I really need help. starting to resent my sweet baby. :(

[dalia]

I know that the answer to my problem might be in these threads if I did some research, but frankly I am just too exhausted. My ds has been cosleeping since birth and it has been a rocky ride but overall so worth it. Now I feel that we need something to change because he has started kicking, scratching and rolling on top of my head all. night. long. I can't take it anymore. The problem is that he doesn't nurse at all during the day, only during his nap and at night. I'm afraid that if I night wean and move him into the crib right next to our bed, he will wean because my supply will go down so much (he's 15 months). I don't want him to wean now because he is unvaxed. Wanted to at least make it until two!

I have pantley's book but I am just so tired I haven't reviewed it lately. I did try to move him into the side crib before and when he screamed for three hours with me right there next to him comforting him, and then started banging his head, I gave up. I don't want him to suffer. I don't even know what I am looking for here... btdt, hugs, a magic wand? Anything helps. Thanks for reading.

[dalia]

Well I just read another post that is sort of similar so maybe that's why no one is responding..

[marinak1977]

no advice just hugs

[vanessab23]

oh mama-- HUGS

i know you are super tired, but please take some time to read/skim through NCSS as she has so many really helpful tips. make the time for it, trust me-- i have recently opened it up again (the toddler/preschooler version now!) and am glad i did.

[jacoba]

I am feeling the same way this morning!  I have a 16 month old and he has never slept more than 4 hours at night.  Usually he sleeps 2 hours then wakes to nurse.  (We co-sleep) There are some nights that he is so wiggly and crawls around and sits up that it seems he is not sleeping at all. I wake up feeling so tired and sometimes upset at my son for not sleeping, it is really hard to feel this way so I understand.

I am sitting here at 1030am still in my PJ's and in a fog from the past two nights.  I have been trying to get him to sleep on his own in our bed and my husband and I have moved to another bed in the house.  It has only been 2  nights so far and in NCSS she says to try something at least a week.  I have tried most of her suggestions such as unlatching just as they are falling asleep so they can learn to go back to sleep without nursing, putting him down for an earlier bed time, making sure he naps well during the day.  She says that some babies just won't sleep long stretches when they are next to mama and so I am now trying to transition him to sleeping on his own.  So far neither of us are getting any more sleep but she says to stick with something for at least a week so I will keep trying. Before moving out of our bed to another bed, I tried putting his crib with the front side open (we have a transitional crib so the front comes off for a toddler transition) and put the crib right next to our bed so he could climb into our bed or I could go into his bed to nurse him.  This did not work for us but maybe it would for you? Whatever you try, I wish you luck.  One things that helps me is to remember how fast this first year has already gone and to know that one day he will be sleeping longer and I will get more sleep.  This is not forever.  It is still hard, I know.  Good luck!!!

[dalia]

TThanks everyone. I know this will not last forever but right now it feels like it has been an eternity! To be honest I don't even know if transitioning him will help or if he will just scream and we will all end up worse. I just don't know. It seems like he sleeps less and is just tired and cranky all the time lately. Idk what to do anymore. He is getting canines.. does anyone know how long that lasts?