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post #81 of 505

Well Hannah I am jealous of you as well! I wish I even had 6 stinkin months without AF! Not with my luck!

 

My friend conceived without getting AF back by surprise, so you never know.

post #82 of 505

DD2 is now 16 months old. still no af. i think DD1 was 21 mo when i got preg with DD2. will it really take that long again? arrgh. lol. i would love to get pregnant in late april early may. i quit temping for now. it feels easier than sitting here and scrutinizing every days temps.

 

wanting and waiting....

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Wow, you ladies are having cycles and such again. I'm a little envious. I was thinking the other day that if I want to conceive this fall, there should be some indication of my cycle coming back, shouldn't there? Well, it's not. I haven't had a period since Sept of 09. My baby is sleeping from about 6 to about 3-4 am too. Nothing yet. 


That would make your baby about 7 months old?  Don't worry about a thing.  I didn't have a period until my baby was almost 21 months old, though she never slept that long through the night.  It will happen.

post #84 of 505

You only have a 7 m/o and you want another one already?! lol

 

My DD was born Sept 09 and shes not sleeping as good as your 7 m/o! She still wants milk like every 2-4hrs day and night.

post #85 of 505

What can I say? I think we're hitting our stride. Plus, I'm not getting any younger. 

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LOL

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Hi ladies.  I've been lurking around for the past couple of weeks and I've decided I'd like to join if that's okay :)    I'm 26 and DH is 31 and we are wanting at least one more child before we call it quits completely!  DD#1 is 7 (she's from my first marriage) and DD#2 will be 9 weeks old tomorrow.  I'm wanting another one but know that I need to at least wait until the youngest is at least 9 mo to a year old before we start actually "TRYING" so we've set a date of September 6th, 2011 as our start date on ttc! DD#2 will be exactly 9 months old that day!  I'm still waiting on my first PPAF to come around but still no luck!  I did BF for two weeks before having to switch DD over to formula so that could be what is delaying me (seeing as one of my friends had a baby 11 days after I had mine and she's already had her first PPAF...but i know each woman is different!!!)  

 

 

Could i please be placed under SEPTEMEBER 2011?

post #88 of 505

Hi beautiful mamas,

 

So, I just read through the thread, please bear with my long post and please at least read the beginning because I need advice. So some replies but first I've got some updates and a question for all of you Mamas who already have two or more.....

 

1. So DH didn't get the job abroad (which I am very happy about but he is bummed) so I think things are going to be more stable here this year.

2. Next, I applied to an online masters pre-req program for a career that I am very excited about: becoming an SLP (speech language pathologist/therapist). I'm so glad I decided to apply, and sooooo excited to start! The classes start in June! thumbsup.gif I will have to complete this program and then a masters degree after that. This program is 6 credits (half time) all online, for 4 semesters (summer, fall, spring, summer). I really want to become an SLP and want to work when all our kids are in school. However.....

 

I also want to have conceive a baby in 2011. My DS is 2 next week. We would like around a 3 year spacing....so here's what I'm thinking:

 

- a 2yr 10 month spacing would mean #2 would be conceived in March, born in December (halfway though the program with half left)

- a 3yr 3mo spacing would mean #2 would be conceived in August, born in May (one summer semester left)

- a 3.5 yr spacing would mean #2 would be conceived in Nov/Dec, born in August (right after program ends)......obviously this is if we conceive/no premie baby etc.

 

My big questions are: Am I crazy for deciding to be preg. with a toddler while in school (albeit half time and online)? Will I be able to do school commitments after #2 is born -- and our family is adjusting to newborn and toddler? I really don't like the 3.5 yr spacing (seems too far for me) but I also want to be able to do well in school and enjoy my second baby and pregnancy (since I had an OK 1st pregnancy and very sad, traumatic experience for about 4 months after my birth). I'm afraid that I will have a negative, overwhelming experience and not be able to juggle it all. I really want to pursue this career, and also want a relatively close spacing for our kids......confused.gif Give me your advice from those who have been there
 

Onto the replies....

 

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Does anybody already have baby names picked out?  I'm already thinking and making decisions. DH won't discuss it yet, but I've got my favorites. Anybody else?


Yes, I think of names continually! We like Michael, Hannah, and Aya.

 

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In my limited experience, TTC is very, very intimate and enjoyable. It's like you're giving another whole dimension of yourself to your husband.  It's a little scary because once the deed is done, there's no going back.  It's real, but the times we have TTC have been some of the best times in our marriage.  Very exciting!

