Wanting But Waiting Tribe - 2011 - Page 3

[belacmsage]

Hi. My name is Bela and I would like to join. My husband and I are wanting another baby but we are waiting since our little guy is only 6 months. We have decided to have them close together because that worked so well for both of us growing up. Also, I had to be on bed rest for four months with the first and if that happens again I don't want Connor remembering that I couldn't do anything with him for months. So, we are waiting until April 2011 to start trying. The first one took 8 months to conceive. Hopefully the second won't be quite as long a wait!    

[dashley111]

I have to second Kim- doesnt it feel like right now, when you are TRYING to wait patiently, everybody around you is pregnant or has newborns?  It makes it 100 times harder!

[LionessMom]

hello. due to circumstances beyond my control i have to wait for another little bundle of joy. i thought for sure that i was getting my fetility back after DD2 being 15 mo but i was wrong. so wrong. and it caused quite a bit of stress for me. so maybe this thread will help. because ttc threads arent lol. cant get pregnant if you arent ovulating. now that i think about it, the first ppo i had after DD1 was when she was 21 months. so since DD2 is only 15 mo i will probably have to wait at least 5 to 6 more months. then i will furiously be trying to make a baby.

i am not sure if i should even keep temping. i think it was driving me crazy. if i am not temping then i cant obsess over o'ing right? i think i will just let it go for awhile. i am afraid my supply will tank anyway. DD2 still nurses for most of her needs. and when DD1 was 22 months nursing was quite painful at 4 mo pregnant. she weaned and i dried up right away. so i am not sure what would happen. i have to wait until my body is ready. even though my heart is ready right now.

[lactatinggirl]

Originally Posted by JMJ 

Oh yes, my daughter has been asking for a baby for months.  At the same time, I guess she's not quite ready.  I'm also concerned about breastfeeding.  When I ovulated the first time, I'm guessing there was a drop in supply, and DD wanted to nurse all the time (like every 10 minutes, no joke!), and I hated to nurse her and was really uncomfortable.  She also used every bad nursing habit she could, which makes me think she was having a hard time getting milk out.  I'm a little afraid of the whole pregnancy being like that.  Anybody else?

I'm super afraid that my supply will go away when I'm pregnant. DD still relies on nursing so much, especially at night. I'm also freaked out about trying to parent two children to sleep because DD takes a lot of effort there too. Hopefully that'll be better by the time the next one comes. 

Originally Posted by LionessMom 

hello. due to circumstances beyond my control i have to wait for another little bundle of joy. i thought for sure that i was getting my fetility back after DD2 being 15 mo but i was wrong. so wrong. and it caused quite a bit of stress for me. so maybe this thread will help. because ttc threads arent lol. cant get pregnant if you arent ovulating. now that i think about it, the first ppo i had after DD1 was when she was 21 months. so since DD2 is only 15 mo i will probably have to wait at least 5 to 6 more months. then i will furiously be trying to make a baby.

i am not sure if i should even keep temping. i think it was driving me crazy. if i am not temping then i cant obsess over o'ing right? i think i will just let it go for awhile. i am afraid my supply will tank anyway. DD2 still nurses for most of her needs. and when DD1 was 22 months nursing was quite painful at 4 mo pregnant. she weaned and i dried up right away. so i am not sure what would happen. i have to wait until my body is ready. even though my heart is ready right now.

How are you even getting your temp with a 15 month old?!? I've been trying to temp with my 22 month old DD and it's so hard! She usually only wakes once a night, but for whatever reason has decided to up that to 2 times and it's throwing off my plan for temping. 

[JMJ]

Originally Posted by lactatinggirl 

How are you even getting your temp with a 15 month old?!? I've been trying to temp with my 22 month old DD and it's so hard! She usually only wakes once a night, but for whatever reason has decided to up that to 2 times and it's throwing off my plan for temping. 

Just take it at the same time every day.  My 22 month old still wakes 10-30(!) times a night, and my chart is understandable.  I just take it at 7 every day and make a note about when DD decides to get up at 5AM or something like that.  If you haven't had your first post-mirena ovulation, your temps are going to be crazy for a bit, and that's fine.

[LionessMom]

Originally Posted by lactatinggirl 

I'm super afraid that my supply will go away when I'm pregnant. DD still relies on nursing so much, especially at night. I'm also freaked out about trying to parent two children to sleep because DD takes a lot of effort there too. Hopefully that'll be better by the time the next one comes. 

