I had a paragard put in just after Christmas. So far so good. Dh will be getting a vasectomy at some point but at least the IUD gives me some piece of mind.
Birth Control - Page 2
"Mirena may stop the release of your egg from your ovary, but this is not the way it works in most cases."
I used the mini-pill from the time DD was born until deciding to conceive DS (so for about 2 1/2 years). It worked well for us and didn't affect my milk supply. The only thing I didn't like about it is that when I did get my "period" back it came in the form of random, unpredictable spotting two or three times a month. I just went back on the mini-pill last week and what do you know - random spotting already even though I am breastfeeding nearly constantly. It's a common and annoying side effect, apparently. DH has talked about getting a vasectomy - he brought it up actually, which surprised me. It would be nice to not have to think about it. I'm 99% sure we are done having kids but something about the permanence of it bothers me.
Well, I had a tubal ligation during my c-sec, so that's taken care of for me.
But after DS, I had the Mirena implanted. I know people who have had issues, but I never did. I had it done at my 6 week pp appointment because I had a friend who got pregnant when her son was 4.5 months old, despite breastfeeding on demand (all night long, etc). She never even had a period in between kids! I bf my son until 2y3m, and took the Mirena out myself just before weaning (all in prep for getting pregnant again). I did have very light periods while it was in, after getting my period back ~8m pp.
DH was going to get snipped after this babe, but since I had to have a c-sec and had the tubal, his urologist recommends against a vasectomy in addition. Just not worth the risks. If I hadn't had the tubal, he'd get the v.
I think there are plenty of options that are not hormonal - diaphragm, cervical cap, sponge, spermicide, condoms, abstinence, or charting. If you are particularly fertile (like my sis who got pg while on the pill and her boyfriend using a condom), I think a combination of these might be best (for a while, we did charting combined with condom use during potentially fertile times).
Birth control? That means I'd have to be having sex, right? Lol. If we ever do find the time to DTD my DH has an economy sized box of condoms at the ready, poor guy. Given the fact that I've never gotten pregnant without medical help, in theory we could just go without, and I do still think I'd like a 3rd child...but I really don't want 2 kids in the same year, so we'll err on the side of caution. I was period free for 9 months after DD 1, which I felt was a bit of a rip-off considering I was still nursing through the night at that point. I'm a big fan of amenorrhea.
I'm off and on as far as libido goes. I think the lack of sleep, stress over my returning to work and not having a clear birth control plan in place have affected both of us. But we've had some nice "afternoon delights" while dd #1 was at school and the two little were taking their naps.
I'm really trying to remember to do kegels...!
Thanks... now I've got that song in my head. I'm going to have to play it for it to go away, lmao.
My libido is great... the only time I've ever had low drive was after my first daughter. My hormones were crazy out of whack after her. :) We get it while we can, with 5 kids in the house there isn't much time for play, lol. It doesn't happen often but I'm so happy when the stars align just right and it does. ♥
Mu libido has not returned. Well, I've had a couple of sexy dreams but when it comes to actually turning to DH and doing something about it? Hasn't happened yet (at 10 weeks). My libido took a big hit after DS's pregnancy/birth, so it wasn't that high to begin with. I'd guess we haven't dtd since August...maybe July.
I'm 42- aren't I supposed to be at my sexual peak?? LOL!