How do you decide to skip the midwife at home? We can afford one and DH so far is demanding it. I love the idea of UC but I'm anxious about it. I'm only 7 weeks along so I have a lot of time to think and learn
In my mind the worst scenario is the baby has a bad presentation and we have to rush to the hospital or the baby comes out not breathing and I can not help them or just that something bad happens that I have never heard for and therefore am not prepared for.I'm also weirdly uncomforable with the idea of touching my vagina when a baby is coming out of it. The idea of massaging my cervix when the baby is coming gives me creeps
I am a very reserved person and not truly comfortable around many people. DH is very unhelpful when I'm in labor. He would be best as one of those dads who sit in the waiting room until the baby arrives, so I would be nearly alone in the birth. I'm good at listening to my body.
I have 2 children and both were at hospitals. the first birth was so awful I believe I have post traumatic stress from it.The second birth was as good as a hospital birth can go and I still don't want to go through with it again. I have been around this board for 2 years but just changed my screen name because my old one was the same as my email
So, how do you decide to go without a midwife and how do you calm anxiety over UC?