My DD has attended a homeschool co/op thing since kindergarten. So all she's known is 2 days a week with a small class and a teacher, and then me (and now brother) at home doing math, language arts, history 3 days a week. It's a great combo and she seems to thrive. But she is complaining a lot that she is not having fun. She mostly gets upset when she is challenged. I've been getting more and more basic with the curriculum thinking if she just felt confident enough she could be breezing through this stuff and not dislike it so much. I'd like to follow her lead more so that she could feel invested and enjoy it more, but she seems lost if I suggest this. And she really resists everything until she is doing it, then she sails through it and when I point out how easy it was she says yes, but she still didn't like it.
She and I butt heads in general. I feel like she puts up a big fuss because she knows I will adjust and bend over backwards in order to make it fun and happy and so she now puts up the fuss on purpose to get me to downsize her workload and let her off easy. That sounds bad - I really do try to keep things fun and use games and projects and activities. I would just love to see her engaged with something. To care about what she's learning instead of just do it because we have worn each other down to the point where she has to do it to get on with her day. I want her to have fun with learning, not hate me and hate school time. We were in a great rhythm til Thanksgiving and then we somehow got way off course. And her younger brother is doing kindy and picking up on her same resistant attitude.
Should I just back off and wait til she's interested in something?
Focus more attention on the brother's interests and see if she will decide to join in?
Let her pick from some project choices?
She's already "behind" in reading and it bothers her so I hate to let hings slide for too long, but I hate the way it feels around here right now.
ugh -- advice or encouragement welcome