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January 2012 Update:  I will not be able to maintain this thread for 2012.  I am expecting a LO in the very near future and with my other LO and various other commitments, I just won't be able to participate.  If someone would like to take over, please just copy the first page (and/or format how you see fit) into a new thread for 2012.  The list is updated through today, January 11.


 

Wanting But Waiting Tribe ~ 2011

 

This tribe is for those of us who are longing for a baby right now but, for whatever reason, are waiting to try for one. This is the place to go for support from others in the same boat.

 

If I miss an addition or change, please either PM me or note it in red.  Please include what year you would like to be listed under and/or if you are requesting to be added or moved.  Thanks! smile.gif

 

 

 

Pregnant or Starting Now!    dust.gif

 

 

 

Wanting But Waiting ~ 2012

 

  • MedicBaby21 - Late 2011 - Spring 2012
  • tulgey - January
  • MrsJJ - April
  • nattery - Spring
  • treeoflife3 - Spring
  • librarygirl - May
  • zenmumajen - Spring/Summer
  • buterflymomma - June/July
  • Brown Lioness - Summer
  • homegrowngirl - Summer
  • swelldoula - Summer
  • RavenStar - Summer/Fall
  • CorriJ - December

 

 

 

Wanting But Waiting ~ 2013 and Beyond

 

  • C is for Cookie - Spring
  • CarsonBookworm
  • poetlizabeth
  • TenOfHearts
  • treehugger86

 

 

 

Wanting But Waiting ~ A Little Bit Longer

 

  • betmina
  • BHappy
  • button-nose
  • canadianhippie
  • CatholicGirl
  • ChristiJohnson1
  • colta
  • CTH3989
  • Dacks
  • dejagerw
  • eblindauer
  • freyja137
  • HerbanGirl
  • HibpTon
  • janinemh
  • JHopesMomma
  • justKate
  • lakeruby
  • Lyterae
  • Magelet
  • maia.springgoddess
  • Mamabear<3
  • mi.birthdoula
  • molliecat
  • MommatoAandA
  • mwright
  • PinkGeek
  • rachel65655
  • sarahdavida
  • Thyme Mama
  • VK1987

 

 


Edited by Mulvah - 1/11/12 at 12:10pm
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Yay for the new thread!

post #3 of 505

I'm excited to see the new thread and to have a tribe! Can't wait to get to know all of you W but W ladies.  I intro'ed myself at the end of last years thread, but I'll do it again just in case. :)

 

I have one DS who is 15m.  I SAH with him and we're having a blast.  DH and I are already in our mid-thirties, so the clock is ticking a little bit on having more kiddos. DH has been ready for #2 since DS was born basically, but I wanted to wait till he was 1 at least to TTC.  Around his 1st bday I did get the baby itch pretty badly and I have a mama friend IRL with a DD the same age as my DS who got pg right before they turned 1.  But my fertility hasn't returned yet due to BFing. . .so after doing a lot of research and thinking and wishing and hanging out on the TTC boards and kinda driving myself crazy, I decided that I want to wait till DS is 2 before TTC.  I couldn't veen get pg right now without enforcing some weaning which I don't want to do and anyway, I decided that I don't want to risk loosing my milk supply while pg before DS is 2. 

 

So here we are. . .wanting but waiting.  Hopefully my fertility will return on its own and right about the time we'd like to get pg again (towards the Fall of 2011).  

post #4 of 505

Oh I'll intro myself too. 

 

Peanut (DD) is 21 months old. I'm a part-time student and SaHM. DH and I have always planned on having another when Peanut was around 3 and we decided on a 3-month window where we'd like to get pregnant because of my schooling. DH is excited, but scared. This is the first time we've planned a pregnancy. :-P I'm mostly just excited. I like the idea of knowing ahead of time and being excited to find out. 

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Hello, Ladies! 

 

 

 

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Oh I'll intro myself too. 

 

Peanut (DD) is 21 months old. I'm a part-time student and SaHM. DH and I have always planned on having another when Peanut was around 3 and we decided on a 3-month window where we'd like to get pregnant because of my schooling. DH is excited, but scared. This is the first time we've planned a pregnancy. :-P I'm mostly just excited. I like the idea of knowing ahead of time and being excited to find out. 


I understand that sentiment.  We weren't actively preventing, but I was not expecting to get pregnant, either.  I think planning a pregnancy has a different feel to it, for me.


Edited by Mulvah - 1/29/11 at 4:00pm
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Well I thought I would join in.  I am wanting, but we are waiting, at least until DH is nearing the end of his dissertation.  We are mid thirties, so there isn't not alot of time. 

