What is your DH like after you give birth? - Page 2

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He didn't do anything. With DS1, I sort of couldn't blame him because he was completely overwhelmed by the reality of it all, and he also didn't get any time off. So he literally only took off the day I delivered(at no pay) and was back to work the next day. My BIL had to drive me home from the hospital. And DH was back to work and I was on full-time baby duty. At that point, I don't think I did a whole lot of cooking, since it was DH and I only, but I did some. And I was doing all the laundry and baby stuff. I was also back to work full-time at 3 weeks post-partum.

With DS2, I didn't work, and DH got two weeks off. He basically did his own thing, and I got right back to being a housewife and mom and all that. Baby duty, of course, cooking, cleaning, laundry, taking care of DS1. DH went to the gym and watched tv and saw it as a vacation.

It just... it's him. With DS1, I thought just a fluke. With DS2, nah, that's just how DH is!

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My DH was amazing after I had DD. He was at home with us for 2 1/2 months and for that whole time he told me take care of the baby and I will do the rest....and he did...the cooking, the cleaning, the laundry and even the diaper changes! He was absoluetly great!!

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My DH was home with me for two months.  The first few weeks he told me countless times how "amazing" I was during the birth of our son.  That was always wonderful to hear and made me so happy.  He was very helpful, waking up with me at every feeding for 2 hours each time (breastfeeding was extremely challenging in the early days), and pretty much did everything that I felt he should do.  It's an unspoken rule with us, we try to be as equal as possible with all aspects of life so luckily this was no exception.  We did get really really irritated with each other at about 2 weeks pp, but that was likely due to lack of sleep and all the new emotions.  That passed pretty quickly.

DH's helpfulness lasted pretty much the whole 2 months.  As I started to do more, or as the baby started to get into the groove of the house, DH spent his time getting us a new larger home and moving us into it. 

I hope the transition is as good the second time around.  I have a feeling it's going to be hugely challenging because DS1 will be 2.5, still nurses, and is such a mama's boy.

And I agree with the other posters that no, at 1 week pp you should definitely not be expected to be up and running the house like before.  That is an impossible expectation he has of you.

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Originally Posted by mommy22boys 

Is he more helpful, grateful, sympathetic? Just wondering how your Dhs treat you after giving birth. 

He's my ex now, but he was really, really good with taking care of the child(ren) I already had, for about three months. I really appreciated that. Other than that, things were pretty much the same as they were before.