Wow, thanks for all of the good replies!!! It does make me feel better to hear about other people in my situation. And thanks for everybody who posted the studies about the getting inductions! They were really helpful, but perhaps I should have included more info in my first post. My midwife doesn't routinely induce until 42 weeks, but the reason that we are moving that up a bit is because my baby has an umbilical cord anomoly that can lead to growth restriction/fetal distress/slightly increased risk of stillbirth. The studies on it and the implications are somewhat inconclusive, and the baby seems to be doing fine as of now, but there is some concern about letting the baby cook for too long. I had been getting serial ultrasounds to check the baby's growth, and even though the growth is still appropriate as of 5 weeks ago, there had been a steady decline in the growth curve throughout my pregnancy. It is likely to be normal and no big deal, but then it could also be pathologic. Realistically we really just don't know, and the concern is that if it is pathologic, as the pregnancy goes longer and longer we could have a progressively more stressed baby and be setting ourselves up for more complications than one would normally see. So, I guess you could say that I am OK with the logic behind the induction - it isn't just some willy-nilly, well you hit the 41 week mark, let's kick the kiddo out sort of thing. And I do know that inductions can be very stressful for babies - mostly why I am so concerned about having one! I do like the idea that somebody had mentioned about just trying the cervadil to get things moving along a bit. And I guess that I could always talk to my midwife about if it doesn't look like the induction is going to be successful, maybe just calling it a failed induction and come back in a few days to see where we are. Has anyone done that? Know if it is a possibility? I do really like my midwife, and it seems that she might be willing to work with me.
And, THANK YOU, MegBoz for sharing about your doula trying to tell you that you were inhibiting labor by being stressed out! It isn't that easy to just go ahead and flip off the stress button, and it doesn't feel great thinking that people are blaming you for your cervix not dilating. I am not trying to hold this baby in. My Mom just tells me to relax, and that will put me into labor. Gee, thanks Mom. Really helpful.
At any rate, I am going to plan for the worst and hope for the best. I do love the birth stories, they really do help make me feel like I can still successfully vaginally birth my baby without an epidural. I am going to bring a birthing ball to the hospital and they have a squat bar there already (I think), so that might help move things along or ease some pain if I do have to get induced. My hubby will sneak me some snacks and juice to help keep my energy up. I am going to limit vag exams. My midwife isn't huge into them anyway - she only did the two in my whole pregnancy, and that was because I asked her - stupid, STUPID, I know, but I was just soooo curious! Any other suggestions to make childbirth more easy if I must be confined to a bed or a five foot radius around it? Thanks.