I think there have been a lot of good ideas - I do think that the protein thing is important. Â Can you find sources of cheaper protein? Â
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We eat on a budget, organic - here is what helps us. Â Price the things you use the most of, and shop for bargains on those. Â Esp look at things that are expensive - you can either find them cheaper, or eat less of them. Â For eating less meat, try soups, stews, stirfrys- things where the meat is cut into small pieces - it stretches it much further and gives you a good gluten-free option, compared to the idea of a plate with meat, starch, and veggies, or any option that involves a big hunk of meat as the main part of the meal. Â Also makes cooking easier and clean-up, too, if you eat leftovers - most any soup or stew gets a lot better the second+ day as the flavors meld - I'm really looking forward to leftover Belgian chicken stew with prunes tonight....and make full use of your meat - when I roast a chicken, we eat roast chick for 2 nights (family of 4), then either sandwiches or a BIG pot of soup with the last pieces of meat. Â Clean the carcass well and then use the bones to make stock with carrot parings, ends of celery, and onion peels/ends. Â Makes way better, healthier stock than anything you can buy. Â Even soup once a week will save lot of $$.
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What other options are there in your area for cheap organic? - Trader Joes (meat, veg, actually they have organic in most dept's)? Â Grocery Outlet (cheese, pantry goods like cereal and crackers, inc gluten free), bulk food from a grocery or coop, or mail order coops like Azure Standard or Frontier (stick to sales stuff, esp)? Â
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For beans - have you tried beano? Â Do you cook them yourself, soak over night and dump the soak water for new before cooking (prolly doesn't happen for canned beans/processed foods)? Â A piece of dried kombu (seaweed) is also supposed to help. Â A bottle of beano is probably about the price of a nice piece of organic meat. Â Maybe certain varieties are more tolerable than others? Â Worth a try, and beans are so healthy. Â Or probiotics?
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Don't just look at the "dirty dozen" - look at the "cleanest conventionals": this list is best to worst:
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http://www.foodnews.org/fulllist.php  So onions and avocados are your best bet, as would be eating organic in season, growing some if you can (if you don't have a space, can you trade some labor for a friend's garden space?), pricing fruit, veg etc by the pound (I shoot for as close to $1/pound as I can for organic, if it's more than $2, I think twice and consider it a luxury).
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What grains can you eat? Â Rice, quinoa (also a decent protein), oatmeal? Â And what do you eat for breakfast? Â Oatmeal with nuts or peanut butter, a chopped apple, and dried fruit is healthy if you can eat it, but if you can't, can your family eat it? Â Is your kitchen completely gluten-free, or can you cook some grains (even if not gluten-containing ones) just for them?
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What are you eating for other meals? Â If they are all meat heavy, then yes, it is spendy....
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I know it's a real pain to cook more meals, but if you can't tolerate grains, bean, etc, couldn't your family? Â Could you cook a big batch of something you like and freeze for you, and then eat a different meal, even if just for the main course, and eat the veg etc that they do?
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Our costco has organic food - frozen veg, butter, milk, some meat - if the one near you doesn't, is there another one within driving distance that does that you can do a stock-up run at? Â (we have two near us, one has almost nothing organic, the other has quite a bit). Â They'll look it up for you if you call and ask - I got my organic turkey that way for T-day.
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And here is the very biggest money saver I can give you, if you don't do it already - PLAN A MENU. We write up a menu every week, write up the list based on that, adding stuff for lunches, breakfast and snacks, and stick to it. Â Otherwise, you spend a lot of money, and walk out with two bags of food that won't make the dinners you need. Â
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We spend $200/week on gas, groceries, and meals out. Â So we probably spend about $150 a week on groceries, including the money from our stock-up budget(for bulk orders, etc - those things messed up our budget too much to fit in the weekly money, as they varied so much - stock-up is $125/month, total). Â We do eat about 90-95% organic at home, and my kids are about the same age as yours, and we have lactose intolerance issues in the house, which is also limiting and expensive. Â (my 4 is a picky, light eater, too).
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I think you could eat mostly organic, with some adaptation, esp on the meat front. Â I don't work, and spend a lot of time bargain hunting to keep the budget in line. Â I will say that gluten-free makes it harder, esp if you buy GF breads, etc - they are super $$$.
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Please post or PM if you have questions - I do think that you can still eat a chunk organic, with priority given to some items. Sorry it ended up being a book....
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