I have been out of the anti-circ loop for a long time and most of my info/knowledge from Mothering relates to what is normal for intact infants. My son is now 14 years old and I am really uncertain as to what might be going on with him at this point.
Ds has never had any foreskin problems up to now. When he was around 6 or 7 he announced one day after a bath that his foreskin "goes back" and so I know for sure at that age it did retract. But naturally in the years that followed I never gave this issue any more thought. I just assumed all was well.
Ds asked his dad the other day why it is that he doesn't pee in as straight as other guys in bathrooms and dh (who is circ'd) told me ds said that. I remember reading somewhere that intact kids should retract a bit when peeing so they can pee straighter and told dh to tell ds to try that.
So what came of that was that ds said his foreskin does not go back anymore. I was pretty surprised to hear this and after asking a few questions it seems that ds can't remember when this stopped, but he knows it has been more than a year, maybe several years, and if he tries to make it go back it hurts too much.
Okay, what the heck?? He does not complain of any other symptoms. I'd like to have some info on what is normal at this age, what might be the cause of this change, and what possible solutions should be tried. I don't want to just rush off to the urologist until I have more info myself, kwim?
Thanks so much!