 

This is a nice perspective. My DH and I are a little far apart lately because he has a lot of school and work commitments, but this sounds beautiful. I just hope DH will see it this way....he tends to be very nanchalant about things (even about having another baby), he's just a calm go with the flow person, and I can't help but wonder if it will be like any other time when we do it.....
 

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Originally Posted by dicksonley View Post I think that because you have sex more often (at least we did!) and multiple times during your fertile window while TTC, there wasn't a certain time that I thought "We're conceiving RIGHT NOW" and freaked out.  I thought about it more as trying to build up a lot of love and have us both be spiritually together in an open place to welcome children.  Does that make any sense? 

 

LOL we go entire cycles without DTD.....mainly because DH works/school until 10pm and usually I am asleep.....maybe we can aspire to your beautiful "build up a lot of love" approach twins.gif

And I love the idea that being in a love cycle makes you spiritually together in order to welcome children. I've never experienced this because DS was not planned....so we've never had this beautiful conception love sex you're all talking about.....so something to look forward to!

 

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I think the first time hubby and I do the do without any protection at all, i will be cheesing and grinning and my heart will probably be doing jumping jacks the whole time and afterward (which means he'll probably be looking and laughing at me like im a loon lol). I probably wont be able to quantify how excited/scared/anxious I would be.  I dream of the day (or night) when we first get to try like that. :)


This is so cute, Brown Lioness. I think it really shows how much love you have to give to your baby! I had a very hard time coping with finding out I was pregnant the first time, so I hope that the second time I an feel as giddy and positive as you do. Your words are my inspiration! love.gif

 

OK mamas, thanks for reading!! Love to you all

post #89 of 505

youngspiritmom - I would vote for the 3 yr and up spacing.  Having most of the program done seems better to me and maybe having just one semester left will motivate you to finish the semester and put yourself out there for jobs or networking.  Are you looking to use the degree right away or is it something to have in your pocket for when the kids are older?  If you aren't going to use it right away, then maybe leaving more of the program to finish might work better on your resume?  There's also the consideration that it will take longer to conceive that you might think (this is the one that keeps me up at night) throwing everything off anyway.  Congrats on getting into the program you wanted! 

post #90 of 505
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Originally Posted by dicksonley View Post Are you looking to use the degree right away or is it something to have in your pocket for when the kids are older?  If you aren't going to use it right away, then maybe leaving more of the program to finish might work better on your resume?
 



I want to get the pre req program done so I can then move onto the masters. I'm not planning to do the masters for a couple of years, but I do want to get this pre req program now so that when I want to do the masters, I can.

 

Thanks for your helpful advice!

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I would like to recommend a book to all you pre-TTCers.  "Real Food For Mother and Baby" by Nina Planck is about how to get the nutrients you need from nutrient-rich foods starting with pre-conception and continuing through pregnancy, breastfeeding, and introducing solids to your little one.  It's what I'm using for my pre-conception diet plan.



Are you able to share some of the core points of the book?  Is it focused on overall nutrition, high protein, vegetarian foods, etc.?


It follows a Traditional Foods philosophy, getting nutrients from real, whole foods prepared in the ways that maximize the absorption of nutrients.  It focuses on good fats instead of low fat.  Many of the richest sources of certain nutrients (such as zinc, which is important for fertility especially for men) are animal products, so this is not a vegetarian book.  Vegetarian + seafood would work fine with her philosophy, but she encourages meat as well.  She encourages raw milk, grassfed/pastured meat and eggs, sustainably caught seafood, lots of veggies, traditional fats, and soaked/fermented grains, nuts, and beans.

 

Then, she applies this to fertility, pregnancy, breastfeeding, and weaning.  She notes which nutrients are needed at each stage and gives you ideas on which whole foods you could eat to get those nutrients.  She also explains what foods were traditionally given in various cultures to newlyweds (fertility), pregnant and nursing mothers, and as weaning foods to show how many traditional cultures knew that foods containing certain important nutrients were important for various functions even before the scientific research that we now have about important nutrients.

 

I would recommend it to anyone looking to get nutrients from food instead of supplements.  I really think a vegetarian would benefit from a lot of the information as well and just choose the vegetarian options.  She does make some statements that a vegetarian would likely find quite offensive.  She is opposed to raising children vegetarian.

