Wanting But Waiting Tribe - 2011 - Page 6

[lactatinggirl]

Youngspiritmom- When I was going to school full-time, we were planning on having about 4.5 years between children so I could finish school first. It was longer than we wanted, but still reasonable and I thought it would be worth it to finish school before adding to our family. Then I decided that it was too hard to go to school full-time with a toddler, so now that I'm going part-time we're not willing to wait that long to have another. It's difficult to go to school even part-time with a child, but it's doable. 

Mulvah- I definitely suggest buying a half-cow and storing it in your freezer. When we bought our half pig (I haven't done it yet for the half cow we just got), it ended up being about the same price as buying meat at the store (not on sale, just regular price). It sucks to drop 1000 on a cow all at once and you have to factor in the freezer, but this meat is SO much better than the quality you get at the store and better for you. I don't feel at all guilty about feeding it to my daughter. Plus you get all different cuts of meat, so you learn to cook different cuts and you get nice ones that you may not buy in the store because of the price. 

[AndtheStars]

Kanga - I also look in the maternity clothes section sometimes at the clearance rack because I figure someday...It's so bad.

carepear - Interesting about the new moon.  I didn't even think about when I birthed but I just checked and DS was born 2 days after the full moon.  Weird!  I wonder if there is a bunch of meaning behind this that I should look into more.  My 18 mo DS is still nursing 5-6 times in 24 hours and my cycle came back at about 10 months PP.  I regulated pretty quickly so FX for you that the timing works. 

[youngspiritmom]

Thank you all for your helpful advice! I'm going to see how intense the work load is for this first semester and then take it from there. So probably will TTC sometime between Aug 2011 and Dec 2011. :) I appreciate you all taking the time to share advice w/me.

I too shop for maternity clothes even though I'm not pregnant! Soooo funny!

[belacmsage]

I put off buying maternity clothes until I could no longer fit into clothes that were a size bigger than normal. It was such a hassle trying to go shopping when I was already feeling horrible from the pregnancy. I am glad I have the clothes now for the next one. Baby clothes are another matter entirely. I can't resist looking every time.

[sosurreal09]

I gained 96lbs with DD. I still am shocked by this. IDK what went wrong. I did yoga and pilates throughout the pregnancy and ate well. I did quit smoking though and was laid off an active job. No one could guess I gained that because I was all belly. I am so afraid of what will happen with the next baby.

[justKate]

Hi ladies, can I join? 

My DD (only child) turned two on Monday, and I'm thinking babies. DH is NOT ready, and I'm trying really hard not to pressure him.  There's no compelling reason we should TTC now, but there's no real compelling reason we shouldn't, either. We're using FAM, and he's pretty involved in it, but doesn't completely trust it.  He wakes me every morning (for work, and on the weekends to temp), and I bookmarked my FF chart on his iphone, and I've taught him about it, but he doesn't trust it.  Of course I would never trick him into anything before he's ready, but I can't help but hope every time we dtd that he'll slip (we use withdrawal on fertile days, or abstain), or that he'll say "screw it" and ignore me when I say it's a dangerous day to dtd.  Today he made a joke about not playing with fire, and I told him to take his own advice. I mean, if he thinks dtd using FAM is risky, and he really wants to avoid a pg right now, he'd do something about it, right? Grr, it's frustrating.

I guess while I'm waiting for DH to come around, I should work on losing the last 10 lbs to get me back where I was 2 years ago.... LIke a PP mentioned, I need more motivation than just doing it for myself.

Mulvah, I really like the idea of a cow share. Last year DH killed 2 hogs, and we had them butchered.  They lasted a long time, although if we did it again I would get a grinder and just grind it all, to avoid paying the butcher.  My SIL in Oregon raises a cow every year.  They keep 1/2, and the other half goes to the butcher as payment and buys them a calf.  I wish I could do something like that.

[rachel65655]

I am desperately wanting another baby but it is just not the right time for us.  We have 7 children - the oldest is 13 and the youngest are 14mo old twin girls.

We had a scare last month even though we have been careful so we are being especially careful now :)  Hoping by the time the twins are 2 we might consider it again.

[belacmsage]

Well, we had an appointment with a preconception specialist and the blood work came back today. We've been given a green light to start TTC. We were thinking about waiting until April but now that the doctors say there is no reason to wait we are going to start trying now. I am due to O this week so maybe will will have a BFP early next month.  

