DH is off for a week, so 9 days starting this Sat. I was thinking of working with him to help comfort DS back to sleep without nursing if he wakes after less than 3 or 4 hours, making sure DS stays awake and properly nurses when I do nurse him. And not letting DS in our bed at all (I'm wondering if he's waking so frequently because I'm inconsistent with when I bring him to bed with me). I'd love to keep DS in our bed if he would snuggle sweetly and not beat me up all night long and/or if I could actually sleep with him in bed with me.
What do you think? Any suggestions? Please....I'm desperate!