After about a 2 mos respite of the challenges of the 4 year old, we are in full swing with the challenges of being 5. And it's sucking big time in our house. I feel like I'm totally failing my daughter because I am so heady. I am a transactional lawyer and I've not had more than a 6 mos at a time break from this (maternity leaves) in the past 13 years. I'm losing my temper with my daughter and loathing myself for it.
The thing I cannot handle is when she insists that I said something I didn't, so, there is no right answer. Last night she asked what I said, I repeated myself and she insisted that was not what I said, that I'd said something else. I had no idea how to respond to her. It was about midnight (she'd gotten up to use the toilet), so, I was not good at coming up with a funny diversion or song. And it escalated. In about 20 seconds. She melted down and I blew up.
I spoke to her teacher about it yesterday and she gave me a book today which I will review. I need some practical tools, though, to diffuse this type of situation. Because, of course, she saves these performances for me and doesn't do this at school. Any suggestions out there?