New some questions 19 month old being very intense what to do

[tuesdaymom]

Hi,

I mostly just look on this board.  My dd is 19 months and is ahead for her age.  She can speak in just about full sentences.  Nows colors, shapes,opposites, counts to 5.  She knows about 1/4 of the alphabet. She wants to go on starfall from the minute she wakes up  I try to limit it to like 20 minutes a day.  She started to show some interest in music in the past month and a half.  We got her this little keybaord piano book and she really likes it.  She will play for like 10 15 minutes and if you ask her to sign she will aliitle  very cute .  She has been very intense in the past month.  She wants to do everything herself and everything seems like its a debate.  I say lets go up stairs she says no down stairs  and so on.  I work full time so she is with my Dad most of the day.  My husband has been home with her the past 2 weeks.  He keeps on asking me what is wrong with her.  I don't know if she is looking for more of a challange or just terrible 2's with the vocabulary.  Today my husband took her to storytime at the library and he said she was talking to some kids then it started and she just really had no interest just a few times she was interested in what the lady was saying but all she wanted to do was pull the books off the shelf.  It seems to be very hard to find any 1 day a week classes for her age group. I always went with her but I don't know if this is the right thing anymore?  She will be starting Day Care in May full time.  I really don't have the money to start her until May my husband does construction so this is his slow time.  What can I have him do with her I feel bad I cant be there :(    Sorry for the long post.

[Marissamom]

I also have a 19 month old DD who can be very intense (not as ahead, but DF and I were both gifted but late bloomers, so, who knows). she loves when we give her little things to do: putting her toys away, throwing something in the garbage. she likes to be able to make choices, so I give her two options of what to eat for lunch or what to wear and other things throughout the day. she does pretty well if I have music in the background most of the time, make sure she eats often, gets her naps regularly, and goes out for a while each day (even if it's just a quick trip to the grocery store). and DD can't handle storytime at the library yet, it's too long for her attention span, and not interesting enough for her. 

[whatsnextmom]

Developmentally, the "the terrible twos" are actually more from 18 months to 2.5. What you are seeing is not unusual even with a highly verbal tot. You just have to be consistant with your behvarioral expectations but also give her some space to really try things on her own even if it takes longer. Be patient, it passes.

[tuesdaymom]

Thanks for the responses.  I was off the past 3 days and it was like a different baby.  She was very well behaved compared to the last couple of weeks.  I do try to give little things so she can help out.  She really does love it.  I have to remind my husband sometimes she is only 19 months old.    I think he has been giving in to her and she is using it to her advantage.   She is very social so maybe storytime is not her thing.    I do think her getting out will help even if its just running errands.  My sisters oldest is gifted  he is 10.  My daughter is much like he was at this age except socially.   She wants to talk to everyone.  I ordered a cd from the starfall website it should come today.  I think she is going to be excited when we put it on.  Thanks again for the helpful advise.