DS3 (3.5) is highly perfectionistic, sensitive and intense. In general, he has a high level of persistence, but he also has a high dose of all or nothing thinking. If he thinks he will get it eventually, he will try for age, but if he gives up it is for good. I know these are traits many of our gifted kids share, and I am hoping that some of you have some experience, advice or resources that might help me.
Unfortunately, he has applied his all or nothing thinking to toileting and decided about 9 months ago that because he still had accidents, he was not going to try. At the time, he was having many accidents, but not an age inappropriate number. However, his brother and sister were down to an accident every month or so. He is one of a set of triplets, and he compares his development to theirs whether we emphasize it or not. He will go when encouraged gently at a time of day when it is part of the routine, but refuses to even try to monitor himself. I have investigated all of the likely physiological issues and have come to the conclusion that this is a psychological issue.
I feel confident that once he decides to do it it will be a super quick learning process, but nothing I am doing is helping.
Does anyone have any advice or resources that might help?