How are you even getting your temp with a 15 month old?!? I've been trying to temp with my 22 month old DD and it's so hard! She usually only wakes once a night, but for whatever reason has decided to up that to 2 times and it's throwing off my plan for temping. 

 i usually take my temp at 5 am. we have usually been asleep for 4 hours straight at that point. she usually wakes to nurse at that point. so when she wakes to nurse i take my temp. i have my bbt tied to a string. it is tied to my headborad and then hangs down behind my bed. i just reach up, take my temp, and then drop it back down. we usually go back to sleep for another couple of hourse after that. (i had to hide my bbt bc DD2 kept finding it and she accidentally jabbed it in her gums, she is fine but i could see her jabbing her eyeball next). i think as long as you get 3 to 4 hours of sleep right before then you can rely on it. sometimes i got a couple of days without doing it bc my sleep gets messed up, but i figure it is just practice until my af starts up again.

[kismetbaby]

I have been trying to figure out how to temp too. We cosleep and DS wakes 3-4 (and sometimes more) times a night.  Its hard to find a consistent time, b/c his wakings aren't consistent.  I've been usually temping at about 4am when he wakes to nurse as I've usually had a longer stretch of sleep at that point.  Sometimes I am too sleepy though and it waits till 8am when we get up (but by then we've been half awake and nursing for awhile).  To try and get a sense of the discrepancy btw these I have been temping at 8am everyday in addition to the 4am. . .but I may be just confusing myself more.  Some nights the two are very close and sometimes not.  I feel like they haven't been so wildly erratic that I can't get a sense of things though. My temps have definitely been in the lower, pre-O zone since I started temping again about a month ago.

I think I Oed yesterday, but no thermal shift yet. I had a rise this morning, but not above the coverline yet. So we'll see. Even without TTC I am finding the waiting almost unbearable. . .did I O? Will my temps jump?  Argh.  I will be so frustrated if I have to keep having sore nipples, EWCM, and + OPK without Oing!

[Brown Lioness]

I have the creeping feeling that if we dont start trying this year that it may never happen. 

Maybe its hormones (im prolly O'ing), maybe its lurking in the threads concerning older mamas, maybe its thinking about how im in my THIRTIES and no longer necessarily primed for pregnancy according to many, but yea, i cant shake this creeping feeling and its scary and its nervewracking. Sigh

[BeanSprout Mama]

Originally Posted by Brown Lioness 

I have the creeping feeling that if we dont start trying this year that it may never happen. 

Maybe its hormones (im prolly O'ing), maybe its lurking in the threads concerning older mamas, maybe its thinking about how im in my THIRTIES and no longer necessarily primed for pregnancy according to many, but yea, i cant shake this creeping feeling and its scary and its nervewracking. Sigh

Me too. I'm 31 and very nervous about my fertility declining before we are "done." I'm pretty sure that #4 will be our last but then again I spent my entire third pregnancy knowing that he was our very last baby, so who knows what the future will bring. I don't want for us to realize that we want to have a huge family just in time to start going through perimenopause and having a lot of trouble getting pregnant!

Does anybody already have baby names picked out?  I'm already thinking and making decisions. DH won't discuss it yet, but I've got my favorites. Anybody else?

[Brown Lioness]

im 31 also and what worries me is the statistic that mentions how women who have their first in their 30s have more complicated pregnancies than those who had their first in their 20s.  Obviously, i know that this is not true for everyone and i am pretty healthy, but there's that nagging in the back of my mind.  My husband is totally blase about it all, he has no sense of urgency whatsoever about this, so its just me and that makes me feel lonely sometimes.

I do have names "picked out" though i try to be open minded that once the baby is here, i may very well think they seem more like another name than the one i picked for them.  For girls, so far I like the the following names:

Celeste

Malaika

Ayele

And the boy names ive liked so far are:

Khi (hubby's pick)

Cesar (sigh, another hubby pick smh lol0

Elijah

Jalani

Originally Posted by BeanSprout Mama 

Originally Posted by Brown Lioness 

I have the creeping feeling that if we dont start trying this year that it may never happen. 

