My daughter is almost 4 years old. I am a single mother and we are very bonded--family bed, baby wore, breast fed, etc. Her dad has basically been my babysitter, only watching her when I work. Aside from work, my daughter is with me all the time. He's never kept her over night....
This past weekend, I decided I was in dire need of a break and asked him if he could make arrangements to keep our daughter for the weekend. He said he would keep her. I asked him what "the plan" was--where our daughter would be. He told me our daughter was going to spend the night with him and his mother. He told me that 5 different times.
When my daughter woke up after the first night, she called me. She woke up in a completely different place from what I was told.
Because he flat out lied to me over where my daughter was sleeping, I was filled with anger and picked my daughter up early. I didn't appreciate being lied to--I want to KNOW where my daughter is.
Nothing is legal. Everything has been civil and in the eyes of the law, I am the ONLY parent (he hasn't signed birth cert. or anything). He told me, "I don't have to clear anything with you. She's my daughter....."
I'm easy to get along with. I've compromised with him on everything and have been as nice as I can be. For him to just LIE to me about the whereabouts of my daughter has really upset me. (It was her first time with him over night....it was new for everyone and hard on me even though I really needed a break).
So? Did I overreact or was I just being a mother who is highly bonded with her daughter (one who has never left home before)?