 

Interesting.  I have a very hard time justifying the grassfed/pastured meat and eggs.  We are fortunate to be able to afford it, but I have a hard time spending that kind of money.  I would love to buy a small freezer and get a cow share because, in my area, it is cheaper that way.  We'll see.  I'm following a plan that sounds very similar to the above.  I may have to look into that book at the library, though.

 



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Originally Posted by Hannah32 View Post

Wow, you ladies are having cycles and such again. I'm a little envious. I was thinking the other day that if I want to conceive this fall, there should be some indication of my cycle coming back, shouldn't there? Well, it's not. I haven't had a period since Sept of 09. My baby is sleeping from about 6 to about 3-4 am too. Nothing yet. 


I am always amazed by how different our bodies are.  I had my period by 3 months PP.  I was pretty surprised, especially because my LO wasn't sleeping well at all.

 

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Originally Posted by dicksonley View Post

youngspiritmom - I would vote for the 3 yr and up spacing.  Having most of the program done seems better to me and maybe having just one semester left will motivate you to finish the semester and put yourself out there for jobs or networking.  Are you looking to use the degree right away or is it something to have in your pocket for when the kids are older?  If you aren't going to use it right away, then maybe leaving more of the program to finish might work better on your resume?  There's also the consideration that it will take longer to conceive that you might think (this is the one that keeps me up at night) throwing everything off anyway.  Congrats on getting into the program you wanted! 



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Awww, thanks mama happytears.gif

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Originally Posted by Brown Lioness View Post

I think the first time hubby and I do the do without any protection at all, i will be cheesing and grinning and my heart will probably be doing jumping jacks the whole time and afterward (which means he'll probably be looking and laughing at me like im a loon lol). I probably wont be able to quantify how excited/scared/anxious I would be.  I dream of the day (or night) when we first get to try like that. :)


This is so cute, Brown Lioness. I think it really shows how much love you have to give to your baby! I had a very hard time coping with finding out I was pregnant the first time, so I hope that the second time I an feel as giddy and positive as you do. Your words are my inspiration! love.gif

 

 

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Interesting.  I have a very hard time justifying the grassfed/pastured meat and eggs.  We are fortunate to be able to afford it, but I have a hard time spending that kind of money.  I would love to buy a small freezer and get a cow share because, in my area, it is cheaper that way.  We'll see.  I'm following a plan that sounds very similar to the above.  I may have to look into that book at the library, though.


This website
helped convince me it is worth it.  The most compelling arguments for me were that grassfed/pastured meat and eggs provide nutrients that are hard to get other places, and it's hard to have a properly balanced Omega 3:6 ratio, but grassfed/pastured meat and eggs do while feedlot meats and eggs are almost all omega 6.  It's also an ethical thing for me.  The way we treat animals in feed lots is poor stewardship.  I'm also glad that I'm blessed to be able to afford it, but I would eat less before I would eat corn-fed beef.

 

 

 

Youngspiritmom, I can't give much advice because the timing of your family is a very personal decision.  You may want to think about your priorities and contingency plans before you make a decision.  Is finishing the program in the timing you describe important enough that you wouldn't want to let anything get in the way?  A baby a born a few weeks early or a baby with a health problem might make it difficult to finish in that timing.  You also sound concerned about handling pregnancy and new baby, toddler, and school all at once.  If you decide that it's too much, your kids aren't going away.  It's going to have to be school that gets the short stick.  If finishing the prerequisites now is really super important to you, you might consider minimizing the risk that having another child would put a hole in your plans.

 

Conversely, if you believe that the spacing that you have in mind would be best for your family, I would be wary of letting school get in the way of that too much.  If family is your first priority, school can work around it.  The worst that can happen is that you finish the prerequisites later.  They might change by the time you go back to get your degree anyway.  Women are amazing and do great things.  There are women out there that handle multiple kids while pregnant and going to school and working and without a partner, and they somehow make it work, and they're good moms!  It's a very stressful life, but women were made to be able to handle a lot.  The world is full of amazing women.  You just might be able to handle more than you think!

 

That said, I considered getting pregnant during my last year of school.  I was going to school more than full time, so having a baby while I was still in school was not going to work.  If I'd had a baby, I would have had to drop out for a time and then finish more slowly.  I didn't want school in the way when I was trying to raise my family.  I did want my degree.  I also wanted a baby.  I knew that motherhood was the next thing I wanted to do with my life after graduation, so I didn't want to get started on my career or a masters program and put off pregnancy any longer.  We talked about it throughout the year.  I had some health issues that I was working out with diet.  We practiced NFP, but not strictly.  I got pregnant the first month we actually started TTC just under 2 months after graduation.

