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post #21 of 234

I read all the posts but doing personals right now just seems taxing.  It looks like all is well (for the most part) And many of you have hit the 3rd trimester. I hope all continues to go well for each of you!!

post #22 of 234

hug2.gif  Nerdymom-  I can't believe your MW is giving you a hard time about 16 lbs.  My midwife was asking if I've gained 15 lbs yet at both our last meetings (at 4 months and at 5 months).  I finally remembered to weigh myself at the store the other day (I don't have a scale and neither does she!) and I am just at the 15 lb mark.  I am thin looking when not pregnant, but I am "dense" and usually weigh close to 160.  According to all my books (and I have a LOT of them!) we are right on target.  I gained 35-ish with both of my other pregnancies, and I don't really see myself gaining 20 more lbs in the next 3 months, but I guess I probably will.  I have good friends who gained 75 lbs during their pregnancies and our midwife was ok with it.  She should give you a break!  Your weight gain sounds very healthy.

 

Birth control... not my cup of tea.  We did NFP after DD1, it worked for 2 yrs, then we went away for a month and a half and I forgot the calendar.  After DD2 I had an IUD put in.  Never again.  The IUD was horrible.  It made my periods super heavy, I bled when I ovulated, and was in pain all the time.  Then I went on the pill after dd2 stopped nursing, but that was not good for me either.  I've been talking to DP about having "the snip snip" and he is open to it.  A lot of our male friends and both our fathers had it done so I'm hoping he will really do it.  I don't think I should have to go through a tubal when he can have something way less serious done.  I'm just not sure when he should do it b/c he'll be out of commision for a while and I rely on his help a lot with the kids, etc.

post #23 of 234

Most guys are only out of commission for a weekend. 

 

post #24 of 234

Well, that is eye opening news Mclisa!!  Thank you!  The guys I know must be big babies because I've been hearing a week or two around here.  I guess they just got attached to the frozen peas and movies in bed (and being waited on is nice too I'm sure). 

post #25 of 234

Im 27 weeks today, returned from europe with out my DP, then came to NC for the holidays...waiting for DP to return home to Mexico/our home before I return from NC. Do not want to be alone in MX during this time. I have begun to compile a list of things that i want or need for baby. Odered the book Ten Moons, and really interested in a Lotus Birth. Still not sure where I will deliver, we may end up back in Europe for the birth. I know my time for flying is running out....but everything is so up in the air. I have a glucose screen I need to do soon. Kind of putting that off....the midwife is ok with that though.I have been looking for a herbal bath mix, possibly buying all new cloth for this baby. Considering i would have to strip the old cloth by boiling them since we dont have hot water to the washer. Boiling all day does not seem like fun to me at this point. But maybe once I get back home to Mexico i will feel more like it. I like Aiden and anais blankets....have those on my wish list.

 

 

 

 

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Originally Posted by nerdymom View Post

Sorry not to post personals but I just got back from my MW. I am frustrated because she told me I gained too much weight. 6lbs in 4 weeks. That puts my total weight gain at 14lbs. I know I started off a little overweight but we eat well. We loosely follow the traditional foods diet. We don't do refined sugars or flours (except at Christmas) and we do full fat dairy. She gave me a big talking to about my milk consumption and told me I ought to switch to non-fat milk. NONFAT. THAT THIN, DISGUSTING BLUE MILK. No thanks...I'd rather drink vinegar. I am putting away almost a pint a day...I could probably cut back. But really. I crave milk. Is that so horrible, would she rather I crave ho-hos or ice cream? I've struggled with eating disorders in the past and the stress of monthly weigh ins is getting to me. :cry:


Nerdymom! I feel for you. I've been obsessed with my weight most of my life. I have refused to find out my weight, although I've been weighing at the MW office. I'm switching to another MW practice tomorrow where I'll ask them not to weigh me at all. Feel empowered to do the same. When I dropped the "history of eating disorders" on my previous MW, it really raised the red flag. It is healthier for me to gain a few too many pounds than to "diet" during my pregnancy. For people like me, there is no in-between.
 

post #27 of 234

Nerdymom, your diet sounds great and I can't think of much that's better for you and your baby!  I would *not* worry about the weight gain.  Fortunately, my MW is very relaxed about the weight gain too.  I always gain a good amount, it's just what my body wants to do.  I eat well also and avoid grains and sugars and eat plenty of fat.  I am very healthy.  I have to say that I will be glad to be done and lose some of this weight though!