Maybe its hormones (im prolly O'ing), maybe its lurking in the threads concerning older mamas, maybe its thinking about how im in my THIRTIES and no longer necessarily primed for pregnancy according to many, but yea, i cant shake this creeping feeling and its scary and its nervewracking. Sigh

Me too. I'm 31 and very nervous about my fertility declining before we are "done." I'm pretty sure that #4 will be our last but then again I spent my entire third pregnancy knowing that he was our very last baby, so who knows what the future will bring. I don't want for us to realize that we want to have a huge family just in time to start going through perimenopause and having a lot of trouble getting pregnant!

Does anybody already have baby names picked out?  I'm already thinking and making decisions. DH won't discuss it yet, but I've got my favorites. Anybody else?

[CatholicGirl]

I would like to join you. I definitely want to have kids someday. I'm not sure when. We're newly married and waiting for my husband to get a full time job with benefits. (Right now he works part time and his insurance is through my work.) That way if God forbid something were to happen to me and I couldn't work for awhile, we know that we can support our family. I also want to wait until I get down to my ideal weight. I have diabetes, so any pregnancy I have is starting out as high risk. I want to be as healthy as possible when I get pregnant.

[LionessMom]

i will be 35 in may. i feel the time creeping on me too. i had DS at 19 then didnt have DD1 till i was 30. i do want at least one more but i am starting to get scared. i dont want to create problems either. it makes me feel better that lots of women have babies after 35.

[michaelnkimberly]

We're already thinking about names too- we have tons of girl names, but are having a hard time coming up with boy names that we like and that haven't been used in the family- we have 3 sons and 9 nephews.

[youngspiritmom]

Hello everyone!! I've been watching this thread for a while, and I am going to join in 2011!

A little about why I am wanting and waiting....

- I have a 23 month DS, and he was not planned (I was very young when me and DH conceived). The first year postpartum was so hard, I really had a hard time adjusting to being a SAHM and trying to feel happy and not just sad or blah. I love my son soooo much, but it is still very hard for me.

- We would ideally like a three year spacing, so that would mean conceiving in May 2011. However, my husband may get a new position abroad starting in July, and I don't want to get pregnant if I know our family is going to have to have a new life in a new country (away from my mom who is my support).

- I am considering going back to school (online) in June and not sure about how a pregnancy thrown into this whole mix will work...

Thanks for your support!

[Harleth]

I'd like to join. I was afraid of joining the forum and posting, because I do not yet have a child but this thread has made me realize there is a place for me here!

I'm 25 and have been married for two years. DH and I both want children but we are both graduate students with small salaries, living in one of the most expensive cities on the planet. So we are waiting, and some days I feel like a mother without a child. Lots of my friends from high school are all ready on their third child and I believe many could never imagine waiting for financial reasons (because their parents support them or they married rich or because they religiously don't agree with it) and so they assume I have fertility issues or am putting my career before family and don't want kids.

By living frugally to get the most for our income, finding great deals so we can save money and my success at finding side jobs/other revenue streams we are very close to reaching our financial goal and being able to try for a baby this spring! I am applying for a fellowship this week that could increase my income considerably. They will let me if I get it in March. So put me down for the Spring and in the meantime i will enjoy the adult alone time.

[treeoflife3]

I think about names CONSTANTLY.  I mention them to my husband too and luckily he isn't against humoring a bit of baby name talk.  I think he wants another baby now just as much as me but he is a lot more concerned about 'the right time.'

My favorite name for either sex right now is Elliot.  All of my favorite names seem to be on the top 100 list... many in the top 10 even... we don't want to name our kiddos anything THAT popular so I guess we'll see what happens whenever we get around to making another one.

[youngspiritmom]

Elliot - for both genders - is beautiful! :)

[kangamitroo]

Originally Posted by LionessMom 

i will be 35 in may. i feel the time creeping on me too. i had DS at 19 then didnt have DD1 till i was 30. i do want at least one more but i am starting to get scared. i dont want to create problems either. it makes me feel better that lots of women have babies after 35.

i'm 36 now.  scared i can't wait much longer, but not sure what it will take to feel ready.  my DD1 is 7yo.  i do not want to have to go to a hospital, and i worry about all the things mamas over 35 might be at risk for.  here because i need the support.

[belacmsage]

I just went to my local library's baby and toddler (birth-2) story time and almost all the moms there are already excepting again. It made me not want to wait any longer and just start trying for #2 now. Too bad I need to lose weight and wait at least 18 months between deliveries.

[youngspiritmom]

Our neighbors came over tonight and asked us when/if we were planning number two. I found it so hard to describe all my reasons and feelings about waiting, and when, etc. Why does it seem that other people always want to know your baby status?