 

I got morning sickness beginning at implantation.  It was too early to take a pregnancy test, but I was queasy, and I knew.  I needed 12 hours of sleep every day to be able to function, and at 10 weeks, I started bleeding.  I took the next week off of work.  My boss saw that I was struggling (and knew about the pregnancy), and she reduced my schedule significantly for the last few weeks of my first trimester before continuing me on a 20-30 hours/week schedule.  Before I got pregnant, I wished we had tried earlier.  A couple days after I got pregnant (and knew it was possible but didn't know for sure yet), my boss came to me and told me that she couldn't offer me a full time job, so if I was looking for a career, she'd put in a good recommendation for me someplace else.  I told her that we were making some decisions about the next step and would get back with her, but I wished I could have had a baby already, or at least some answers so that I wasn't treading water in a part-time job for a long time after graduation.  I was upset that we had waited so long, but as it turned out, it was perfect.  I was not tied to getting school done while I was pregnant.  I had a flexible job that gave me time to put my pregnancy as my first priority and allowed us to pay off debts before DD was born.  I was able to research birth options during my pregnancy rather than researching my thesis.  I'm just so glad I didn't get pregnant in school.  I couldn't have asked for better timing.

 

But that's me.  You have to figure out your own priorities.

post #94 of 505

I am poor. Seriously according to the statistics or whatever we are in the lower half of poor lol. I WILL NOT eat corn fed beef. We eat VERY little grass fed beef b/c it costs so much, but that is the only beef I will feed my family. We do use a lot of ground "beef" crumbles that are vegan just b/c it's cheaper though.

We can't afford the good eggs, we just can't, (b/c we eat them often and we need cheap protein too..) but we do only buy the ones that are United Egg Producer certified....it is still not ideal but at least they have some standards...

post #95 of 505

Can I be added to June 2011?  We are hoping for our first baby to arrive in spring  2012.  I'm already pretty excited, and having a hard time waiting until June, but I know it will be worth it!  

post #96 of 505

As soon as AF comes, I'm officially DONE WAITING!  I suppose right now the only thing Im waiting on is to get started on my next cycle- and it seems to be taking forever...

post #97 of 505

Totally off topic...but can someone please convince me not to go to the birth stories forum and read about amazing births and make me want a baby RIGHT NOW?  I get this way ever time O time comes around and it kills me.  Also, is there anyone else whos cycle is synched with the full moon?  I just noticed it about three months ago, but I have O'd within a day or so of the full moon for the last five months and looking back to my cycles before DS was born, I conceived him on the day after the full moon in Nov of 08.

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Totally off topic...but can someone please convince me not to go to the birth stories forum and read about amazing births and make me want a baby RIGHT NOW?  I get this way ever time O time comes around and it kills me.  Also, is there anyone else whos cycle is synched with the full moon?  I just noticed it about three months ago, but I have O'd within a day or so of the full moon for the last five months and looking back to my cycles before DS was born, I conceived him on the day after the full moon in Nov of 08.

 

this is familiar to me.  i keep eyeing the books of childbirth stories on my shelves, telling myself not to indulge.

 

i intended to call a midwife this week, just for a consult, but i pick up the phone and lose my nerve.  i want her to tell me my fears are for nothing and to go for it....but i'm scared that's not what she'll say.  these are the kind of mental games i'm putting myself through.  that, and browsing in maternity clothes.hide.gif
 

post #99 of 505
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Originally Posted by dicksonley View Post

 Also, is there anyone else whos cycle is synched with the full moon?  I just noticed it about three months ago, but I have O'd within a day or so of the full moon for the last five months and looking back to my cycles before DS was born, I conceived him on the day after the full moon in Nov of 08.


 

That's really interesting! I've never checked, but now I want to...
 

post #100 of 505

Hi ladies,

 

I thought I might join this tribe.  I have a 6 month old and we are waiting to start for number 2 until some time between Aug - Nov 2011. 

 

As for lunar cycles - for some reason I'm tied to the new moon.  Or at least I was before DD1.  I conceived right after the new moon and birthed right after the new moon. 

 

I'm 6 months pp and my cycles have not returned.  I'm dedicated to extended breastfeeding but am also anxious to start on number 2. :)  So we'll have to see what happens with my cycles while still breastfeeding.

 

-Carolyn

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