 

We are waiting mostly for financial reasons, and also because we haven't fully recovered frm having our first 2 children only 12 mths apart.   I am a fulltime WOHM (not by choice) and would with the next one would like to only work part time, but as a fulltime PhD student DH bascially is in the office/library 40+ hours a week, but doesn't bring in an income. So it is complex.  Can we support a family of five on my part time salary? Maybe...depending on where we live. Anyway sorry to carry on just wanted to say Hi and we are wanting but waiting at least until the April/MAY 2011.

 

Oh and any of you wanting and waiting ladies who are charting, feel free to join us over in CTA.

 

Kris

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I will join!  I'm new to these boards and still trying to get the hang of it all...BUT-

 

I just had my tubal ligation reversed, and we have to wait another 3 months to try.  It seems like a long wait!  SO I guess we are wanting but waiting.

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I need to join, I am desperate for another baby!

 

However, I had a HORRIBLE postpartum YEAR with kiddo (I'm sincerely terrified of doing it again with another baby) and have other issues to work out as well (which probably helped add to how horrible her first year was for me) before I can handle trying it again.  That and some other things put our marriage in an upheaval so we need to get back on track...

 

and on top of that, my husband is deployed anyway.  Gone til the end of summer ish.  Kinda hard to get knocked up!

 

At the earliest, we probably won't try til spring 2012 :(  I'd LOVE to get pregnant at the end of the year so I can have a September baby however husband is getting out of the army when he gets home and we might be moving out of state nov/dec so uh.... not a good time to try when we will still be working on US and readjusting after another deployment!  Hopefully by then I'll at least be much better hehe.

 

At any rate, its crazy how badly I have the baby itch.  It even started when kiddo was only like 6 months old which is pretty ridiculous considering how badly my hormones were messed up!

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I will join!  I'm new to these boards and still trying to get the hang of it all...BUT-

 

I just had my tubal ligation reversed, and we have to wait another 3 months to try.  It seems like a long wait!  SO I guess we are wanting but waiting.



Wow!  I can't imagine how excited you must be to start.  smile.gif 

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Originally Posted by dashley111 View Post

I will join!  I'm new to these boards and still trying to get the hang of it all...BUT-

 

I just had my tubal ligation reversed, and we have to wait another 3 months to try.  It seems like a long wait!  SO I guess we are wanting but waiting.



Wow!  I can't imagine how excited you must be to start.  smile.gif 


We are!  Its hard to be patient knowing that after so long my body can finally do want I want it to- But, I am hardly "back to normal" and my doc hasn't given us the go ahead...so...we wait.

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I had this super vivid dream last night about getting a BFP on a FRER. So of course when I woke up this morning I peed on one. . .but no surprise, BFN. I should just not keep any HPTs in the house. Seriously.  Then I went on FB and found out one of my friends is pg.  Sometimes it seems like everyone else is getting pg!  And I know all my reasons for waiting and my New Years resolution is to try and be happy in the moment and not always trying to predict and control the future. . . but it still hard not to fantasize about seeing those two lines.  Sigh. I couldn't get pg if I tried at this point (still haven't had return of cycles from BFing), which is a good thing really, but it's weird not to know when my fertility will return. Its weird to know that I CAN'T get pg. And charting is just annoying at this point.

 

Okay, pity party over.  

 

Nice to be getting to know some of you other WbW mamas!  It's hard to wait. . . whatever the reasons are. Hope it goes quickly for us all!  I try to think of how awful morning sickness is when the baby itch really gets bad. 

post #12 of 505

It is SO hard when the people around you are getting BFP's and having babies.  There's no shame in a small but fierce pity party!hug.gif

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It is SO hard when the people around you are getting BFP's and having babies.  There's no shame in a small but fierce pity party!hug.gif



Thanks dashley!  I'm curious, if you don't mind me asking, do you have kiddos already and just decided you wanted more after the tubal? (Or never wanted them till now?)  Anyway, that must be a hard wait, but awesome that you were able to have that reversed!  

 

I know my DH is pretty anti-vasectomy precisely b/c of the permanence of it.  I'm glad he wants to remain open to having babies. .. but someday it might be nice not to have to worry about BC.  We have always agreed on definitely 2 and maybe 3 kids, but I feel that he leans more towards 2.  If I was younger I'd want 4 or 5. . .but since that ain't gonna happen, I do fantasize about 3.  We'll see how I feel after 2 though!

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I have 2 kids and thought I was done- but I was also unmarried/recently divorced when my youngest was born...not a good time to make decisions!  I agree that opting for a less permanent type of birth control is best.  You dont ever know where life will take you, and what you will find yourself wanting later in life, I guess...

