Nasty confrontation by DH's aunt at baby shower

[gbailey]

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Edited by gbailey - 4/1/11 at 12:26pm

[mattemma04]

She sounds really toxic. How childish of her to act like that at the cousins baby shower. When she asked why you don't visit my response would be," Your actions now are the reason we avoid you!" And lol on her living in her place longer...so you should visit.Like she wins some sort of contest.

I feel bad for the cousin who had to have this negative vibe in her home. Hopefully she will cut her out too,because it is not good for kids to be around people like that!

[gbailey]

She is very toxic and I think unhappy too. Having to deal with her last night made it even more clear that it's best to continue to stay away. I'm not sure what universe she lives in that she believes that kind of behavior is okay and that I'd be foolish enough to take my daughter over there to play.

Originally Posted by mattemma04 

She sounds really toxic. How childish of her to act like that at the cousins baby shower. When she asked why you don't visit my response would be," Your actions now are the reason we avoid you!" And lol on her living in her place longer...so you should visit.Like she wins some sort of contest.

I feel bad for the cousin who had to have this negative vibe in her home. Hopefully she will cut her out too,because it is not good for kids to be around people like that!

[ChristyMarie]

Sounds like you handled it very well.  You didn't feed her drama, you remained calm and detached.  Sometimes that's the best you can do.

[gbailey]

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Originally Posted by ChristyMarie 

Sounds like you handled it very well.  You didn't feed her drama, you remained calm and detached.  Sometimes that's the best you can do.

Edited by gbailey - 4/1/11 at 12:27pm

[sapphire_chan]

So basically, she thinks she's a great babysitter because everyone uses her as a babysitter and there must be something wrong with you to not trust her with your kid?

[gbailey]

Pretty much. After DD was born a lot of really funky things were said about us that weren't even closeto being true by this aunt and MIL but even if they weren't her apartment isn't a place where we would feel safe for DD.

DH's family feels like, "so what she got drunk? that's just nana.it's not like there weren't other relatives to take care of her." No harm, no foul. Clearly, something is wrong with me because DH has no mind of his own and is under my wicked spell. There's no way he could come  up with not wanting his DD at the home of a chain smoking drunk.

Originally Posted by sapphire_chan 

So basically, she thinks she's a great babysitter because everyone uses her as a babysitter and there must be something wrong with you to not trust her with your kid?

[sapphire_chan]

I can't decide if I hope your relatives do or if I hope they don't talk about their "childcare" arrangements with a mandated reporter. One hand, it'd be likely to get them to accuse YOU of being the one to report, and CPS can get carried away. On the other hand, it could be the wake-up call they need to just find reliable childcare instead.

At least you're well out of it besides the few times you see them. If cousin's girlfriend does say something to you about wishing she didn't have to use your aunt, you could point out that people lose their kids for using drunks as babysitters.

[gbailey]

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Originally Posted by sapphire_chan 

I can't decide if I hope your relatives do or if I hope they don't talk about their "childcare" arrangements with a mandated reporter. One hand, it'd be likely to get them to accuse YOU of being the one to report, and CPS can get carried away. On the other hand, it could be the wake-up call they need to just find reliable childcare instead.

At least you're well out of it besides the few times you see them. If cousin's girlfriend does say something to you about wishing she didn't have to use your aunt, you could point out that people lose their kids for using drunks as babysitters.

Edited by gbailey - 4/1/11 at 12:27pm