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post #21 of 28
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Originally Posted by meemee View Post
and never underestimate any children and dont blow off what they say. it could be nothing, but it could be something. i know quite a few children who knew their sexuality at 6 and announced it loud and clear - whether hetero or gay. 


DS is 6 and has always been very clear that he's going to marry a woman. He has announced his engagement to his stepsister, the (female) dog, and me. We've made sure he knows that we don't care whether he falls in love with a man or a woman and that sometimes men love women and sometimes they love men, etc. So while this may be a product of the fact that he's never had any real interaction with gay couples, it wouldn't shock me in the slightest if DS was hetero, despite the fact that three of his four parents are queer. Regardless of the nail polish, eye shadow, flowered jeans, and baby in a sling that he wears regularly. Sheepish.gif

post #22 of 28
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Originally Posted by Qestia View Post

My 5 yo has never mentioned anything about his privates, but he does say he wants to marry our dog when he grows up because he loves her so much and he tells her "I love you, wife." So... I think it's a bit early to draw any conclusions from this!



That's adorable!  My 5 yo wants to BE a dog when she grows up.  LOL.

post #23 of 28
I echo the others about working through your feelings more. It's hard not to wonder about this stuff when our kids make comments, I know. Plenty of kids do know their sexual orientation at this age (I know I did), but I think you're going to need more to go on than that one remark!

I also just wanted to give you a thumb.gif for working hard to do things differently than your family when you were growing up. It's awesome that your son feels comfortable enough to talk about things like this with both you and your husband, and kudos to your DH for handling it so matter of factly.
post #24 of 28
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Originally Posted by minkajane View Post

DS is 6 and has always been very clear that he's going to marry a woman. He has announced his engagement to his stepsister, the (female) dog, and me. We've made sure he knows that we don't care whether he falls in love with a man or a woman and that sometimes men love women and sometimes they love men, etc. So while this may be a product of the fact that he's never had any real interaction with gay couples, it wouldn't shock me in the slightest if DS was hetero, despite the fact that three of his four parents are queer. Regardless of the nail polish, eye shadow, flowered jeans, and baby in a sling that he wears regularly. Sheepish.gif

 

right on M. one thing for sure. he is gonna make a great father to his baby.


dd is not sure. and she keeps her options open. when prop 8 failed in Calif. she cried. 'but mom what if i want to marry a girl. why cant i marry a girl if i want to.' 

 

i love that about her. that she doesnt take it for granted that she WILL marry a boy. who knows. she might be bi. (honestly the best way to go imho - the whole world is your potential partner rather than just half the world smile.gif )

 

all i've told her is that i dont care who she marries. she just has to have children - whether her own or her partners or adopted. i would love to see her as a mom since she has always had a v. nurturing streak even before she could walk. 

 

post #25 of 28

I had a boyfriend at age five. We held hands every day while we walked to kindergarten together. That was all for physical contact and at the time, it was very matter-of-fact for us. Anyway, I did know that I wanted a male partner then, and the only changes that happened later on were that I thought that I wouldn't ever want to have a partner at all, but then met my dp, who is male, and we married.

 

As for my children, it came as a big surprise to three of my sons this past year, that I would not be available to marry them all when they are men. lol.gif They were genuinely disappointed and thought that I would make babies for them to raise too. I thought they were joking, so I wasn't as gentle as they needed initially, but I made up for it in a hurry. Now they're super curious about all the possibilities for partners, and they argue over who will get my Moby wrap for their babies. My three year old wants to be a woman until he births his babies, and then he'll be a man, and breastfeed. He is also checking his sister daily when I change her diaper to see if she's going to turn into a man, or she'll do that after she births a baby, which he's not convinced isn't just waiting in there for her to get big enough to "let the baby out." Lol.

 

I am totally honest with my dc, and answer all of their questions. It's hilarious to me how they fill in the blanks. I love how raw and genuine their appraisals of humans are. So open and loving. luxlove.gif


Edited by PreggieUBA2C - 1/13/11 at 4:00pm
post #26 of 28

5 year olds are funny. One of my DDs was really into Barbie and had several, but she only had one Ken. She also felt the need to pair everybody up into to couples. To solve the problem, she declared, "most of the Barbies are lesbians anyway, so I don't need any more Ken dolls."

post #27 of 28
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Originally Posted by Linda on the move View Post

5 year olds are funny. One of my DDs was really into Barbie and had several, but she only had one Ken. She also felt the need to pair everybody up into to couples. To solve the problem, she declared, "most of the Barbies are lesbians anyway, so I don't need any more Ken dolls."

 

That's awesome! :D
 

post #28 of 28

when i was little i wanted to marry the girl next door because she had the most amazing barbie dolls.... lol

i wouldn't worry too much about it. he is still very little. you have plenty of time smile.gif

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