My DH has a colleague whose wife is expecting their second child, first son, any day now. I had an opportunity to give her my intactivist talk in a non-threatening setting a few months ago, not long after they found out it was a boy. She claimed that she had never even considered the circ decision, that all that really matters is the father's family history of circ. I said very firmly, "No, that should not matter at all, period." She was flustered, and said, "oh, of course, you're right!" and that was more or less the end of it. I did offer to discuss it with her at any time, and did refer her to this forum ... but she never asked anything else of me, and I'm sure didn't follow up on this forum.
Fast forward to today, when the baby is imminently due, and she has been actively avoiding me for two-three months now. I am sure it is related to this topic and my vehemence.
To be clear, I do not in any way regret being somewhat animated in my discussion with her. I honestly thought that, given their AP/green/activist slant, they might be more easily swayed to leave baby intact than most of DH's other colleagues.
Mostly I am sad for the baby, whose welcome to the world is, in all likelihood, going to be filled with great pain. And also, I know how difficult a time she had breastfeeding their daughter, struggling significantly with low supply, etc. *sigh* It's like watching a train wreck in slow-motion.
Just looking for some empathy from my TCAC friends. Trying not to take the whole thing personally or feel like I have failed the sweet little boy.
Thanks for the vent!
Edited by vachi73 - 2/2/11 at 4:00pm