No. My experience at the hospital was so amazing, and so surprising, I will be going there again for repeat CS when we have more babies. I got a taste of the "what ifs" and the pain and don't want to revisit- what ifs aren't just silly fear, often it's your intuition telling you something very important! if you believe in trusting your instincts, you have to trust all of them, not just the ones you like. Also, 2 friends had tragic HBs, one lost a baby, the other almost did, both over easily treatable problems. Some fears have more basis in reality than others, and for ME the hospital ( ONLY one particular one btw) is safer and much more comfortable.*I never thought I would say this.*
What happened was this:
I wanted a HB (UC), planned for one, expected one, but after going into labor I just KNEW something was wrong. I had great prenatal care from a CNM/OB team, and they said everything looked great. Low risk, no health issues, baby looked good, no nuchal cord, good position. But something wasn't right, so I followed my instinct even though I didn't like where it took me.
I hated hospitals and had been VERY scared by stories I heard. Plus, I live in Mexico in a Spanish style ocean front house, and was going to birth on my terrace overlooking the water, under the stars, then sit in front of the fireplace with babe. While In labor, I hightailed it to this well known women/their babies only hospital, passing up many other hospitals on the way. After a total of 36 hours, 3.5 pushing, 2 laboring down, full dilation/effacement, but DS wouldn't budge. The very top of his head was showing I guess, but he couldn't decend further. he was stuck, and his heart rate was becoming problematic. I got a CS and it was GREAT. Boy was I surprised!!!
I can't tell you how great everyone was. NOT ONE time did anyone do anything- even clean my bathroom- before politely asking permission, and explaining fully no matter how many questions I had. every doc, nurse, etc was so kind, never pushy. No fighting needed. I've never felt as respected and cared for, no request too small or question to insignificant. I swear they find all the caring nurses and docs and hoard them at this hospital, they all love what they do and it shows. My DH commented on how nice and caring everyone was, he was just as amazed. I didn't know there even were hospitals like this one, and was pleasantly surprised. It wasn't my terrace, but it was still nice.
The CS was as big of a shock as the staff- the docs wanted to avoid CS so badly,they tried everything to get him to decend, with no luck. My CS was fast and recovery was easy (Im not in great shape either). The best part is my son came out alive and well, without CS I don't know what would've happened, but Im sure it would have been ugly. All I could see was the tiny coffin he would go in if something went wrong, and I was thankful we ended up safe.
I didn't get the UC I wanted, but what I got was good, and reallly was an eye opener. Now that I am not afraid of hospitals, and found an amazing one, I will use it again. My OB suggested a VBac for #2, but Im afraid of it, but not the CS. of course I still want a HB/UC, but it's no longer out of fear of the hospital/docs, now it's a fear of rupture or complications not easily managed at home.
ALL labors and mamas are different, What worked for me may not be good for anyone else. Don't worry, you will know what to do, just remember the 2nd birth is usually much easier and better than the first. Don't let anything stop you, no matter what you choose.
What happened was this:
I wanted a HB (UC), planned for one, expected one, but after going into labor I just KNEW something was wrong. I had great prenatal care from a CNM/OB team, and they said everything looked great. Low risk, no health issues, baby looked good, no nuchal cord, good position. But something wasn't right, so I followed my instinct even though I didn't like where it took me.
I hated hospitals and had been VERY scared by stories I heard. Plus, I live in Mexico in a Spanish style ocean front house, and was going to birth on my terrace overlooking the water, under the stars, then sit in front of the fireplace with babe. While In labor, I hightailed it to this well known women/their babies only hospital, passing up many other hospitals on the way. After a total of 36 hours, 3.5 pushing, 2 laboring down, full dilation/effacement, but DS wouldn't budge. The very top of his head was showing I guess, but he couldn't decend further. he was stuck, and his heart rate was becoming problematic. I got a CS and it was GREAT. Boy was I surprised!!!
I can't tell you how great everyone was. NOT ONE time did anyone do anything- even clean my bathroom- before politely asking permission, and explaining fully no matter how many questions I had. every doc, nurse, etc was so kind, never pushy. No fighting needed. I've never felt as respected and cared for, no request too small or question to insignificant. I swear they find all the caring nurses and docs and hoard them at this hospital, they all love what they do and it shows. My DH commented on how nice and caring everyone was, he was just as amazed. I didn't know there even were hospitals like this one, and was pleasantly surprised. It wasn't my terrace, but it was still nice.
The CS was as big of a shock as the staff- the docs wanted to avoid CS so badly,they tried everything to get him to decend, with no luck. My CS was fast and recovery was easy (Im not in great shape either). The best part is my son came out alive and well, without CS I don't know what would've happened, but Im sure it would have been ugly. All I could see was the tiny coffin he would go in if something went wrong, and I was thankful we ended up safe.
I didn't get the UC I wanted, but what I got was good, and reallly was an eye opener. Now that I am not afraid of hospitals, and found an amazing one, I will use it again. My OB suggested a VBac for #2, but Im afraid of it, but not the CS. of course I still want a HB/UC, but it's no longer out of fear of the hospital/docs, now it's a fear of rupture or complications not easily managed at home.
ALL labors and mamas are different, What worked for me may not be good for anyone else. Don't worry, you will know what to do, just remember the 2nd birth is usually much easier and better than the first. Don't let anything stop you, no matter what you choose.
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