VBA2C without extra support or any arrangements possible??

[claudi81]

Hello,

I am currently 29 weeks pregnant and in between moving and vacation, everthing just goes crazy in our life right now...I do not want to bore anyone with, basically we live in Arizona and plan on moving to West Virginia within the next month or two. While my husband is working and getting our house and moving taking care of in Arizona, I am sitting in Germany with my family and was supposed to fly directly to west virginia by theend of Jan. when I am in my 33th week ...now it looks like that my husbands starting date in his new job will be pushed back and so does the moving...I will hit the point where I am right on the edge between not being able to fly back to the states if its pushed back too far.

Basically I have not had the chance to hunt for a supportive birthing team in west virginia and in Germany you only chose the hospital you like to birth in and they have midwifes there that will assist your birth......I probably will not hire any other support since I am not sure yet if everything will be ready for us in time to move and for me to fly...I might just wait for labor to set in and wait it out at home till I feel the need to go to the hospital, hoping everything will just go smoothly and how its supposed to. Any thoughts.... is it really neccesary to have doula midwifes and all that other stuff to be able to have a VBAC or what are my chances in my situation ???

Any thougts or encouragement?

 

[NaturalMama311]

I'm hoping for a successful VBAC too (I'm 37 weeks now) and I'm not hiring a doula.  We just recently moved and I had to switch providers and hospitals, plus we just don't have the money to hire a doula.  I have been seeing a group of midwives but only for a few weeks following our move.  Supposedly they are very VBAC friendly and even the OB I met with that oversees their practice seemed very confident in my chances for success.  It mostly depends on the individual case and why you had a previous c-section.  In my case, DD was breech and I had very low fluid level so I had a planned c-section.  There was no physical reason my body couldn't deliver vaginally, it was a case of circumstances with the pregnancy.

I believe if we are educated about our bodies, the birthing process and our rights then a successful VBAC can be possible without any support from others.  Hopefully I'll be sharing my successful VBAC story here within the next few weeks adn that will give you hope and reassurance that it is possible without a doula!

[claudi81]

well I am not even moved yet and had 2 c-sections which is a bit more tricky esp. since I have no time once I am finally moved ....so will not hav emuch time to search and switch or anything...the only thing I know is that the hospital there has no VBAC ban so that is good...

My first C-section because they indiced me due to suspected pre-eclampsia...which failed....the secocnd c-section was because I was over due and at 41 week they do RCS I the hospital was allready 2 hr away and my mom who was supposed to watch my kids was about to leave back to Germany....this time I really do not give in unless really neccesary I will have 3 kids and do not want to recover from a c-section again, plus its my last baby so my only chance on experienceing a Vaginal birth.

[ashleypLC]

I had a succesful VBA2C in a hospital but I did have a doula and a really supportive midwife who waved all interventions for me.  Will you have your husband there??  I guess the real question is what are the hospital policies regarding VBACs? Monitoring? IV? etc...

[jenniro]

I hired a doula for my VBAC and she was kind but completely ineffective.  I ended up with a c-section.  I think that is not the norm because I hear so many people say great things about having a doula there.  I went 2 hours out of state to do a VBAC and the doula was 2 hours away as well, so I only met with her twice when I was in town for prenatals.  I think I didn't get to know her well enough and her beliefs about natural birth.  She told me after my labor had stalled for 12 hours that the only way to get it going would be to have pitocin.  I thought my only choices were c-seciton or pitocin, so I gave in to the doctor hassling me and went to the OR.  The hospital I went to I thought was supportive, they did VBACs, but when I got there, it was clear they were only tolerant of VBACs.  I had to follow a very strict labor pattern, and when I didn't, the c-section pressure began.  I think if I had a doula that believed in me and I felt comfortable with, it would have been a completely different experience.  So I guess my advice would be that, because you don't really know how supportive the hospital is you should definately have someone with you that knows what you want, that you feel very comfortable with, and can support you.  Doesn't have to be a doula, maybe it's hubby, but I know that when I am in labor I am not the strong willed logical person I usually am.  I am very suggestable and emotional. 

[claudi81]

I wrote a Doula that work in the area hoping she can give me options and has a clue about which hosptal or Ob or midwife will do what and is supportive...not sure if I will hire her at the end I have to meet her first and finances are an issue, but again I might move tehr right around my due date no way around that sadly :( I am just thinking many woman have giving birth without all that staff and intervention and have done fine...I am very very distractable and when people keep nagging me and bither me while I need to get through stuff like labor pain or whatever and discourage me they might be successfull cause I loose faith way too fast when I have no support and so far no positive birth experience....I just can not see how they could force me to have another c-section no matter how many c-sections I have... I am not risking the health of my baby of course I make sure its fine and OK in there and I am well too.

I am basically afraid that in the litle time I have till birth once I get there I have not met anybody who might be the support I need or will do the opposite and distract and discoourage me or talk me into interventions...I am a weak person when it comes down to it I need someone who stays behing me and what I originally wanted :) So if I can not find the right provider or support I rather have none and go in when I need to...but I am not sure how this is gonna go either aaaaaaa...My husband basically is totally against having me birth at home, he would be the wreck and no help at all if I would go that route, but he did say that I should not go to the hospital too soon and just stay home till I am really ready so that is really fine with me, if I go into labor on my own ever...never happend so far LOL