I had a boyfriend at age five. We held hands every day while we walked to kindergarten together. That was all for physical contact and at the time, it was very matter-of-fact for us. Anyway, I did know that I wanted a male partner then, and the only changes that happened later on were that I thought that I wouldn't ever want to have a partner at all, but then met my dp, who is male, and we married.
As for my children, it came as a big surprise to three of my sons this past year, that I would not be available to marry them all when they are men. They were genuinely disappointed and thought that I would make babies for them to raise too. I thought they were joking, so I wasn't as gentle as they needed initially, but I made up for it in a hurry. Now they're super curious about all the possibilities for partners, and they argue over who will get my Moby wrap for their babies. My three year old wants to be a woman until he births his babies, and then he'll be a man, and breastfeed. He is also checking his sister daily when I change her diaper to see if she's going to turn into a man, or she'll do that after she births a baby, which he's not convinced isn't just waiting in there for her to get big enough to "let the baby out." Lol.
I am totally honest with my dc, and answer all of their questions. It's hilarious to me how they fill in the blanks. I love how raw and genuine their appraisals of humans are. So open and loving.
Edited by PreggieUBA2C - 1/13/11 at 4:00pm