GD Bookclub: Easy to Love, Difficult to Discipline

[happy1nluv]

FIrst book of the year:  Easy To Love, Difficult to Discipline by Becky A Bailey

Let's start reading... find a copy and join on in!  Anyone can join/read along/lurk... whatever works for you!

Currently:  Getting and starting the book...

Other books on the list - feel free to add:

Unconditional Parenting - Alfie Kohn

Kids Are Worth It - Barbara Coloroso

Raising Self Reliant CHildren in a Self INdulgent World - Glenn

Siblings without rivalry - faber/mazlish

How to Talk So Your Kids Will Listen and Listen so kids will talk - faber/mazlish

Simplicity Parenting

Playful Parenting by Larry Cohen - hands down the book that I use the most when I parent.

Kids, Parents & Power Struggles by Mary Sheedy Kurcinka

Becoming the Parent You Want To Be by Laura Davis & Janis Keyser

Mother Nature - Hrdy

The Natural Child - Hart

Parenting from the Inside Out - Siegel/Hartzell

The Emotional Life of the Toddler - Lieberman

Without Spanking or Spoiling - Crary

Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child - Gottman

What is Going on in There? - Eliot

Love and Logic (not sure which one - its a series?)

[happy1nluv]

Rollcall... if you want to introduce yourself, please do and I'll add it here (only if you want) so we can all see who's reading along..

Me:  happyinluv  - I'm a sahm in NJ who is just starting out on a homeschool journey. I find I'm a better mom when I'm reading a parenting book, and would love to have company along the way... DH isn't a reader and so doesn't get it when I want to discuss a situation as it pertains TO a book... 

Married to dh for 8+ years now :)

Kids:  ds1 - nic, 5

  ds2 - joe, 3

  ds3 - vin, 1

[happy1nluv]

So, I got the book and I just started it (like 3 pages in before I fell asleep).  I REALLY hope she follows through on her promises, because the intro sounds perfect! (how to change your behaviour so you childrens behaviour follows suit).  Hope it works... here's to a good read!!!

[mom2happy]

Im in.

I'll have the book in about a week.

I'll be lurking to get a heads up.

[hjdmom24]

I'm Holly. I live in WI. I'm a single mom to 4 very energetic, smart and challenging kids. I have 3 boys 12, 9, and 2 and a girl who is 5. I also do daycare from my home and care for two 2 yr old boys (one with special needs) and a 6 mo old girl. I have found myself slipping into old bad habits of yelling and timeouts with the kids...I don't care to parent that way and am looking forward to working through this book with everyone to get me back on track. I have read this book before but not actually done the work...I will start reading today!

[samstress]

Originally Posted by happy1nluv 

So, I got the book and I just started it (like 3 pages in before I fell asleep).  I REALLY hope she follows through on her promises, because the intro sounds perfect! (how to change your behaviour so you childrens behaviour follows suit).  Hope it works... here's to a good read!!!

i know, such a simple concept, but it makes so much sense.  i definitely have to become more disciplined (in certain things).

i'm sam from CA.  married with one dd (3 1/2) and one on the way (due in early may).  i'm recently unemployed (laid off in october).  i was working as a elementary montessori teacher, but low enrollment in the elementary class made it impossible for them to keep me (i was team teaching with one other teacher).  dd was attending the same school (and had been since age one) for free (one of the perks of working there).  so, now, not only am i unemployed, but dd is home with me (just can't afford to keep her there).  anyway, i'm looking for work, but with the current state of things (and being five months pregnant) i'm finding it difficult.  not to mention, i'm feeling guilty that dd is now stuck at home with me instead of at school with her friends where she was once thriving.  anyway, i've gotten off on a bit of a tangent.

i always enjoy having a parenting book to read and look forward to discussing it with you all.  this one seems to be a good first choice. 

[spirit4ever]

I'm already about 1/3rd of the way through Kids Are Worth It,  I'm going to see barbara coloroso in Feb, i don't want to stop, so I'll lurk until you start Kids Are Worth It!!!!

I have 3 kids,

ds1 who is 8 1/2

ds2 who is 6

and dd who is 2 1.2

I'm a work at home mom (run a govt home daycare), so I have 6 kids under the age of 6 that I care for..

