Dss is 12, lives with us half time, I have been with DH for 11 years. When he makes a gift at school he makes one for each house as his teachers always know the situation. When he makes gifts they are for DH and I, and His mom and her husband when they were married. It's been that way for a long time.
This Christmas he made a present in class and when we went to open it I was informed that it wasn't for me, just DH. It wasn't anything extremely personal or geared towards a dad, a framed piece of art he did and a poem. The kids don't buy us gifts so these school-made gifts are the only gifts they give to us.
I have to admit, as silly and petty it may be, I was really hurt! I got choked up on the spot. He didn't seem to care one bit about my feelings just matter-of-fact told me it wasn't for me. I just don't know what happened this year that made it different than other times...or did he just forget about me?
I don't know, but it made me sad. Silly, I know. I just get tired of being the disposable parent ya know? I'm not trying to be a martyr, but I really do a LOT for him, put myself out there and sacrifice a lot to be a good stepmom, but sometimes it just doesn't seem to matter.
It almost seems that since his mom left her husband he has distanced himself from me so maybe that's it.
Okay, I'm done with my pity party, I just wonder if any other steps feel this way.