Hi, I am in a realy crappy situation with my sdd and I don't really know what to do. My dh and I have had custody of sdd since she was 2.5, she is now 12, up until about 5 years ago, when her mom had another kid, her mother was mostly absent, now she comes around more frequently and sdd is starting to act more and more like she doesn't want to be here. She even makes little remarks about how things are sooo much better at her mom's. (When really her mom is never around, does nothing for her, and puts her in situations she should not be in, and the only reason sdd things are better, is because she gets to do basically whatever she wants with no regard for anything or anyone. ) This is becoming a problem, because now, when she is home, she is completely ungrateful for anything we do for her, I never get even a thank you for anything, even if I do something that is totally inconvient for me. It is like she just expects us all to bend over backwards for her, and what is worse it that she is very disrespectful of other people's property. She does pretty much what she wants to anything she wants. For example, for Christmas, we got her an American Girl Doll, something she has been asking for for months, I gave it to her early because we were excited. Of course there was no thank you for that, bu what really bothered me, was later I found that she had taken the clothes off of one of MY handmade dolls and when she realized that the arm holes did not fit her dolls arms, she just cut off the arms. She didn't even ask or anything. She knew it was mine, but she did it anyway. Another example is this weekend, my 2 yr old won a very pretty crown (not a play crown, but a nice crystal crown)and after that, we went to eat at the mall and without asking me, sdd took it inside for dd to play with, and let her drop it on the ground popping out one of the crystals. I also constantly find things in her room that are cut up or messed up that are not even hers, and when I say something about it, it is like she doesn't understand why I could possibly be mad. I just don't know what to do. Her dad isn't around a lot, because he works out of town, so he doesn't see it, and when I complain, he acts like I am overreacting. I don't have this problem with any of my other kids. What do I do? How do I set boundaries and make her follow them?
Edited by Summertime Mommy - 1/10/11 at 9:19am