Due to our previous interactions I believe her excuse will have something to do with being a "submissive wife". If her husband requires her attention she'll drop everything. If he feels it's not appropriate for her to go to the city to see a show, she'll follow his lead. She's 30 years old and has been married for 10 years. She was raised Mormon (just for background info).
Several times she invited me to spend time with her down at the community center or gym, and after a little while her husband would show up and request her to come home. It always confused me because she has a cell phone and he could have easily texted her his request.
But, even if her husband did tell her not to go to the show she should have at least contacted me to let me know!
Though I'm a bit befuddled by the whole submissive wife thing, I have been understanding and supportive in the past. Not that we have an extensive history... like I said, we only met last month. We were hanging out 2-3 times a week up until a week ago. At first she apologized for leaving so abruptly when her husband came around. She was afraid I'd interpret that as rudeness. I told her I understood, and she was so grateful that I didn't read more into it. The women who work at the community center witnessed her leaving fast on the heels of her husband, and made funny faces after my friend left, saying something about the lack of modern feminism being odd. I shrugged and stood up for my friend, explaining it was part of her cultural and religious upbringing. They "got it", and accepted her behavior. It really wasn't a big deal. I changed the subject quickly afterwards.
I worry that her husband is telling her not to be friends with me. I just get a really odd vibe from him. He will barely look in my direction, and only addressed me once, when we first met, leaning over, reaching his arm out at a great distance to shake my hand. I worry that there may be some jealousy issues going on there. He thinks of himself as a techy guy, but he currently "works" as an online poker player, "working" for 18 hours a day. Seriously. I don't know how he makes a living off of that! He'll take an evening off once a week to go down to the gaming shop and play in a card tournament. Several dozen people go and play in the tournament each week. My husband is a techy guy and has a very good job in his field. He started going to the gaming shop a couple months ago (before I met my friend and her husband), and out of the 5 times he went, my husband won the tournament 4 times. My friend's husband hasn't won any of the times my husband went. My husband is pretty well liked and is a fun guy to play with. The one week my husband didn't show up, apparently a bunch of guys were asking about him.
Then, there's the fact that my friend makes jewelry from plastic neon beads. They're not my style but I definitely encourage her with her jewelry art. They're fun. I'm working on vinyl record art and the girls at the community center have been asking me about it & getting excited about my pieces. I guess my art is generating more buzz. But my friend sells her jewelry in stores! She's teaching a jewelry making class next month! I'm just a hobbyist! My friend started asking me to create some vinyl pieces for her to include in her jewelry, which I did, but I haven't seen her since then.
I sense there's some competitiveness & jealousy going on. Maybe I'm just reading too much into this. I'm at the paranoid place after being ditched.