[kangamitroo]

Originally Posted by belacmsage 

Well, we had an appointment with a preconception specialist and the blood work came back today. We've been given a green light to start TTC. We were thinking about waiting until April but now that the doctors say there is no reason to wait we are going to start trying now. I am due to O this week so maybe will will have a BFP early next month.  

good luck with TTC.  that's great news.

went to visit a friend who has a two-week-old baby.  i was amazed by how much energy she had, especially since she now has 5 under age 9.  i just recall how tired and crazy i felt postpartum, how scared i was to do that again.  this renews my desire to talk with a midwife, to figure out ahead of time what i could do to have a great experience.  my friend also reminded me to put aside my fears. she is a woman of faith, and feels 100% that God will give her (and me) what is needed for each baby.

[bodhicitta3]

 

Please add me to July 2011!

My background:  I have a DS 6 and a DD 4.  We have waited since both have had some medical issues.  (DS has hearing aides and dyspraxia and DD has Celiac and Epilepsy and Speech issues).

We feel we have gotten these things under control so we are going to start TTC in July.  I am a teacher so that would result in a (hopefully) late Spring or Summer baby and then I would have 12 weeks FMLA leave too.  I work at a center that has a daycare so the baby could come to work with me and hopefully I could nurse and visit on my lunch.

I have a Mirena IUD (for 3 years now) and I want to have it removed.  How long should I wait?  Sooner or later?  thoughts?

[lactatinggirl]

Originally Posted by bodhicitta3 

 

Please add me to July 2011!

My background:  I have a DS 6 and a DD 4.  We have waited since both have had some medical issues.  (DS has hearing aides and dyspraxia and DD has Celiac and Epilepsy and Speech issues).

We feel we have gotten these things under control so we are going to start TTC in July.  I am a teacher so that would result in a (hopefully) late Spring or Summer baby and then I would have 12 weeks FMLA leave too.  I work at a center that has a daycare so the baby could come to work with me and hopefully I could nurse and visit on my lunch.

I have a Mirena IUD (for 3 years now) and I want to have it removed.  How long should I wait?  Sooner or later?  thoughts?

Hey we're waiting until then for the same reason! I'm in school (to become a teacher) and am aiming for a summer baby because of that.

Anywho, to your question. I would say at least 3 months. I had mine out over a month ago and this cycle has been all over the chart. Temps are crazy. CM is crazy. Tomorrow it'll be 39 days. I've heard of some women who get pregnant and stay pregnant immediately after removal, but I wouldn't chance it if you're going for a certain time window. Most people say their Dr tells them to wait 1-3 months because of the uterine lining building back up. I've also heard of a lot of women who get pregnant immediately after and lose the baby. As I said, I just got mine out. Partially because I want to give my body enough time to get ready, partially because I'm impatient and wanted to start CTA.

[Mulvah]

I'm glad to see there are others aiming for specific months/times.  We are actively avoiding certain months for a multitude of reasons and I feel strange about it.  I don't know why. 

 

Originally Posted by belacmsage 

Well, we had an appointment with a preconception specialist and the blood work came back today. We've been given a green light to start TTC. We were thinking about waiting until April but now that the doctors say there is no reason to wait we are going to start trying now. I am due to O this week so maybe will will have a BFP early next month.  

That's exciting! 

Originally Posted by justKate 

...Mulvah, I really like the idea of a cow share. Last year DH killed 2 hogs, and we had them butchered.  They lasted a long time, although if we did it again I would get a grinder and just grind it all, to avoid paying the butcher.  My SIL in Oregon raises a cow every year.  They keep 1/2, and the other half goes to the butcher as payment and buys them a calf.  I wish I could do something like that.

Wow, that's a really cool set-up your SIL has.  Like you, I wish I could do something similar.    I don't see us making the change anytime soon, partly because of room for a freezer and partly because I'm so damn cheap.  Sigh.  I do want to, though.

[mommy2bnc]

I'm so glad I found this thread.  What a great idea to have the support of others wanting but waiting.  DD is 2 and we just got through a year of her battling Neuroblastoma cancer.  Rounds of chemotherapy and major surgery later, she is clear of cancer right now! 

I got the itch a couple months ago to go ahead with baby #2, but we have a few hurdles.  DH's company went bankrupt and closed down so he is currently unemployed and I only work p/t from home.  Since we are in NC, our health insurance doesn't cover prenatal or maternity stuff unless you pay an extra $400 a month, and you can only add that option on when it's time to renew at the end of the year.  I can't wait for DH to find a job and we can get on that company's insurance and maybe when he starts getting into the swing of things with the new job, maybe his depression might lighten and he'll be on board for ttc again.  I'm thinking/hoping the latest we can start ttc would be Jan. 2012. Someone please tell me that date isn't as far away as it sounds!  I'll be turning 31 in March and wanted to have my kids before I was 30.  Ugh.

