We have DSS 1/2 time, Monday to Monday schedule, he is almost 12. Here we are a family of 5, there they are a family of 2 (mom recently divorced again).
The situation now is that we got dss a cell phone almost a year ago, he's on contract with our family plan, we don't have a lot of money but felt he needed one and have never asked her to help pay. Basically he has unlimited texting/phone. DH and Ex agreed that internet and picture/mulitimedia texting was not available until he's older. Our thinking was that he got a newish phone good for talking and texting ...camera etc. Pretty basic for his first real phone. We wanted to give him a chance to see how responsible he can be with it.
So, yesterday he comes back here with a brand new phone with multimedia texting and has basically switched over to that phone, on her plan.
We are pretty frustrated because of course he is going to use the new fancy phone but we have him on contract and we still have to pay for the other phone...and now he is telling everyone this new number so we are paying for a phone that he isn't using.
We are just so frustrated because she was fine with him having a phone, she didn't have one for him, but used the one we paid for all the time to text/call him (which is what it was for of course) now she puts him on a contract with her line and we are stuck paying for something he doesn't use, not to mention the stability of having one number for people to contact him on. This is usually how we communicate with him when he's not here.
I just don't understand why she would do this. Isn't it odd to have two phones, one for each house? What's wrong with a little stability for him?! I feel like she does this stuff to be the "cool" mom and just erases all boundaries we set, even if she initially agrees on them with us...she changes them to suit dss or when she feels insecure and wants to "1-up " us. I am really tired of this devisive crap, it's like whenever we say no to something she changes and says yes, almost to spite us. There really was absolutely no reason for him to have a new phone.
So do we drop it and just pay the bill? I feel like she's created a situation where he has to "choose" between households again. It's so sad and frustrating. I really thought we were getting to a better place. Darn.