subbing. Hi ladies. My dd is 11.5 months old. 6lbs 10oz , 19 inches at birth. At her 9 month check up which was actually at 10.5 months (due to our doc being in the office so rarely, and scheduling issues), the dr freaked out about her being only 15 lbs, 7 oz and 27 inches tall (they didn't take a head measurement, strangely enough), and especially the fact that she hadn't gained at all in the 3 or 4 weeks since she'd been seen due to being sick. No one mentioned anything out of order when she was seen then. Of course she wouldn't eat solids and barely nursed enough while she was sick (it lasted almost a week). The doc basically implied that we weren't feeding dd enough, which may have been true in terms of solids, but she'd bfed on demand, and still nurses tons. We have to take her back for a weight check in 2 weeks (from now, 6 weeks from then), and if she hasn't gained enough (how much is enough was totally unspecified!) they'll do all sorts of bloodwork to rule stuff out. She suggested putting formula in dd's cereal, cream and butter in everything knowing that we are vegans, and suggesting that raising dd vegan would be "just too hard". I've been really freaking out about this. I'm pretty sure nothing is wrong. She is 1 inch less and 1 lb lighter than I was at her age (I was 2 inches longer at birth), and my dh was TINY as a baby. He actually did fail to thrive (not just in terms of weight but milestones too), but turned out just fine. Dd is more than meeting her milestones. I discussed this at length with my FIL, who is a dr, and he was totally outraged, since americans are so obese on average, and suggested plotting dd on the french charts, and certainly the WHO ones. At least she's on the WHO charts, but she's off the american ones for weight. He also said we clearly need a new dr. but have to wait til this blows over lest it look bad and induces a call to CPS. Also we need to find someone vegan friendly. FIL was actually one of the only family members I've spoken with who is supportive of us all being vegan. Dh and I are fairly skinny (ok I keep gaining weight since I had dd since pregnancy was so awful and now that I'm not nausious all the time any more I just eat and eat and don't get to excercise enough), and I doubt it has much to do with the veganism since FIL is skinny too. Also all our nephews - both dh's brothers, and my sister's kids are small and they all eat meat and dairy.
We had been getting lots of the "oh she's so tiny" comments before this, but the dr freaking out was a real blow. I had just been starting to feel like I was getting the hang of parenting until this. Now my self-confidence is totally shaken. Worse is that when I tell people about this, the usual reaction that I get is "oh, it must be because you all are vegan." I'm so sick of this. It's f-ing genetics! So, we're trying to sneak more calories and fat into dds diet, speeding up the introduction of and being more aggressive with the solids (even though I keep reading tons of contradictory stuff about how bfing more and doing less solids is the way to go, since that's what the dr ordered) and hoping for the best. I'm definitly worried about teaching her bad eating habits though.