 

We *just* got our new, king-sized mattress yesterday.  Wow--I LOVE it.  Our 3yo sleeps with us, and it was a snug fit with the queen even.  I couldn't imagine adding in the new baby, but now--there is SO much room!  It's a wool mattress with a natural foundation.  I have wanted a natural/organic bed for years and I am in heaven!!  The next thing to figure out is a dresser...but that may have to wait a while.

 

I'm 27 weeks and feeling huge.  When I think of 3 more months, it seems like I can't possibly get bigger for all that time!  But I am sure I will.  I am starting to really not want to bend over to pick things up, or to get down on the floor.

 

Birth control, I just hate this subject :(  We have 6 children already and I just turned 40 and my husband is 57.  I just feel like this is/should be our last, but I don't want to get my tubes tied and I don't particularly want my husband to get the V--but he probably will end up doing that.

 

I'm trying to decide if I want to have the baby here at home (my midwife is about 5 hours away and would come and stay several days around my due date if needed) or if I want to go down to my mom's (she's about 40 mins. from the midwife and very near to emergency services where we are not).  I don't want to go to my mom's--I'm just worried.....

post #28 of 234

Thank you everyone for your words of encouragement. Her concern probably stems from the fact that I started out slightly overweight. Not very overweight, I am a size 12/14, but enough extra that they decided I should only gain 15-20lbs. But I am not convinced that is healthy for my baby, or for me. DS was 10lbs and let me tell you, he was *not* chubby.

post #29 of 234

I posted a long post earlier today but it looks like it disappeared?  I don't remember what all I was whining about...

Everyone in my house is sick with a cold.  Blech.

I'll be 26 weeks tomorrow and I'm starting to freak out because I totally feel like I'm stuck in limbo.  I don't yet know where I'll be giving birth, so I don't feel like I can get prepared emotionally since I don't know what type of birth this will be.  I also can't get the baby's room all settled so my house feels unprepared too.  I want to put a mattress in there so I can sleep in there with the baby.  Right now I sleep next door with DD, and I want to transition to that room now so DD can get used to it before her brother gets here.  (Plus, I could get better sleep without her little feet in my ribs every night.)  We keep waiting on the mattress because BIL might be giving us one, but I don't know for sure if or when and it's making me crazy. 

 

I also wanted to throw out there for anyone considering tubal ligation that there's a new procedure called Essure.  My friend had it done and was happy with it.  She had it done in her doctor's office as an outpatient procedure with local anesthetic, and it was fine.  Basically, they just plug up the tubes with permanent plugs.  I haven't really researched it since I have no intention of getting it done, at least any time in the near future, but it definitely sounds less invasive than the tubal ligation.

post #30 of 234
Thread Starter 

your midwife is CRAZY!!!  and MEAN! tell her I said so.  I've gained 30 lbs SO FAR!!  By far more than I wanted to.  I was hoping to keep it at about 40 total.  maybe there is still a chance but doubt it.  you know what the problem is.  I LOVE  TO EAT!  I also work out a ton yet become sloth like when I am pregnant.  It happened with the girls- it happened this time.  I'm not diabetic, I just went from training for triathlons and marathons to do doing practically nothing.  No one has said anything to me.  I have my first appointment with the birth center midwife Wed and am tempted to ask if I can not weigh because it just upsets me.  I'm so mad for you.  14lbs.  that would be a dream for me!!  now- excuse me while I go eat a piece of cake and have a glass of milk. 

post #31 of 234
Thread Starter 

aaaaaannnnndddddd....February has started having babies.  holy cow. i am freaking out now.

post #32 of 234

ROFL!!! So you are on my side when I tell you that tonight I felt so wretched, (after going hungry all day then deciding I was being silly and making layered chicken enchiladas and kale chips for supper) that I mixed up a batch of chocolate chip brownies and when they come out of the oven in a few minutes I am going to eat one. Or two. With a glass of *whole* milk. :drool:

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I'm in the same boat. I've gained around 25 lbs so far I think. I gained 70+ with both my other pregnancies,  and was REALLY hoping to gain 35-40 this time but that probably isn't going to happen. I'll try to be happy with anything less than 70. I am really mystified about my gain last month. I barely ate anything in Dec (very busy + not feeling hungry) up until a few days before Christmas, and then my eating wasn't all THAT out of control. I still gained 10 lbs. Grrrr. I wasn't training for triathalons before I got pregnancy, but I had been running and doing intense cardio several times a week, and then it all stopped when I got pg.

