To make a long story short and get to the point...I try very hard to love my DP's DS. I treat him like I treat my own DD, when I get the chance to do anything for him. He is constantly asking for Daddy, wanting just Daddy's attention. He plays with my DD so well, but it's like I don't exist. DP makes him hug me before he leaves to go back to his mom's house, and you can tell most of the time he doesn't want to. I tell him I love him and I get a half-hearted response, if any response at all. It's like he picks random days to even acknowledge that I exist, but I try so very hard to make sure he knows that I care. I feel so lost with this most of the time. I actually feel uncomfortable to be in my house when DSS is over because I am not sure what to do with myself.
I feel like I should know what to do since I was raised in a divorced family. I had a step-dad and a step-mom by the time I was 5. My step-dad and I had a great relationship, but my step-mom and I didn't. We didn't get along because she didn't like me. No matter what I did. I definitely like my DSS, I love him, as if he were my own. I've been with DP for almost 3 years now and sometimes it feels like we are still going downhill instead of trying to get better. DP supports me and he sees what is happening, too, but he doesn't know what to do either. Has anyone experienced this? With a younger child? DSS is 7, so he is still family-oriented, but I feel like we aren't a family.
DSS has a mom and I am by no means trying to replace her or be better than she is, but I want to feel like a parent to him, too. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.