[happy1nluv]

spiritforever - i am sooo jealous! I would LOVE to see Barbara COloroso!!!! 

I just finished chapter 1 and at the end of the chapter she talks about a 7 week program at the back of the book.... if there are any lurkers who have read the book already... do you know if you can do the 7 week program along with reading, or do you need to read it all the way through first?

[spirit4ever]

I'm excited too!! my dh doesn't understand why!! I lucked out, she's giving a seminar for the parents part of my daycare seminars that I'm attending!

[applecider]

I'll join!  I'm already about 3/4 of the way through it, although my library copy is due back so I need to buy it.  I'm glad you chose this book as the first one because it is the ONLY one that I have started and actually read most of even though I have most of the other books on that list.  I just couldn't really get into them.

I'm Sara, my oldest DS is 5.5 and my youngest DS is 2.  I like this book because it works on yourself as well and I believe that is where I need to start.  I grew up in a yelling (part time abusive) household and I have so much to unlearn!  I also like this book because all of the lessons she teaches roll over into all aspects of life.

[jensb]

I'm in. Currently I'm a SAHM and have been since Aug. Eventually I'll work part-time again. I can't wait to read this book (it's coming Fri).

[earthworm]

I'm in too. I'm still waiting for my copy to arrive in the mail. It has a pretty vague estimated arrival time (6th to 26th of january) so we'll see!

I'm a SAHM to a 19 month old and a nearly 4 year old. Age 3 has been trying (and exciting!), to say the least. :) I need more tools when it comes to discipline.

[petey44]

I'm in!  I've been stalking this book at my library for the past week- the only copy is due back on 1/25, hopefully it will be returned before then so I can start!!

I'm a WOHM to a 28 month old DD.  She's definitely getting to the challenging age, so it will be good for me to not only read about ways to keep my patience and deal with situations, but also to talk to others at the same time.  I'm also a teacher, and I imagine I'll be able to use a lot of what I learn in the classroom with my students as well.

Wait, none of you are using the book from the Pikesville, MD library, are you??  I'm afraid whoever has the book checked out will just renew it instead of returning it!

[happy1nluv]

petey4 - did you request it? if you did, they shouldn't be able to renew it...   at least, thats how it works here...one of the reasons i've donated so much to my library :)

[simple life]

I would love to join in.  I have the book, but in general lack the the follow through to finish, but having a group to read it with will be wonderful! 

I'm Julie, mom to Paul (3, almost 4!) and Dolores (1). I'm a sahm and have been married to DH for almost 5 years.

[julianito]

OK, I'm in. I pulled Bailey's book off my shelf and re-read the introduction (I read it when my son was 3; he's 5 now). I have been sliding into frustration and feeling bad over my DS's misbehavior. My boy is more challenging than most in certain situations (social or in public) so I feel like her emphasis on behavior as a learning opportunity will be helpful. I just hope I don't have to change myself tooo much ;).

[petey44]

Happy1nluv, I haven't requested it- maybe I'll do that, but I also just opened an email saying that I get 25% off at Barnes and Noble for the next week- some Educator Appreciation thing- so I'm thinking maybe I'll just buy it.  Especially if it's the type of book I can refer to again and again as DD hits different stages in life.

[petey44]

Ok, I bought it, read the first chapter- so far so good!  I like the emphasis on changing yourself, I do feel like that's key- with issues with my DH, I often recite "you can't change others, you can only change yourself" through my head over and over, so I think this book will be a good fit for me.  And, I also do think it will be something I can apply as a teacher with my students, so, bonus!!  A multiuse book!  I hope we can keep this book club going, because I think that when we get to the end and start on the 7 week plan, it will be helpful to have you all to talk through things with!!

[Polliwog]

I actually know Becky Bailey through my work and have almost all of her materials.  I especially love her CDs.  I've been to many workshops with her and have used her materials to train at least a hundred infant/toddler, preschool, and early elementary teachers. 

[rebirth]

I'd like to join, too :)

I'm Cheryl, mama to my 1 yr old, Noah. We're just now getting to the stage where I need some better discipline tools, although I have a lot of nanny-ing expereince (not specifically gentle).

I'm also a birth Doula, but mainly just mama.

I'll get the book and start it this week, hopefully tomorrow or Monday!