[Brighids Flame]

Hi everyone, I'm hoping I can join in here as well. I've been babysitting since I was 11, and been nannying for an incredible kid for 3 years, but I'm definitely ready for one that I don't have to give back at the end of the day/weekend!! Everything (knock on wood) seems to be falling into place for TTC in May/June of this year: I'll be done with school in early May, DH got an awesome raise, and we'll (finally!) be going on our honeymoon. We were planning on starting to try during our honeymoon, but my cycle got all wonky last month and it seems unlikely that I'll be ovulating while we're on vacation. I just started charting in January, and have a love/hate relationship with it (see: wonky cycle last month). I'll have to see how this month's cycle goes, but it currently looks like there's a chance I'll be ovulating twice in May, so we'll need to decide if we want to try before we leave for our honeymoon (and risk morning sickness if we're successful). We've been married 3 years, and I've been wanting but waiting even longer, so I can hardly believe we're only 2-3 months away!! Several of my friends just had babies so my baby cravings are super heightened right now, but I'm starting to feel overwhelmed by all the things I need to do before we start trying. Anyway, I'm looking forward to chatting with all of you and supporting each other as we wait!

[justKate]

Quote:

Originally Posted by belacmsage 

Well, we had an appointment with a preconception specialist and the blood work came back today. We've been given a green light to start TTC. We were thinking about waiting until April but now that the doctors say there is no reason to wait we are going to start trying now. I am due to O this week so maybe will will have a BFP early next month.  

That's very exciting!  

Originally Posted by kangamitroo 

good luck with TTC.  that's great news.

went to visit a friend who has a two-week-old baby.  i was amazed by how much energy she had, especially since she now has 5 under age 9.  i just recall how tired and crazy i felt postpartum, how scared i was to do that again.  this renews my desire to talk with a midwife, to figure out ahead of time what i could do to have a great experience.  my friend also reminded me to put aside my fears. she is a woman of faith, and feels 100% that God will give her (and me) what is needed for each baby.

Wow, 5 under 9.  I feel burnt out with one!  I think one of DH's hang ups is the hard time we had with DD--3 weeks in the NICU, no family support, colicky, unhappy baby, and me being new to all of it.... All of this stuff could/would be different each time around.  And I have so much less fear this time.  I hope when our time comes he can see these differences too.

[rachel65655]

Originally Posted by Mulvah 

I'm glad to see there are others aiming for specific months/times.  We are actively avoiding certain months for a multitude of reasons and I feel strange about it.  I don't know why. 

 

That's exciting! 

Wow, that's a really cool set-up your SIL has.  Like you, I wish I could do something similar.    I don't see us making the change anytime soon, partly because of room for a freezer and partly because I'm so damn cheap.  Sigh.  I do want to, though.

We homestead and have dairy cows, beef, hogs, chickens, etc...It's actually cheaper to raise it youself or buy from someone privately if you can't do it yourself  than it is to buy grocery store meat.  When you raise two hogs every 6 months you can have fresh pork in the freezer and sell the second one to cover butcher fees and the cost of raising 2 more.  We get $1.75/lb for our pork.

[bodhicitta3]

 

Well, I made the appt to get my IUD pulled and have my regular exam and preconception chat with a new midwife.  It isnt till late March but that should give us 3 good cycles before TTC to get my cycles in order.  I'm pretty excited.  DH called me from Toys R Us today while shopping with our 4 yo DD to say they were looking at baby stuff.... :-)

[Harleth]

Oh my goodness! We had a discussion last night and we are getting ready to give it a go. So this is my last Birth control cycle. Then I am going to wait and see how long it takes me to get a regular cycle going again. My OB said it could be 3 months...

So excited!

[Brighids Flame]

I called a midwife yesterday to make initial contact and it made this whole "we're going to be trying this year" thing feel WAY more real. I have a checklist of appointments I want to make (dentist , gp, chiropractor), and things I want to do around the house before we start trying, and it's starting to feel like I'm running out of time!! Anyone else making a pre-TTC list?

[justKate]

So excited for everyone who will begin TTC soon!

For those who are wanting but waiting more like a year or more to conceive:  Are you keeping all of the stuff?   I mean the baby stuff--like the mobile, the baby tub, the bucket seat, the tiny clothes.  DD is 2 now, and I've got 4 big plastic storage bins of clothing and toys that she's outgrown.  Then there's the bucket seat (it was only a "back up" seat anyway), the tub, the baby toys.  What's left of my maternity clothes.  How do you decide what to keep?  I expect DD to be at least four years old before we TTC.  I'll definitely keep my breast pump and a few outfits and favorite toys, but should I pass the rest on to others?