My two week old son is staying intact and I am SO happy about it, but I feel torn about WHY he's staying intact. DH fought me big time about circ. #1 was circed in the hospital by choice of his birth mom. #2 was circed because we were young and honestly I did no research on it whatsoever and just did it because it just seemed normal (DH is circ'ed), when #3 was born, it just seemed like the right thing to do because his brothers & dad were circ'ed and honestly I didn't think it was worth fighting over. #4 is a girl. Two weeks ago we had #5, another boy. I just could not imagine circing another baby, so I told DH if he wanted it done, he needed to do it because I was not circing another baby. I rented Penn & Teller's B*llsh*t about circing because he loves that show, and I showed him the research, and he stood his ground... he admitted it was 100% for cosmetic reasons, and even said "I give you everything... I didn't want you to homebirth, but I gave you that because you felt strongly in favor of it.... I always supported you when you decided to breastfeed, cloth diaper, and co-sleep even though they were not always choices I agreed with. This is my ONE thing... and I want you to support me in this like I supported you in everything else".
So I reluctantly agreed.... but again told him he was going to be the one who takes him to the ped, I wanted no part in it. So his appointment is the day after tomorrow. Today I discovered our insurance only covered 90% of my hospital stay, and we have about $600-900 in bills coming up we were not expecting. We also won't have the $175 we needed on Wednesday because new year = new deductable. When we were going over the budget and realized we were over budget this month, DH said that "I guess we just can't afford it".
Why am I feeling torn?! I got my way, DS is staying intact, but I am worried it is for the "wrong" reasons. If Liam asks his daddy why his penis is different, I guess I am worried what he will tell him. Anyone else leave their son intact after circing 2 or more kids....? What did you tell them?