I've finally figured it out. It's not all about whether or not I give my kid any particular food or drink or group of foods, finding out who else is like that and why....
It's not about who all nurses like me, sleeps with their babies like I do, stays home like I do, and I don't have to do any of this JUST BECAUSE I am surrounded by people who do this or that and i happen to think in my own head that they are doing a better job at parenting than I am.
It might be true RIGHT NOW.
I don't have to let that define MY LIFE.
I don't have to discipline my kids the way someone else tells me I should. I HAVE TO do it the way I want to, and the way that is effective FOR US. Not YOU. Me.
I don't HAVE TO be with people who I don't think discipline their children at all, or who discipline MY children in a way *I* don't like. For ANY reason. I don't HAVE TO stay.
I don't HAVE TO do anything. What I do HAVE TO do RIGHT NOW is figure out what I want RIGHT NOW and how to get what I NEED *right now* to do the job I WANT to do RIGHT NOW.
The other garbage does not matter. We are ALL good parents who want the BEST for our kids no matter what decisions we are making RIGHT NOW. We are ALL doing it for what we think RIGHT NOW are the best reasons.
It really honestly does not matter what anyone else thinks about what I do in my own house. In MY life. With MY children that *I* birthed and am feeding from MY body.
Could I figure out a better way? Maybe. Am I pretty happy with it right now? Sure.
just hoping someone reads this that might need it RIGHT NOW. thanks.