Feeling so much pain and I need to vent I guess.... - Page 2

[MyBoysBlue]

Just a Happy Update.  I went to visit my sister and my new nephew this weekend and he is staying intact.  Not because she was able to convince her BF to not circ but because he is on unemployment and here in Canada you have to pay for circ out of pocket.  He didn't have the $300 it would cost.

[MCatLvrMom2A&X]

: I am sorry he is unemployed right now but so thankful that he is staying intact. Hopefully down the road they wont go ahead with it if he can afford it.

[PatioGardener]

Originally Posted by MyBoysBlue 

Just a Happy Update.  I went to visit my sister and my new nephew this weekend and he is staying intact.  Not because she was able to convince her BF to not circ but because he is on unemployment and here in Canada you have to pay for circ out of pocket.  He didn't have the $300 it would cost.

Yay!

[hakunangovi]

Sorry about your sister's BF's situation, but I am really glad it saved their little guy.  I, too, hope that they get used to his intact status and start to see it as totaly normal.

[TyrantOfTheWeek]

Whoo-hoo! The universe was listening.

[mamatoeric]

hi Averysmomma -

I haven't searched the post, but guess that the baby is born and this saga has an ending. I still feel compelled to respond as this is an important subject. If I had it to do I would ask my sister if it would have been OK if our parents had decided to do the genital mutilation of having her clitoris removed at birth. If we quit calling it circumcision and called it genital mutilation, which it is, I think the point would be better made. I'm guessing, sisters response would be that it wouldn't have been OK. Then I would say that you are doing the same thing to your son in having foreskin removed, are you willing to significantly traumatize him and effect the quality of his sex life and is that really yours to have say over? Let him make his own decision when he is old enough to do so.

The sense of helplessness in watching something painful happen without having the sense that you can effect change can be very hard to endure. I hope this had a happier ending than the one you anticipated when you wrote the post.

Mamaoferic

[catholic74]

You said it in your original post....just hold on tight to your son and thank God you had the wisdom to keep him intact. He is a lucky little boy and you should be proud of yourself.  I sympathize with you.   It's hard.  It's really hard. I feel that way in general about all the sweet little boys in this country who have to undergo the knife. I want to scream too. I want to ask every pregnant mother if she knows better, if she's aware.

Someone said something I agree with strongly. It's the women, the mothers, who have to stand up for their sons. You can't rely on men to do it.  It's the only way.   A mother's  instinct to protect her infant must override any fear or intimidation from husbands. They will get over it.  

[Dan Bollinger]

Ask her to check out Circumcision Decision-Maker. It will take her through each of her reasons for wanting circumcision one at a time and then give her some expert opinion. It also has a lot of information on penis anatomy, how the foreskin develops, circumcision, and care of the intact penis including washing instructions.