 

 

 

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I posted an intro on the old thread but I'll do it again here.  My husband recently shocked me by saying he wanted to have another baby - I thought he was totally done so I was surprised when he said he wanted to have a fourth. Originally we were going to start trying immediately but we've decided to wait until June. I work full time as an L&D nurse and he is pretty much a SAHD.  If we wait it will double the amount of paid time off I have for maternity leave and help us get our finances in a better place to let me take longer maternity leave also.  I am still breastfeeding our little one who is 15 months, and I don't want to wean him yet, and my personal preference would be to have a baby in spring or summer instead of winter.

 

It is so hard to wait though.  Every time I have a birth at work I just want to throw sensibility out the window and start trying. I can't wait to be pregnant again, and give birth another time and meet a new little person. I am so excited to have another baby!

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Originally Posted by BeanSprout Mama View Post

I posted an intro on the old thread but I'll do it again here.  My husband recently shocked me by saying he wanted to have another baby - I thought he was totally done so I was surprised when he said he wanted to have a fourth. Originally we were going to start trying immediately but we've decided to wait until June. I work full time as an L&D nurse and he is pretty much a SAHD.  If we wait it will double the amount of paid time off I have for maternity leave and help us get our finances in a better place to let me take longer maternity leave also.  I am still breastfeeding our little one who is 15 months, and I don't want to wean him yet, and my personal preference would be to have a baby in spring or summer instead of winter.

 

It is so hard to wait though.  Every time I have a birth at work I just want to throw sensibility out the window and start trying. I can't wait to be pregnant again, and give birth another time and meet a new little person. I am so excited to have another baby!


Just wanted to hay hi - always happy to see another RN here at MDC.  I am a family nurse practitioner, prior to that I was an ICU nurse.

Oh and both my babies were spring babies, by chance, but it works out very well I think.  You're not pregnant during the summer and then as soon as the baby is born it gets warm, so you are never having to deal with bundling up a newborn...

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I'd like to join. I currently have 2 daughters- 4 and 6 years old. I thought for sure I was done after dd#2, but a switch flipped for me on her 4th birthday and now I'm really really ready for another bambino! Dh has always wanted 3, so there is no need to have to talk him into anything.

Why are we waiting? I'm in my last semester of nursing school. I have always had fairly easy pregnancies and I wouldn't expect another pregnancy to be any different- but you never know.I don't want anything to come between me and that stinking RN license, especially when it's within sight now.

Our goal is to put of the urge to TTC until I graduate in May...

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I can't believe I am posting here, but I am feeling the itch again.  DD1 is 2.5 and DD2 is 4 months.  I just really want to be pregnant for some reason.  So weird.  fertility did not return until DD1 was 16 months and I got pregnant the next month.  I think it is a good age range and I want to nurse DD2 at least till 18 months (milk dried up upon conception with DD2, but we dry nursed and are tandem nursing now).  I am hoping that fertility stays away at least until DD2 is around 18 months, but I am so confused by the urge to have another one so soon.

 

post #19 of 505

Yeah, add me in here too, lol.  There just is no "done" is there!

I keep thinking I should have listened to my overwhelming urge to go for it when DS3 was just a few months old...  Now, as I see how active and busy he is, I think I have to wait until he is a little older...  like 2012 for me :)

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Hi Everybody, I would love to join.

 

I have an interesting story. I had my ds1 in 1998, and it took 6 ms to conceive which I consider normal. After the 1 year of terrible post partum was gone, I was ready to have one more. After 6 months of trying I got a faint line, but I had a m/c at 7 weeks.

 

Then it took more than 2 years of struggle. I was confirmed with 0% chance of having a baby due to blockage of both tubes. It was terrible to hear the news, we were thinking about IF, when the next month I got a BFP, just like THAT, and dd2 was born in 2003. (Wonderful birth...Gosh!).

 

Anyway, 2 years later DH wanted to have one more, but I wasn't ready, just started working, blah, blah... 2 more years later I was ready, but DH wasn't. (That's how it is.) And then, 2 years ago I got pg, because we weren't "careful" enough (a dream come true, when it's not you who decides). That was out of the blue, and while it took a long time for DH to accept it, he did, and he was happy. But I had another m/c at 7 weeks. But DH had already got used to the idea of having a third, so we started "not being careful".

 

Of course after 4 months I started charting and obsessing. Then I got pg, and a huge BFP told me everything was gonna be all right. I even waited until week 13 to go to a doctor, thinking that if anything, it would have happened already. How wrong was I. Blighted ovum. Had to have a D/C. We both were devastated. Now DH is not keen on the idea of having a third anymore. He says 1. he is too old (43), I'm too old (39), and the kids are too old (12 and 8). So we are not TTC at least for a while. But somehuuuw we weren't careful on New Years day, and I definitely feel like pg. I have had sooooo many BFN, that I don't dare to test. I'm scared of being and at the same time of not being pg. What if this is my only chance?

Sorry for being so long. Any insights are appreciated.grouphug.gif

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