Yesterday I had to take my 3 1/2 month old intact son to urgent care. I suspected he might have a urinary tract infection because he had been fussy, had a lowgrade fever and I saw an orange spot in the diaper that looked like it could be diluted blood. The certified nursing assistant said we needed a "clean catch" urine sample and she had to clean him thoroughly before putting on the plastic bag.
I said, "Just don't retract him. You're not supposed to retract him."
I watched her really carefully and anytime she got near the penis with the wipe I said, "You're not going to retract him right?" And she just ignored me. I really should have been more forceful but it had been a horrible week with my own health problems and the one year anniversary of my dad's death and I was really anxious and unsure of myself. That's no excuse for not slapping her hand away but it happened so fast!
Anyway, there was a tiny bit if diaper cream at the opening of his penis and she retracted it to wipe the cream.
I was soo mad and said again, "I told you not to retract him." And she said, "It was just a tiny bit, I had to get him clean."
My little one didn't cry at all and his penis looks normal today (no swelling or redness that I can see.)
But I'm so mad. Should I find out who her supervisor is and write a letter? I see that there's a lawyer willing to write a letter but that looked like it was just for doctors and nurses. CNAs aren't even nurses right? Though I assume they must be licensed by the state board.
This was the urgent care clinic since it was a Saturday.
I feel like such a bad mommy. I should have educated myself more. I knew enough to tell her not to retract his penis but I got confused because I know from my own UTIs that they do need a clean catch. But what I should have done is just wiped the cream away myself because I could have easily done it without retracting him.
He's going to be ok right? :(