 

 

Originally Posted by StarCat View Post

your midwife is CRAZY!!!  and MEAN! tell her I said so.  I've gained 30 lbs SO FAR!!  By far more than I wanted to.  I was hoping to keep it at about 40 total.  maybe there is still a chance but doubt it.  you know what the problem is.  I LOVE  TO EAT!  I also work out a ton yet become sloth like when I am pregnant.  It happened with the girls- it happened this time.  I'm not diabetic, I just went from training for triathlons and marathons to do doing practically nothing.  No one has said anything to me.  I have my first appointment with the birth center midwife Wed and am tempted to ask if I can not weigh because it just upsets me.  I'm so mad for you.  14lbs.  that would be a dream for me!!  now- excuse me while I go eat a piece of cake and have a glass of milk. 

post #34 of 234

kale chips, yum!!! i'll make some tomorrow i think.

 

we had chocolate cake for dessert :D

post #35 of 234

I've gained almost 30 so far. I always gain around 40. Hoping I can hold it off to another 10 lbs total. I'm just going to keep eating well and exercising as much as I can and let it go at that. I gained 40ish with my last two pregnancies and lost 25 within two weeks of birth. That's just what I do for some reason!

post #36 of 234
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aaaaaannnnndddddd....February has started having babies.  holy cow. i am freaking out now.


SHUT.UP.

holy moly... i need to get moving....
post #37 of 234

I'm 29 weeks (due late March, but hoping for early April).  I can relate to a lot of what y'all are discussing.

 

  • Bed size: I'm a first-time mom, and interested in co-sleeping (I currently have a family heirloom cradle, but no crib).  But I live in a tiny, one-bedroom apartment and I cannot put our bed on the floor (nor can I get a king-sized bed).  I need the space under the bed for storage.  I am trying to figure out a creative way to skip the crib.
  • Birth control: I don't like the idea of getting something implanted, but I don't want to get pregnant any time soon after this first time.  I'd try the mini-pill, but someone mentioned it can be bad for milk supply.
  • Weight gain: My midwife doesn't weigh me.  She just measures my belly.  She says I'm right on track.  But I'm stressed about it because I vacillate between thinking I'm gaining too much and too little.  So I try not to weigh myself often (I have to do it on our Wii balance board, as we don't have a scale).

 

I'm also stressing about whether to get a tub and try water birth (love the idea except I'm not sure we have enough hot water AND I don't love the rental expense).  And I need to figure out how long an unpaid leave I'm going to want to take from work (after my 6 weeks paid maternity leave).  How in the world can I predict that in advance?  But I have to tell them in advance.

post #38 of 234

wow, 6 weeks paid is awesome! have you figured out the childcare sitch yet? i'm taking 12 weeks (all unpaid unless i used some vacation) and i would gladly take more if i thought my work would be ok with it. especially since i haven't been able to line up care yet.

 

re, bedsize: what size bed do you have? with my first we had a queen, but i think we could have gotten away with a full. we put up a temporary bed rail like this: http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B0002VAF3Y?ie=UTF8&tag=thenewparentsguide-20&linkCode=as2&camp=1789&creative=390957&creativeASIN=B0002VAF3Y

 

try searching for baby bed rail and see what you find. maybe something useful to you.

 

re, waterbirth: you can always birth in the bathtub. oh, well if you have a bathtub, that is. in the instruction packet that my mw sent home last week she suggests taking a bed pillow, stuffing it in a garbage sack, and taping it up really well so that it's water proof so that you have pillows in the tub. seems like that would help in a bathtub quite a bit. but in any case, i know quite a few women who birthed in their bathtubs.
 

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I'm 29 weeks (due late March, but hoping for early April).  I can relate to a lot of what y'all are discussing.

