DS is almost 16 months. I've had him in "playcare" (9hrs/week) for the past 3months, leading up to the potential that I might get a job. He LOVES his daycare. i LOVE his daycare. They are awesome.
I got a job.
He's now full-time daycare. Tonight ends our first week.
He is great. he is a happy kiddo at daycare.
He is a happy kiddo when grandparents pick him up and bring him home (I teach night classes 2nights a week so grandparents are footing that responsibility right now).
He is not happy. He is clingy, crying, screaming, in my face... only wants to be held.
When he's with dad or grandparents, he goes down without question. Happy!
But me... screams just by me carrying him into his room. Screams through that last diaper change. Doesn't matter the toys I put with him or the funny faces or the songs. He screams.
He just doesn't want the night to end.
Or at least... that's what I'm figuring.
Mornings are the worst. This morning I realized, I can't do this to him/me over and over again. I'm going to have to get up before him and pack the car. At least IF he freaks out, it'll only be by putting him in the car... not by watching me get my laptop together, his daycare stuff together, all while clinging to my legs, screaming. Screams I've never heard before. Unbelievable screams - like he's choking, can't even go anymore screams. Gotta stop that one. I've gotta be proactive here.
And when I get home, to wear him. He won't play, he will not be consoled... all he wants is me. So I'll start wearing him immediately. And in the ergo with him in front, Facing me, seemed to work tonight. I haven't worn him that way in months (normally he's on my back), but he really needs ME connection. And tonight wearing him at my face, so he could poke at my face and 100% intrude on me cooking or cleaning or whatever else I was doing.... that seemed to be exactly where he wanted to be).
But.... is this enough? Is this the right tactic?
If he could internalize, I think it would be Anger. Abandonment. Why are you doing this to me?
Since he can't... I'm just assuming it's that he just needs more ME, in the limited time we have.
Does this sound right?
Edited by JordanKX - 1/8/11 at 1:05pm