 

  • Bed size: I'm a first-time mom, and interested in co-sleeping (I currently have a family heirloom cradle, but no crib).  But I live in a tiny, one-bedroom apartment and I cannot put our bed on the floor (nor can I get a king-sized bed).  I need the space under the bed for storage.  I am trying to figure out a creative way to skip the crib.
  • Birth control: I don't like the idea of getting something implanted, but I don't want to get pregnant any time soon after this first time.  I'd try the mini-pill, but someone mentioned it can be bad for milk supply.
  • Weight gain: My midwife doesn't weigh me.  She just measures my belly.  She says I'm right on track.  But I'm stressed about it because I vacillate between thinking I'm gaining too much and too little.  So I try not to weigh myself often (I have to do it on our Wii balance board, as we don't have a scale).

 

I'm also stressing about whether to get a tub and try water birth (love the idea except I'm not sure we have enough hot water AND I don't love the rental expense).  And I need to figure out how long an unpaid leave I'm going to want to take from work (after my 6 weeks paid maternity leave).  How in the world can I predict that in advance?  But I have to tell them in advance.

post #39 of 234

I actually do NOT have a bathtub.  ;)   Just a shower.

 

Thanks for the perspective.  6 weeks sounded really stingy to me.

 

And we have a queen-sized bed, but cannot push either side up to a wall.  I have been looking at bed rails/bolsters/etc. but they all get really mixed reviews.

post #40 of 234

awe, shoot. too bad about no tub.

 

we liked our bed rail, used it for a couple of years and will be pulling it out for this baby fo sho. although this time around we do have a king bed (but also 4 people).
 

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Originally Posted by kaPOW! View Post

wow, 6 weeks paid is awesome! have you figured out the childcare sitch yet? i'm taking 12 weeks (all unpaid unless i used some vacation) and i would gladly take more if i thought my work would be ok with it. especially since i haven't been able to line up care yet.

 

re, bedsize: what size bed do you have? with my first we had a queen, but i think we could have gotten away with a full. we put up a temporary bed rail like this: http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B0002VAF3Y?ie=UTF8&tag=thenewparentsguide-20&linkCode=as2&camp=1789&creative=390957&creativeASIN=B0002VAF3Y

 

try searching for baby bed rail and see what you find. maybe something useful to you.

 

re, waterbirth: you can always birth in the bathtub. oh, well if you have a bathtub, that is. in the instruction packet that my mw sent home last week she suggests taking a bed pillow, stuffing it in a garbage sack, and taping it up really well so that it's water proof so that you have pillows in the tub. seems like that would help in a bathtub quite a bit. but in any case, i know quite a few women who birthed in their bathtubs.
 

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Originally Posted by Neuromancer View Post

I'm 29 weeks (due late March, but hoping for early April).  I can relate to a lot of what y'all are discussing.

 

  • Bed size: I'm a first-time mom, and interested in co-sleeping (I currently have a family heirloom cradle, but no crib).  But I live in a tiny, one-bedroom apartment and I cannot put our bed on the floor (nor can I get a king-sized bed).  I need the space under the bed for storage.  I am trying to figure out a creative way to skip the crib.
  • Birth control: I don't like the idea of getting something implanted, but I don't want to get pregnant any time soon after this first time.  I'd try the mini-pill, but someone mentioned it can be bad for milk supply.
  • Weight gain: My midwife doesn't weigh me.  She just measures my belly.  She says I'm right on track.  But I'm stressed about it because I vacillate between thinking I'm gaining too much and too little.  So I try not to weigh myself often (I have to do it on our Wii balance board, as we don't have a scale).

 

I'm also stressing about whether to get a tub and try water birth (love the idea except I'm not sure we have enough hot water AND I don't love the rental expense).  And I need to figure out how long an unpaid leave I'm going to want to take from work (after my 6 weeks paid maternity leave).  How in the world can I predict that in advance?  But I have to tell them in advance.


 


 



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Originally Posted by Neuromancer View Post

I actually do NOT have a bathtub.  ;)   Just a shower.

 

Thanks for the perspective.  6 weeks sounded really stingy to me.

 

And we have a queen-sized bed, but cannot push either side up to a wall.  I have been looking at bed rails/bolsters/etc. but they all get really mixed reviews.

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